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Understand Loneliness and See How You Can Get Over This Terrible Feeling

Are you lonely?

By Hester SchneiderPublished 2 years ago 3 min read
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Understand Loneliness and See How You Can Get Over This Terrible Feeling
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Loneliness is the worst feeling a person can experience. Even if he is fooled by a movie, wasting hours on TV, even if he deceives himself by telling stories in the company of an old dog, the man is designed to love, live and be in the company of someone, a person capable of answering back with the same feelings.

Otherwise, he does not lead a healthy life. Emil Cioran said in his works with suicide attempts that "to be truly alone means not to be even with yourself" or "you begin to feel lonely when you hear the silence of things."

According to the same Cioran, who seems to have made whole peace treaties with loneliness, this is perceived as the refuge of those who have much to say, and "a man is never alone but only alone." The esteemed philosopher Cioran was not wrong in his theses, written under the light of a lamp in the late hours of the night, falling on the twilight of thoughts trying the peaks of despair.

But still, loneliness in modern life has completely different perceptions and that any disease, because it can be treated as such, can be as dangerous as cancer or heart disease.

How do we become alone?

People who isolate themselves by wanting to be alone have low immunity and a predisposition to depression, and the harmful effects of loneliness can eventually lead to dementia, as some psychologists have established, loneliness has well-established causes, effects, and treatments.

We have been facing loneliness ever since we were separated from the environment in which we lived for almost nine months (my mother's womb), with someone, in someone, and with someone. When we leave that environment, we must resign ourselves to the thought that we will be alone in the world, without anyone breathing with us.

Experts believe that "people are sociable because they are constantly trying, throughout life, to avoid loneliness." Moreover, it becomes an ideal in people's lives, the greatest torment and the greatest punishment of all time being that of exile or lack of friends.

Psychologists believe that the social channels that have appeared for several years are factors that lead even more to isolation, man becoming addicted to virtual communication, thus failing to make real friends with whom to share joys, sufferings or successes, failures. 

So the harmful effects of loneliness can spill over into us even when we feel that we are not alone. Even all restrictions, such as smoking bans, are a condemnation of human loneliness, which is based on discrimination.

The effects of loneliness

Although there are many negative effects caused by loneliness, they can not be considered abnormal, being on the contrary, common reactions in human communities. Adverse effects are severe or less severe depending on age.

Thus, children are only socially affected, but adults can become addicted to alcohol and/or severely mentally disturbed, and loneliness can lead to radical and irrevocable decisions such as suicide. Some people feel lonely even when they are in a large group of people, they manage to relax with difficulty because they have a very advanced level of stress, which is why interaction with other people becomes virtually impossible.

Loneliness also has serious effects on our body at the organic level, it disrupts its normal functioning. Another effect of loneliness would be insomnia or restless sleep, full of negative thoughts, nightmares, or bizarre dreams.

Is there a way to heal?

Certainly, loneliness, treated as such, namely as a disease, can have treatments for healing, although those treatments are not administered orally and are not prescribed by pharmacies.

It all comes down to the psychic level, and when a single person finds his half even at an older age, he can heal, especially if he has the feeling that he will live with that person for the rest of his life. People who lack the company of other people, feel very much the need for communication, constant, even at the slightest interaction feel the need to report everything they do.

People who suffer from loneliness can only treat themselves, first aware of this problem and then trying to solve it in various ways. I can even call a specialist doctor who will surely know how and what to say in such a situation. People affected by loneliness tend to hide, feeling isolated and never given attention, but a smile can't ruin anyone's day, so we can resort to it even to strangers.

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