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How to build your confidence

Tips for growing your self-esteem

By Skulls And CauldronsPublished 3 months ago 4 min read

If you lack confidence, you're not alone in the world. There are plenty of people who battle with low self-esteem. Luckily, there are things you can do to beef up your self-confidence.

Confidence may come from looking good, and there are plenty of books and articles out there on how getting a fresh haircut and a new outfit, or even putting on a different shade of lipstick can change your whole outlook. I don't doubt that, but I want to delve deeper into ourselves to find this boost that is needed.

These are actions you can do to work toward more self-esteem that will stay with you. An outfit isn't permanent, but a new outlook on life can be.

Be more positive

The more positivity you have in your life, the more you'll attract. A happy person is less concerned about what other people think of them. More positivity in your life can also help reduce the stress you face in life.

Do what you can to start each day on a positive note so that you can step into the world feeling good about yourself.

Deal with your inner critic

One thing that may be standing in the way of your positivity could be your own inner critic -- that inner voice that has the crappy things to say and tries to talk you out of going for the things you know you deserve. It's a boost of confidence that can help quiet those voices.

So, where do those voices come from? Once you have that answer, you can be sure to deal with those past traumas and put your critic to bed. They may sneak back up on you from time to time, but now you'll have the experience you need to move through it with confidence and ease.

Practice gratitude

One of the keys to increasing your positivity is having more gratitude in your life. That's an easy one to accomplish -- probably the simplest on this list, in fact. And, gratitude boosts our confidence because it reminds us of all the good things in our lives.

Every one of us can think of at least one thing in life to be grateful for each day. Now, take those these you're thankful for and start writing them in a journal every morning. If you need a boost of positivity and gratitude later in the day, give your journal a flip-through to remind you of the things you have to be thankful for.

Create affirmations

Another great way to add positivity into your life is through affirmations. Your affirmations can remind you to ward off your inner critic. The right affirmations can make you feel like the biggest success ever.

"I am confident and positive." "I succeed at all the things I do." Just make a statement that is positive and starts with "I am" and you're on the way to being a pro at affirmations. Once you've picked some affirmations, say them daily. You can leave little notes around your home with them as reminders.

Try visualization

By seeing yourself as a confident person and succeeding at all you do, you work toward being that person in real life. Visualization is easy if you have an imagination. All you need to be able to do is see what you want. If you see it, you can be it.

Visualization is similar to meditation -- it's like a guided meditation. You are the guide and your imagination helps you embrace the Law of Attraction that helps you bring what you need into your reality. That includes self-confidence.

Organize your life

Being messy can seriously bring down your confidence. I find a disheveled home adds stress to my life, and that stress leaves me battling with who I am inside. Then, if someone stops by and my home is trash, I feel pretty bad. The same goes for a stain on my shirt I don't notice until I am in public.

Here's where I will momentarily mention that wearing something nice and doing your hair can be a great way to feel better about yourself, just the same as a clean home or clean office does. So, keep things in place and take care of yourself, and it may just help you feel better about yourself.

Surround yourself with the right people

Keep the people around who make you genuinely feel good about yourself. These are the people that make you smile, compliment (and complement) you. They are a great boost to the ego.

The folks who always seem to make you feel inferior are the ones you want to push out of your life. These people bring your confidence down and make it hard to boost yourself back up.


About the Creator

Skulls And Cauldrons

Skulls & Cauldrons LLC specializes in witchy tools and oddities & curiosities (handmade and curated), spellwork, oracle/psychic readings, paranormal investigation, intuitive life coaching, spiritual counseling, and more.

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  • Dharrsheena Raja Segarran3 months ago

    These were some very good tips. The hardest for me would be dealing with my inner critic but I'll keep trying!

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