You Might Have An Intimate Problem

Life as a couple seems monotonous, you feel that the passion is no longer the same, the intimate pleasure has decreased, sometimes you even feel pain during the intimate act. You may suffer from intimate dysfunction! Find out everything below!

What does intimate dysfunction mean?

An intimate problem arises when you feel that love parties do not satisfy you as before and you start to lose interest in the pleasure of two.

You begin to suffer from an intimate dysfunction when you are not aroused, the penetration and the act are painful or you cannot reach absolute pleasure.

However, if in discussions with your girlfriends you realize that one of them has a much more active or pleasant intimate life, it does not necessarily mean that you have a problem.

There is no normal and abnormal level for the intimate response, because it differs in each woman, depending on the mental, physical, and anatomy of the body.

Also, you can't compare love during your youth with love after the age of 50. 

Intimate dysfunctions in women are anorgasmia (lack of orgasm), dyspareunia (pain during intercourse), anaphrodisiac (lack of desire, frigidity (reluctance to have sex), and vaginismus (uncontrolled spasms of the intimate area in women that make penetration impossible).

80% of women experience an intimate problem throughout their lives.

How do you know you have an intimate problem?

If you answer YES to at least 3 of the following questions, then you have an intimate problem or suffer from intimate dysfunction.

1. Do you feel like you don't want to make love as much?
2. Are you very aroused?
3. Do you feel pain in your intimate area when you make love?
4. Has the relationship with your partner changed for the worse?
5. Do you have little time just for the two of you together?
6. Do you have unpleasant memories related to love or intimate moments?

What are the causes of intimate dysfunction in women?

A woman's intimacy is an interesting mix of mental, emotional, and physical impulses. The conclusion? A problem with one of the impulses disrupts the whole love mechanism.

For example, the mental impulse generates the fear of pain, the mental impulse turns the fear into real pain, and the pain can lead to the feeling of guilt that you and your partner no longer have a satisfying intimate life.

Starting from this premise, the causes of intimate dysfunctions are:

Psychological causes (stress, depression, irritability, lack of communication in the couple, physical appearance that does not satisfy you, fear of a certain disease);

Physical causes (hormonal fluctuations, pregnancy, menopause, lack of lubrication, intimate infections, irritations of the sensitive area, thyroid disorders, arthritis, endometriosis, drug treatments);

Aging (aging gradually decreases the intimate desire and changes the appearance of the intimate area);

Losing a partner (no matter why your boyfriend is no longer in your life, breaking up with him can block your desire to make love for a long time);

Social and cultural influences (social pressure in some communities can influence women to avoid falling in love, while in other parts of the world intimate education and medical services for a healthy intimate life are very little or not at all promoted). );

Alcohol and drug use (in small quantities, alcohol and drugs remove the inhibitions related to love, but once consumed regularly, they lead to a decrease in intimate desire and especially to a lack of pleasure).

What are the symptoms of an intimate dysfunction?

In general, the symptoms of an intimate dysfunction include:

• decreased or lack of desire;
• a low level of arousal or the impossibility to get aroused as before;
• lack of pleasure after an intense stimulation;
• pain during intercourse.

Do not forget! If there is a small change in your intimate life, it does not mean that you have a problem! Everything turns into a problem when it steals your attention from your relationship with your partner and radically changes your intimate life. The problem turns into intimate dysfunction when your body no longer responds in the same way to love stimuli.

How are intimate dysfunctions diagnosed and what doctors are recommended?

The doctors you need to consult for a competent opinion and an effective treatment are the gynecologist, the psychologist, or the urologist.

You may even seek the advice of your family doctor first, as such dysfunction may be caused by a particular condition or medication you are undergoing.

The doctor will ask you various questions, will do a routine physical check-up, and will help you choose the best treatment. It may be difficult at first to talk openly about such a problem, but think that once you ignore the problem, you will ruin your relationship more and more.

What is the treatment of an intimate dysfunction?

Dysfunction can be treated only when it is fully aware, and the treatment depends on its cause. For example, psychological causes can be combined with physical causes, and treatment is more complex. Effective treatment also implies a sincere, relaxed relationship with the doctor, ideally even to come to the consultation with your partner.

In total, the treatment includes:

• treatment of physical ailments;
• changing the drug treatment you are already following (if necessary);
• regulating hormone levels;
• counseling and education regarding intimate signals and impulses;
• cognitive behavioral therapy;
• therapy;
• practical tips to implement at home.

Your doctor may even advise you to take relaxing baths with your partner, to use aphrodisiacs, lubricants, and toys, or to try different intimate positions.

How can you treat a problem without your doctor's help?

Once you receive the doctor's advice, you will notice that a large part of the treatment depends exclusively on you and your partner, on the changes for the better that you will try in two.

Here are 10 moments that you must put into practice at home, to change your love life for the better!

1. Before you start a love game, take a bath together full of foam and aphrodisiac aromas.
2. Enjoy the foreplay more and try to stimulate other areas than the ones you are used to.
3. Communicate with your partner, tell him what you like and don't like, where you would like to be caressed or kissed.
4. Use aphrodisiacs, lubricants, and toys. Experiment and find out what you like.
5. Try the massage with aromatic oils.
6. Try new positions.
7. Masturbate, alone or with your partner, using a vibrator or your partner.
8. While making love, listen to music slowly, use erotic videos, or spontaneously express your fantasies.
9. Try Kegel gymnastics exercises to develop and strengthen the muscles of the intimate area and the entire pelvic area.
10. Always think how wonderful it will be, how fulfilled you will feel if your intimate life will improve!

Did you know that…

• 6 out of 10 women ask questions about their privacy?
• 2 out of 10 women are not interested in love?
• 1 in 10 women feel pain during intercourse?
• 5 out of 10 women find it hard to please and 1 out of 10 women can't have it at all?