Retirement: Introverts vs Extroverts
Retirement Think About It
Retirement: Introverts vs Extroverts
Retirement: we can’t wait for it. We count the days, the months, and in my case, the years. I didn’t have a monthly calendar; I wanted a big yearly calendar, so I could see each day as it went by. When we are young, we start thinking about retirement when it cuts into our activities at night. It’s hard as hell to go to work after partying into the night. You end up dragging yourself to work, only for the boss to yell, “You have to stay late because you’re late!” The years go by, and retirement is front and center in conversations at the water cooler. Retirement is the reward after spending years having a boss to tell you what to do.
We can’t wait for the retirement party, and the well-wishers wishing you good luck. Then one day, it’s time. You gather your belongings, and off into the retirement world you go.
We hear all the time about the money aspect of retirement ("you need x amount of money to retire"), but we don’t hear a lot about the mental aspect of retiring. Retirement is great for the extroverted person who has lots of friends beyond work. It's great if you are a social person who likes to go out on a regular basis. Retirement might not be so good for the introverted person whose only social outlet is work, whose coworkers are their only friends, and who, at the end of a work day, is going home to a lonely house. That person who can’t wait for the next work day should maybe pump those retirement brakes. The retiree who lines up at the bus stop for that trip to the casino could just be lonely, and that is their only way to be around people. The casino-bound retiree might have never gambled a day in his life, but sitting on a bus surrounded by people is better than sitting at home all alone. You can usually tell who these people are, because they start a conversation with anybody who takes that seat next to him/her. This does have ramifications, because gambling can put a retiree on a fixed income in a financial crisis.
The main conversations we have while working are about work; we talk shop. When we retire, that conversation stops; you aren’t in the loop anymore. The people you worked with could have moved on, and there are new people at the job whom you don’t know. One day, you realize the telephone is no longer ringing from the people you worked with, so you call. The conversation is strained; there’s a lot of silence. This is when you realize that your relationship with your work friends is over. For the extroverted person, this is no big deal, because they have an outside life, but for introverts, this could be a horrible realization. You think, "What should I do now?" You clean the house on Monday, you clean the house on Tuesday, you clean the house on Wednesday, you clean the house on Thursday, you clean the house Friday, you clean the house on Saturday, and you clean the house on Sunday. The house is white-glove clean, but with nothing else to do, you start the ritual all over again. The next week, you watch every show you had meant to watch, but couldn’t because you were working. There are times you wish you never retired, because this isn’t all people make it out to be.
Retirement is hard on the introverted person. If you know someone who was an introvert at work, more than likely that’s not going to change with retirement. It’s not so much that the introvert wants to be alone, as that the person has to get comfortable in a new setting. If they start to go to the casino, the first time might be awkward, but as he/she goes more often, their comfort level increases, and so do their interactions with other people. The conversations might be casino-related; for introverts, that could be all that’s needed to make themselves comfortable.
I’m just using the casino as an example, but it could be senior groups, YMCA programs, cruises, anything that can that bring about social interaction.
Retirees have enough to worry about, like money (unless you’re rich), and whether Social Security will be around for their entire lifetime. Money is a big issue, because it comes monthly instead of biweekly or weekly. You have to stretch the dollar to last for a month, and with the price of food, there’s no room for goodies, just the necessities. Your savings start dwindling, because the price of everything keeps going up and your check goes down faster. There are also more health issues as you age, and dealing with those alone is never good. You begin to realize that death is a closer reality than life, because the people you know are passing away at an alarming rate. There is an overwhelming sense of loneliness if you’re an introvert.
Retirement is great if you’re an extroverted person who is very sociable, but if you are an introvert, think about it. You should prepare not just financially, but also mentally. You need to think about what you are going to do, and start doing that before you retire. If you don’t have a hobby while working, it doesn’t just come about when you stop working. Start pursuing that hobby while you're still working. Join a club, or better yet, create a club. Join a group to get the feel of what it's about. You should visit family, but don’t make yourself a pest. Take care of the grandkids until they get on your nerves. The point is to plan ahead, and be honest in your assessment of yourself and what you’re capable of doing. There’s only so much house cleaning to do.
About the author
I am a retired from working at the Defense Department and i am also a vet. I live with my spouse and 2 dogs. We have a e-commerce store Uniquethingsthingsonline.com. We live in Florida now but came from New Jersey. I am writing a teen book