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To change your life, learn to please yourself first!

When you want to please the world, you might as well learn to please yourself first, and then, you will find that pleasing the world, is not as difficult as you think

By Sue TorresPublished about a year ago 5 min read
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To change your life, learn to please yourself first!
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01

When I was young, I felt that I was not pretty enough, and I did not like people. To avoid being disliked, I never take the initiative to make friends with people, even existing friends, but also easily dare not say a word, for fear of accidentally saying the wrong thing, people will think: this person is ugly and stupid, why not hide away a little?

One day, my mother bought me a pair of small jade butterfly hair cards and complimented me on wearing them like a princess. How easy it is to satisfy the vanity of a child. At that moment, I felt that I had become a princess or the youngest one of the King's Highness.

So, the afternoon I put on the little jade butterfly hairpin, I flew happily in the admiring eyes of my classmates, talking around, and everyone was talking to me, surprised that I was so thoughtful.

Near the end of the school day, intoxicated with happiness, I couldn't help but secretly feel, "This hairpin is really attractive, everyone started to like me."

At that moment, my deskmate suddenly said, "Hey, you're wearing a beautiful hairpin today." The words fell, and only then did the others come around and discover the hairpin.

It turned out that it wasn't the little jade butterfly hairpin that attracted them, nor was it the little jade butterfly hairpin that brought me luck.

02

There was an architect who always failed to produce satisfactory works, and was criticized by his clients for being too old-fashioned, lacking creativity, and completely unable to surprise people.

The designer felt very aggrieved, because he was not an irresponsible guy, on the contrary, he had been a complete workaholic, often working overtime to catch up with the samples, but God never favored him. On the contrary, look at the young people in the company, they are too busy chatting, gathering, and dating, but often can come up with the client's admiration for the program.

Over time, the designer began to suspect that he was not suitable for the job, so he went to his boss to resign.

He told his boss that he was struggling to do the job and was afraid that he could not do it anymore. Instead, the boss asked him, "What kind of flowers are planted in the flower bed under our company?"

He was a bit confused and didn't know what his boss was asking him for. Moreover, he was in a hurry every day under the company and didn't notice what flowers were planted in the flower bed.

The boss sighed and added, "How about this, you stick to it for another month, and, during this month, I ask you to hug your daughter for three minutes every day."

One month was nothing to his working life, and three minutes was nothing to his day, and he agreed.

At first, he haphazardly held his daughter for three minutes and then put her to bed. Gradually, he found that three minutes was no longer enough because his daughter wanted to talk to him more and more, and he had to hold her a little longer. Later, the designer himself began to enjoy this task and liked to chat with his innocent daughter.

On one occasion, his daughter exaggeratedly raised her arm to show him her bruises on the corner of the house. Before, she never pampered her dad like this because he was always sullen and busy with his work.

Soon, the designer submitted a new proposal to the client. He designed a house with no internal corners, which is not only a strange and refreshing shape but also very gentle, comfortable, and extremely safe, just right for young couples who are preparing to have a baby nowadays.

This solution was unanimously approved by the company and the client, and became the classic case of the year. The designer no longer wants to quit his job, because he has learned to enjoy life with a new attitude. Moreover, he has seen that the flower bed under the company is planted with beautiful roses.

03

My neighbor's aunt is nearly seventy years old this year, will play tai chi, but also love to square dance, is a happy old lady.

Before the annual holiday, she suddenly knocked on the door and asked me to take some vegetables to her when I went to the market, it turned out that she had broken her leg.

ed to say hello: "Where are you going to spend New Year's Eve?"

"Where else, I'll spend it here." This old lady who lived alone smiled.

She lost her husband when she was young, and raised her son alone, but he left before her, leaving her with the sadness of sending her to the black hair. She was left with no one to turn to.

She told me that she couldn't figure out why fate was so unfair to her at first. She spent the whole day sad and sighing, and her life became grayer and grayer.

Once she was walking on the road, a little girl accidentally touched her, the girl cried in fear, looked up at her, but lightly sucked in a breath of cold air, and then backed up two steps and ran away.

She went home and looked in the mirror and found herself dressed in black, her face was pale and cold, indeed, it was chilling. No wonder the world treated her coldly from morning to night, and no one gave her a good look. If my son knew, how sad he would be.

Since then, she started to pull herself together, pay attention to the three meals a day, try to participate in community activities, and make herself healthy and rosy. She had more friends, and her life became more lively, and even people on the road stopped looking at her coldly. She found that the days became less difficult.

Whether you encounter the cold eyes of others or encounter the injustice of fate if life goes on, and pain does not help, why not please yourself?

If you can't bring happiness to yourself, then you can't bring happiness to the world, and if you can't bring happiness to the world, then the world's feedback to you will be even less happy. To break this vicious circle, you have to start with your happiness.

The so-called pleasing oneself is an ability to produce happiness. We can only love the world from ourselves if we first delight ourselves and radiate happiness. Otherwise, a person who can't even love himself or his family well, why should he ask the world to treat him gently?

So, when you want to please the world, you might as well learn to please yourself first, and then, you will find that pleasing the world is not as difficult as you think.

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