You will understand, the real loneliness is not the absence of friends, but the absence of these three things

Human beings are social animals, no one can live in isolation, we all need to deal with people, need people to accompany us, need to talk to people, to solve the loneliness of the heart.

For the word "loneliness", we are rejected from the bottom of our hearts, eager to be lively, eager to be social, eager to communicate between the heart and the heart, and will try to solve loneliness.

Mention "loneliness". Most people will simply interpret it as "apparently alone". As long as a person is alone, they will feel that he has no friends and he is very poor.

But in fact, nowadays more and more people begin to enjoy the life of a person and think that low-quality social interaction is not as good as high-quality solitude, they are not passive alone, but actively choose to be alone.

So, loneliness is never as others are defined, more is the so-called alone cannot be simply defined as "without a friend," although some people often alone, but are in their world, the inside of the heart will feel very full, and some people seemingly side often revolve around a lot of people but often feel lonely heart.

In the future, I will understand that real loneliness is never the absence of friends, but the absence of these three things.

Life without goals, often feel confused

There is a saying: life if there is no dream, and salted fish have what difference?

A person is always to have dreams and goals, there is a distance in the heart, will not be afraid of wind and rain, firmly towards that direction to go, the heart will feel full.

A person who has no purpose in life is like duckweed in the sea. It will drift wherever the waves blow it, letting life drift and drift around.

Every day is a muddle-through, working a leisurely job, and going to work every day is looking forward to the end of the day, as long as the work is done, get paid, have no ambition, and have no planning.

Go to work to touch fish, encounter the task as far as possible to escape, to the point of off work, after work is still a pastime to live, life is meaningless.

Some people look brilliant life, always very busy, is someone to accompany, do everything but it will still hear them complain about life boring, whereas some people will be alone after work, read a book, learn professional knowledge, or learning a skill, enhance the ability of self, although always alone, never feel lonely.

There is a kind of loneliness is no goal and direction in the heart, and one often feels confused, and this confusion is no more friends can solve.

Without any interests and hobbies, I feel that life is boring

A person who has no interest and hobbies, the day is boring and boring, what to do can not lift the spirit, the whole person will feel very decadent.

Life is the same, every day gives us the same 24 hours, but some people will live a lively life, some people's life is not interesting, mainly because of the support of interests.

People in this life there are a lot of things are not able to control, there will be a lot of forced helpless moments, all people are to break silver a few two to make a living, need to bear the pressure of life, need to deal with personnel disputes, deceit.

Most people can not be engaged in their favorite work, but to earn money, support the family, and work everywhere endure, there are too many unhappy.

But the good news is that life is not only about work, it is also about poetry and distance. Outside of work, we can choose what we like and decorate our lives in the way we like.

You can take up a hobby, arranging flowers, painting, dancing, writing, reading, anything, not to make money, not to please anyone, just to please yourself, and that's good enough.

A person without interests and hobbies, it is difficult to find the beauty of life, only left to survive, will feel that life is boring, and the lonely heart has no place.

No one can heart to heart, feel that no one understands their own

A person's biggest loneliness, although there are a lot of people around, often feels only a person, throughout all the people around, found that no one can heart to heart, no one knows their own.

The biggest request of a person's life is nothing more than a "understand" word because someone knows and feels the heart is filled with warmth, but also because not understood and feel a piece of a cold heart.

Most of the time, the so-called lively, just for lively, is the so-called "carnival is a group of people alone, alone is a person's carnival".

There seem to be a lot of people around, but in fact, they are just some fair-weather friends, only to eat, drink and be merry, no one can share things, no one is willing to share.

No matter how many false friends are, are not as precious as a bosom friend. Friends in the essence are not more, a person is lonely, never to the surface of the number of friends to judge, but to a "understand" word as a bridge.

As long as there is a person who can heart to heart, whether it is relatives, sisters, or the lover around, then you will feel the soul has a resonance, the mind has a place to tell, such a person is enough, do not necessarily have to pursue some false affection.

Sanmu Qing said: that loneliness is not in the mountains but in the streets, not in one person, but min any people.

The real loneliness is not living alone, nor unaccompanied, but clearly looks like life is very lively, but still feel especially lonely in the heart.

The real loneliness of a person is never without friends, but without the above three things. Such a day is the biggest loneliness.