Workplace Experience｜Several suggestions to help you overcome anxiety and adapt to changes

1. The only constant is "change"

One thing that happened to me frequently this year: I changed my job, changed my business line, changed my city of residence, moved three times, and caught up with the repeated epidemics. I worked from home for nearly three months.

In fact, many people don't like changes, they always want to find a stable and quantifiable goal, and then work hard in the way they have always been good at. This is certainly not wrong, but it is a kind of habitual thinking of a student.

Facing uncertainty calmly and constantly mobilizing subjective cognition and resources to solve new problems can help you truly progress and mature. And this is the norm of life.

Look back every now and then and you'll see that these changes weren't all accidental. Every step you take is a cause. The following suggestions are given to you, hoping to help you overcome anxiety and adapt to changes.

2. Finding "certainty" in change

Ultimately, it's not that we hate change, but the "uncertainty" that change brings, because "uncertainty" is often the cause of anxiety.

How do you create certainty for yourself in the midst of change? It's actually quite simple: split the problem, split it, split it, and take the first step.

For example, a friend often told me: I want to change jobs recently, but I can't find the position I like, I feel that I am not capable enough, and I have no idea where to start when I need to supplement my portfolio. I am really anxious.

In fact, if you take it apart, "changing jobs" is just a few things:

Pick a job position - organize your portfolio - keep interviewing - and other aspects that don't need to be considered for the time being.

Among them, the "selected jobs" can also be dismantled:

Find ways and channels - self-awareness and positioning - understand the sunrise industry and so on.

And the "find ways and channels" can also be dismantled:

Use a reliable recruiting app - help social circles - company recruitment official website, etc.

Of course, you can continue to dismantle until you assign yourself a definite command and take the first step.

3. Establish an "inner loop" in certainty

After most people start the first step, they are still habitually worried, worried about future disappointments, worried about possible mistakes, and worried about other people's pointing.

This kind of worry is natural, and we all care more or less about what others say. My way of overcoming this worry is to build my own "inner loop", which is to find each stage:

Goal + Metrics + Approach

The goal here refers to the "true goal", that is, the goal you really need to achieve to do this thing. And some seemingly subjective and unrealistic expectations and thoughts are actually "pseudo goals" that interfere with you.

For example, nervousness when you're interviewing for a new job may stem from these worries: Will I make it through the interview? Are you playing your best form? What other people will say about my appearance, etc. From this, some "pseudo goals" were born: I must successfully complete the interview, perform my best, and maintain my best appearance at all times.

But in fact, these "pseudo targets" are interference items. The "true goal" of your interview should be: to demonstrate your ability to match the position and get the job.

After determining the "true goal", you can set "index" for it: if the job interview requires you to have rich user data analysis skills, then your index can be at least 30% of the portfolio's explanation. Demonstrate data analysis skills.

If you judge that you have not reached this target in the process, you need to use "methods", such as: add another work case of user data analysis, or talk more about your understanding of data analysis.

The "inner cycle" composed of goals + indicators + methods will keep your self-consciousness moving in the right direction, keep clear and introspective, and you will easily enter a state of "flow", persistent Focus on accomplishing your goals without distractions, helping you overcome unnecessary worries.

4. "Quality change" is more important than "quantitative change"

Many motivated students believe that progress is "trying to be better every day than the day before". Ali also has a local saying: "The best performance today is the lowest requirement tomorrow".

I used to agree with this statement, but now I don't think it is necessary.

Mr. Ma Weidu mentioned a point in a certain program. He said that it is not "continuously achieving better results" that is called progress. In many cases, what you need is "correcting mistakes".

Correcting the wrong direction the day before and slowly adjusting the direction to the correct one is itself a kind of progress.

For example, the lion on the grassland is chasing the zebra, the lion starts from point A, and the zebra is at point B. The lion runs to point B, but the zebra is already running to point C.

During the chase, the zebra kept changing positions, and the lion kept following the zebra's position to correct its direction. Eventually the lion caught the zebra at point D. In this process, each step of the lion is correcting the wrong direction of its previous step, and it does not need to bury its head all the time to accelerate, because its goal cannot be static.

It can only capture the target in the end only by constantly correcting itself following the target. Any acceleration is likely to be wasted until it is corrected to the correct direction.

We are the same. The environment we live in is diverse and our goals are dynamic and changeable. It is very important to learn to correct yourself according to your goals and circumstances.

Doing more/better every day than the day before is a [quantitative] improvement that doesn't necessarily help you reach your goals.

And when you don't get there, you're usually more frustrated because you've put in so much effort and your acceleration will wear you out physically and mentally.

Correcting/adjusting your own problems every day is the progress of [Quality Change]. This progress will allow you to better lock in your goals, accumulate experience more effectively, and finally achieve your goals.

Even when you still don't reach your goals, you won't be too frustrated, because you won't be exhausted in the process, and you will gain a gradually better version of yourself.