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How to Read Anyone Instantly!

17 Psychological Tips

By Lorettah Charity ShihachiPublished 2 months ago 7 min read

How to Read Anyone Instantly – 17 Psychological Tips

17 Psychological Tricks for Instantly Reading Anyone

We are inundated with information the first time we meet someone new. Determining their personality can be challenging. For this reason, it's critical to comprehend HOW we communicate. Experts claim that body language accounts for 55% of our communication, voice tone accounts for 38%, and actual words account for only 7%.

This implies that in addition to what a person's looks could imply, we must consider these three things when we first meet someone.

Number 1 - Eye Contact

They often say that the eyes are the window to the soul. The key to knowing which kind of eye contact someone is giving you, is to consider the context. For example, if a person literally can’t take their eyes off you, it could mean there’s a romantic interest. On the other hand, when you look someone in the eye, and they can’t bring themselves to look back at you, it’s a sign that they’re either nervous, or they’ve got something to hide.

That said, if you’re talking with someone whose stare is making you squirm – especially if they’re very still and not blinking - something is definitely up, and they may be lying to you.

Number 2 - Eyebrows

If you want to see how comfortable a person is, take a look at their eyebrows! There are three main emotions that make your eyebrows go up: surprise, worry, and fear. Try raising your eyebrows when you’re having a relaxed casual conversation with a friend. It’s hard to do, isn’t it? If someone talking to you raises their eyebrows, and the topic isn’t one that would logically cause surprise, worry, or fear, it’s a sign that they’re feeling pretty uncomfortable.

Number 3 – Smile

When it comes to smiling, the mouth can lie, but the eyes can’t. Genuine smiles reach the eyes, crinkling the skin to create crow’s feet around them. People often smile to hide what they’re really thinking and feeling, so the next time you want to know if somebody’s smile is genuine, look for crinkles at the corners of their eyes. If they aren’t there, that smile is hiding something!

Number 4 - What They Say

If you’re meeting someone for the first time, and all they do is talk about their wonderful better half or praise their work colleagues, chances are, they’re a pretty decent person themselves. Studies show, that the more people rate others as being kind, polite, loving and well-mannered, the more likely they are to also possess these traits. However, the reverse is also true. Anyone backstabbing and describing others as manipulative and nasty, is more likely to have these traits themselves. It’s also possible that they have a history of depression or personality disorder.

Number 6 - Paralanguage

Paralanguage is nonverbal communication such as your tone, pitch or manner of speaking. Basically, it’s a fancy way of saying that you need to pay attention to how someone says something. For example, if someone is answering you in monotone, they’re most likely unattached to your concept and not interested. The use of sarcasm is another good example. When someone uses sarcasm, what the person means is actually the opposite of what the words say. So, pay attention to the emphasis they put on words and how they say it. It gives you a big clue as to what their true intentions are.

Number 6 - Side Glance

People that are warm and open to meeting you, will have their body facing you and they will look you in the eye. On the flip side, if you’ve just met someone and they immediately glance away to the side,this is a subconscious body language sign that means they are looking for an escape.

Number 7 - Frequent Nodding

Nodding is usually a sign that someone agrees with you. But, exaggerated nodding may signal anxiety, about approval. When you’re telling someone something, and they nod excessively, this means that they are worried about what you think of them, or that you doubt their ability to follow your instructions. On the other hand, frequent nodding could also be unconscious gestures that are cues for the other person to get a move on - just like when a person keeps looking at their watch or touches their car keys.

Number 8 - Chin and Jaw

When someone is trying to make a decision, they tend to rub their chin. They might be looking up, down, or to the side... It’s a sure sign that they are deep in thought. A clenched jaw is a sign of stress. Regardless of what the person is saying, this indicates a considerable level of discomfort. The conversation may be heading toward something they’re anxious about; or their mind may be elsewhere, and they’re focusing on the thing that’s stressing them out.

Number 9 - Posture

How someone carries themselves can give you some indications about their self-confidence. For example, if someone is walking upright with their shoulders back and looking straight ahead, that gives the indication that they feel good about themselves and have confidence. However, if someone is slouching over and looking at the ground when they walk, that gives a much different impression. It may not necessarily mean that they have low self-esteem, but that’s the message it gives off.

Number 10 - Rubbing Hands

It is believed that the hands broadcast what the head is thinking. When a person is rubbing their hands together, generally it means that they have a positive feeling about something. People usually do this when they are hopeful about something good coming up in the future, and they’re excited about it.

Number 11 - Handshake

You can tell a lot by a person’s handshake. Soft and flabby - and they are likely to be submissive or a pushover. Too hard and crushing - and they are possibly domineering types. The length of time is also important. Too long and it’s weird, but too short could indicate some form of conflict. It’s possible that the person does not want to make a deep connection with you. But, it could also mean that they don’t have much time.

Number 12 - Leaning in, Or Away

If a person leans in toward you, it’s a clear indication that they are interested in what you have to say. What you might not know, is that it’s also a sign of respect. When people come closer and lean in toward you during a conversation, it shows that they want to confide in you. It makes you feel trustworthy and valued. If someone leans back however, they show that they are tired of the conversation, or perhaps they feel uncomfortable for some reason.

Number 13 - Holding The Baby

Ok…this might seem like a strange one, but it’s good to know.

If you’re meeting someone for the first time, and they just happen to be a new mother, look at what arm they use to hold the baby. Studies show that happy moms tend to hold their babies in their left arm. While stressed and depressed mothers usually hold their babies in their right arm.

Number 14 - Crossed Arms and Legs

Have you ever had a conversation with someone who crossed their arms or legs while you were talking to them? If you’re on a first date, or if you’re trying to pitch someone a new idea, it’s not a good sign. Crossed arms and legs are physical barriers that suggest the other person is not open to what you’re saying. Even if they’re smiling and engaged in a pleasant conversation, their body language tells the story. Psychologically, crossed legs or arms, signal that a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically blocked off from what’s in front of them.

On the same note, the direction of someone’s feet are also quite revealing. A person that likes you, will have both feet facing in your direction.

However, if their feet shift toward the door, it means they’ve had enough and want to leave.

Number 15 - Shoes

A person’s shoes can tell you a lot about their personality. Apparently, we all make judgments about people’s shoes, but studies show that they are pretty accurate.

- Nervous people will have new or very clean shoes

- Amiable types will wear practical shoes - Calm people have an affinity for uncomfortable shoes - And aggressive people wear ankle boots

Just take a look at your own shoes.

Does your personality type fit in with them?

Number 16 - Overall Appearance

How someone dresses and presents themselves can say volumes about them. If the person has their hair in place, their clothing pressed, and they show attention to style, they may be very detail oriented. Someone with a more casual wardrobe or “bed head” might be creative, or just messy. And then take someone who looks unkempt and smelly - they could simply be a really lazy person.

Number 17 - Copying Body Language

If you’ve never tried to read people before, this is something you probably haven’t noticed.

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