Your marriage or relationship could be failing because of these reasons.

In today’s society many marriages and relationships are ending because the basic principles that relationships are built on have diminished. With modern technology and the new ways of living in the last decade has given us great pleasure, it has also caused damage on the core principles of what is needed to make a relationship last. Families are now eating their meals in their living rooms and bedrooms with their eyes glued to their cellphones and tablets. Families are no longer sitting at the kitchen table having conversations. Over a period of time that become the new normal and the communication goes down. Along with communication, trust, and financial issues are all reasons why relationships do not last anymore. You have more marriages and relationships ending in divorce or are afraid to even seek commitment because of the fear of failing.

In any type of relationship, you have to treat it like it is a full time job that you are working because that is exactly what it is! You cannot expect good results if you do not put in the work or effort to make it work. Just like you are working on a job, you cannot expect to have achievements on your job or get promoted if you doing below satisfactory work. I was married to a woman a few years ago and in the beginning everything was great. We was in the honeymoon stage of our marriage everything was fresh and new. But after a few months had passed by, we had begun to become distant with each other. I was in the military at the time and worked some weird hours do to the job that I had chosen. So with me not having a set schedule, made things difficult. Shortly afterwards my ex-wife begin to make friends and follow her own ambitions which left us no time for our marriage. We had stopped making time for each other. I realize that our communication was not to same and conversations was becoming repetitive. There was no substance in our dialogue it was just the daily routine talk (How was your day, anything on your mind? etc.) That have become are conversation for a long time. The highlight of our conversations daily was what had happened on each other jobs during the day. We stopped doing activities together such as going out, watching TV together, anything dealing with us. Only time that we would have any type of decent discussion was if it was about handling something financially. It felt like we were more of acquaintances then us being husband and wife. The physical and emotional interaction had faded away.

Trust and loyalty is another area that will cause your relationship to end if not made priority. It’s just like the old saying go “without trust you do not have anything”. Society today, especially with the younger generation of people are so fascinated on being with multiple people or having a secret lover on the side that people are starting to believe that it is normal to be in a relationship and still have another lover they are dealing with as well. Once one of the two people in the relationship lose the trust in the other, it is often hard to try and recover the trust that was lost between the two. The partner that was cheate on, often revisit the pain that occurred from the incident and it normally takes time to pass to let go of the incident. In some cases the infidelity may cause the spouse to act in the same nature and cause more issues for couple.

Financial worries can cause major issues for couples, if the finances are not in order the household will have issues as well. Do to the worry of the lack of money being brought into the home couples often get into arguments. What specifically cause the arguments for the families? Issues could stem from not managing your money right or lack of income coming into the home. Stress about how the bills are going to get paid, or if the husband or wife spending all the money on unnecessary things makes for trouble between the two. Some partners step out and have affairs because they are not financially happy and may look for help from other people. Before committing into a serious relationship a financial understanding should be had between the too. One person cannot take care of another if they can’t even take care of themselves. Finances should be in order or at least spoke about before getting into a serious relationship where they may share a home together. Any type, of relationship takes time and effort to make it successful communication is the key component to it. Finances and loyalty all goes hand and hand with communication.