Secret to attraction

Jeffrey's so full of limiting beliefs he

is so certain that he's gonna suck with

women forever but Jeffrey you know that

navigating your relationships with women

is a skill don't you but he won't listen

he's stuck with his fixed mindset

because of that Jeffrey never learns the

psychological secrets to attracting

women Adonis

Adonis attracts women just like

Pakistani men attract random back

searches how did Adonis get like this it

was all down to observing his father

navigate his relationship with his

mother and so growing into a man adonish

just imitating his father but then he

looked around and saw his generation of

men struggle to do this because they had

been raised in a fatherless home we need

to help them I got friendzoned by this

girl when I was around age 16. then the

story of it makes me cringe bro so I had

a crush on her she was like a girl in my

class I had managed to get her phone

number I think I also had the confidence

to just go up and ask for it and we end

up texting we go for a walk and this is

the only time that I met her outside of

class kind of awkward we're not like

holding hands or kissing or anything

like that I even remember we went past

like this park that had a pull-up bar

and so I like played around on it and I

told her like oh I'm going to try pull

up and she just didn't even want to try

like try attempting a pull-up or

anything which I found kind of like oh

that's you know she's not that fun of a

girl then eventually at the end of the

walk I walk her back to her parents

house and we stood outside I go in for a

hug and she like she spots himself

almost pushes me away and she's like I

don't like hugging people

we had plans after that to go watch

Guardians of the Galaxy the movie that

came out like a few years ago and she

texted me saying oh you know I think we

should just be friends

and I was heartbroken but then I texted

the box I'm like okay but do you still

want to go watch Guardians of the Galaxy

as friends this experience that I had

isn't even that abnormal like a lot of

young guys struggle to navigate their

relationships with women because you've

never really been taught this stuff

before and for the young guys out there

who haven't had the ability and

privilege to be able to just imitate

their masculine Father Figure then

you're starting from Ground Zero you

know it's only with new age modern

content like this where a young man who

hasn't had such a great father figure

can come in potentially see like a Roma

potentially I could be someone's role

model and then learn from like a

different masculine Father Figure and

you might have a limited belief that I

really want to help you destroy and

that's the belief of just thinking like

oh well I just suck with women I can't

change that you've got to see your

relationships with women your ability

your skill of dating like a skill so

remember the video games that we used to

play we used to have like characters and

skills that you could level up and you

level up by gaining XP experience in a

certain skill dating is a skill that you

can level up by gaining experience so

you've got to ask yourself what's your

your dating level imagine dating was a

skill in a video game what's your dating

level it's probably quite low and that's

why you're experiencing such negatives

of a low dating skill but when you have

a low level in a video game what you do

well you just train it and if you are

feeling a little hopeless in terms of

dating and you do have this kind of

fixed mindset where you're just so sure

that you can't change anything I urge

you to just consider this what would you

say to a fat guy who told you that he

was certain that he couldn't lose weight

what would you say to a fat guy who said

like oh well you know I've tried dieting

but like it's just too hard well he just

needs to try harder he needs to try

again and again and again it's not going

to be quick and easy for the fat guy to

eventually get into the Germany clean

but he is going to make small progress

here and there while still experiencing

you know those negatives of feeling like

he's not consistent he has to kind of go

through the trials and tribulations for

a couple of weeks months years before he

really looks at himself in the mirror

and realizes that now he's really jacked

and the same can be said for your dating

skill level like you have to go through

a bunch of these undesirable experiences

with girls like friend zone and you you

were you messing up and you're saying

something like stupid like you just mess

up and say some like autistic next

to this girl you have to kind of go

through like 50 or 100 situations like

that over the course of the next few

years to get better and better at dating

so I'm gonna teach you something here

that sounds pretty cringy but I promise

we'll make such a hugely positive impact

on your dates in life and it's talking

about the alpha male and the beta male

because you see inside of every human

being is our natural evolutionary

psychology and so that means what women

are attracted to today is still going to

be heavily influenced by what they were

attracted to in the Primal caveman days

and that is the alpha male girls are

attracted to the guy who displays traits

of the alpha male strength size

dominance confidence leadership a man

who can hold good eye contact a man

who's successful who's high up in the

status in the social hierarchy you

already know in your mind how to become

more of an alpha male bulk up go to the

gym be more disciplined achieve more

success in your business or your studies

because the alpha male is all about just

being at the top of the social hierarchy

or at least progressing in that

direction and I'm going to give you a

controversial piece of advice which so

many of these like soft modern day

YouTubers and all these guys who are

trying to help you will find offensive

but the truth is that if you want to

attract more women you need to

specifically be better than more men and

here's a very interesting note in the

modern day the alpha male is very

cultural and contextual that means that

the characteristics of the best guy of

the group is based on that group's

modern interest and societal like

Conformity essentially what this means

is that for you to be perceived as the

alpha male or the best guy or the guy

who's the highest up in social hierarchy

you have to kind of fit into that

group's interest so if you're a young

guy and you're in high school and you're

trying to attract other High School aged

girls chances are they're alpha male

it's going to be like the lean confident

Tick-Tock boy who's got nice hair and

who has like a lot of Clouts on like

Tick Tock and Instagram that lean Tick

Tock boy is considered the alpha male in

this group even though generally you'd

think the alpha male is like some big

hairy bearded guy in a bathrobe but it's

not the alpha Mill is not always the big

steroid meat head Dwayne Johnson kind of

look it's specifically about that

particular group in which that girl is a

part of and what they deem is like the

best man if a guy for example is in a

developing country which is way closer

to like survival and your necessity and

the alpha male there would be the

stereotypical like strong man who's

masculine who has a beard who can

provide so here's an actionable step

that you can take from this video to do

right now it's a journalism prompt and

you can do this right now so grab a

piece of paper and a pen or your notepad

on your phone and ask yourself the

question what kind of girl are you

interested in be totally authentic what

kind of girl are you interested in and

then ask yourself another question who

is her alpha male what kind of guy is

her alpha male so for me for example I

tell you my specific answer what kind of

girl am I interested in I want a girl

who's committed to her self-improvement

journey who's gonna get better and

better over time because I'm looking for

something serious now I want a girl who

goes to the gym every day I want a girl

who's totally on self-improvement

reading like the good books who meditate

and does yogurt needs clean then I asked

myself the second question who is her

alpha male if this woman on

self-improvement got to pick the best

guy she could who would he be well he'd

probably be the leader of a massive

self-improvement movements and so that's

exactly what I've become once you have

both answers with one describing the

woman that you want and then two

describing her alpha male

decide by yourself if you do want to

mold yourself more into this if that

feels kind of authentic and ambitious to

do so you shouldn't change yourself just

to please a woman but if you can see

this answer as improving the important

parts of your life then maybe you'll

want to go in that direction