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I am a hands-on Holistic Massage therapist in Dubai. Book me via email at [email protected]. Many people fall into the habit of repeating sexual scripts. Every time, sex looks the same, with some kissing, possibly some oral, and then a person with a penis thrusting furiously into a person with a vagina until the latter orgasms. Learning to break free from these scripts can open up entirely new worlds of pleasure, sensations, and uniquely linked experiences. Exploring tantric sex and, specifically, tantric massage, is one way to throw all the restrictions out the window. What happens during a tantra massage and how to offer one to your partner are described in this article.
What is Tantric Massage?
Tantric massage is a type of massage or bodywork that is based on tantric concepts, an ancient spiritual practice that originated in Central and Southeast Asia. Tantric massage, as practiced in the West today, entails massaging and stimulating the entire body, with a special focus on sensitive parts such as the penis and vulva. Tantra massage is commonly referred to simply as an erotic massage, despite the fact that it also includes breath work, meditation, and mindfulness and is not always sexual. Tantric massage also has a spiritual and energetic component, in which the practitioner or provider assists the receiver in moving his or her energy throughout the body in order to facilitate inner healing.
Tiffany Tanner, a tantra teacher and massage therapist in Arizona, tells mbg, "Unlike other forms of massage, this sacred technique contains the tantric essence of shakti, or energy." "When this universal force is skilfully incorporated into a massage, it has the ability to touch the innermost layers and features of a human being, and it can be a tremendous instrument of spiritual and emotional healing."
Tantra has its roots in ancient Hindu, Buddhist, and Jain traditions, while most tantra taught and performed in the West is neo tantra, a modern modification that emphasises sacred sexuality above other spiritual and religious aspects of traditional tantra. "The experience we offer is not designed for the tantric purist," explains Genevieve Duarte, a tantric massage specialist at White Lotus East in New York. "This experience might serve as a starting point for anyone interested in exploring and committing to tantra's more conventional teachings."
What happens during a tantra massage?
Depending on the venue, what happens during a tantric session at a massage studio or spa centre will vary substantially. Tantric massage, in general, entails massaging and stimulating a person's entire body, including the genitalia, while engaging in breath work, meditation, and other spiritual or energy practices. The yoni massage (which focuses on the vulva), the lingam massage (which focuses on the penis), and massaging the sacred spot are all examples of tantric massage (aka the prostate).
Tantric massage can be done at home with a partner as a method to integrate a slower, more deliberate, more intimate style of sensuality into a couple's sex life.
It is possible for people to orgasm during a tantric massage, but it is not the purpose. Tantric massage is about surrendering to pleasure, eliminating energetic barriers and stress, and spiritually connecting with another person. Tantra massage does not normally include intercourse, though it can be incorporated into a tantric sexual experience between two people.
How to give a tantric massage?
It's a good idea to study a little bit about tantric principles in general before attempting to perform a tantric massage, since this will guarantee you are approaching the experience from a place of holy connection and intentional pleasure.
According to Duarte, the following are the most important aspects of a tantric massage:
Being able to receive pleasure without feeling obligated to reciprocate for the person.
For the giver, it is being willing to give pleasure without expecting anything in return.
Learning to read the partner's body language and appreciating the importance of touch for the provider.
For both, it was a case of losing track of time.
Each spouse is driven by a great desire to make the other happy.
In order to prepare for the encounter, maintain good personal cleanliness.
"It's often difficult for someone to articulate how they want to be touched," she tells mbg. "And many individuals are inadequate in the way they touch one another." "To touch someone in the way they want to be touched takes time, practice, and openness."
Instructions for specific types of tantra massage can be found below. You can do these with or without a companion.
What is Lingam Massage?
The purpose of a lingam massage is to honoring and pleasing the penis:
Laying on their back in a comfortable posture with their legs wide and knees bent, get the penis owner to relax. Remind them to take deep breaths throughout the activity.
As you inhale, send loving energy to them, and as you exhale, transmit arousal energy to them.
Start by lubricating and massaging their penis by sliding your hands up their thighs, pubic bone, and perineum.
Massage the testicles gently and softly. You can gently pull them, cup them in your hands to fondle them, or softly scratch them with your fingernails.
Vary your grip, stroke sequences, and twisting motions as you massage the shaft. Vary the number of hands used, from one to two, and from slow to quick.
Allowing them to reach a climax is a bad idea.
Keep them on the verge of orgasm, as it's termed.
Stimulate their sacred place, commonly known as the prostate, if they're comfortable.
Allow your companion to climax with an ejaculation orgasm when they're ready.
What is Yoni massage?
The vulva is honored and pampered with a yoni massage:
Allow the vulva owner to lie down on their back in a comfortable position, with a pillow under their hips, knees up, and feet on the ground.
Assist them in being more aware of their breathing.
To gradually increase arousal, begin with a body massage or tantric breast massage (see below).
To stimulate the clitoris, move to the vulva and alternate between circling, pushing and pulling, tugging and rolling, tapping, and G-spot massage.
Encourage your partner to lean in for many waves of orgasms by practicing edging or leaning in.
Tantric breast massage
Tantric breast massage, also known as nipple massage, is simply tantra massage applied to the breasts:
Use candles, incense, or music that makes your partner feel sensual to set the mood.
Remind them to concentrate on their breathing during the experience, taking long, deep breaths.
Drizzle some oil in the centre of their chest, between their breasts, and across their stomach.
Before moving on to the breasts, start by massaging the tummy to stimulate sexual energy.
Apply a feather-like touch to the breasts before rubbing and squeezing them.
Move to the nipples with tracing, pinching, and rolling once their body is begging for it.
Massage their body up to the neck, head, and scalp as they get close to climax.
Allow them to undulate their spines and sway their hips to elicit excitement throughout their entire body, resulting in waves of pleasure.
Tantric sex, in my experience, is as much about the mindset as it is about the physical techniques: "It's about wholeheartedly celebrating the sacredness of our bodies and desires while bringing a quality of mindful awareness to the shared expression of pleasure.