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There's only one best way for two married people to fall in love. Don't have any illusions

There are many kinds of love in the world, as long as within the scope of moral permission, you can obey your mind, to courageously pursue your feelings.

By zhaozhaoPublished 2 years ago 6 min read
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There's only one best way for two married people to fall in love. Don't have any illusions
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There are many kinds of love in the world, as long as within the scope of moral permission, you can obey your mind, to courageously pursue your feelings.

But we need to have a clear boundary in our hearts, knowing what kind of people we can love and what kind of relationships we can touch. Although a person's heart cannot be completely controlled, his behavior can be self-restrained.

A mature adult, is to be responsible for their own words and deeds, can not be like a child as spontaneous, follow one's inclinations.

If only completely driven by desire, in the end, can only be self-inflicted, sooner or later will pay the price should be.

Some love is difficult to control, and some people are just dominated by passion, as a discernable adult, we should also be able to distinguish the difference between "true love" and "passion", do not allow ourselves to be heart involved, with the heart to accompany each other to play ambiguous games.

In the track of marriage, with the lengthening of time, a lot of people will be tired of the eyes of predecessors, eager to get rid of the boring marriage, and will be unable to help to look for novelty and stimulation outside the marriage.

The nature of extramarital feelings is to get what you want, the so-called extramarital love in the final analysis is just a joke.

Any sane, mature adult should know that you should never look for love outside of marriage. If you do, you will be in trouble.

If one day, two married people have feelings, the best way is only one way, in time to break ties, in time to cut losses.

There is no true love outside marriage, there is only a psychological sustenance

Those who think there is true love outside the marriage, do not know what to say they are too naive, or obsessed, a person who can betray the original love, how dare you believe that you will be the exception? The other person is true to you.

True love never exists outside of marriage. It is the result of passion and newness, the desire of the moment, or just the search for spiritual sustenance.

Two people together for a long time, the words to say are enough, the things to do are done, all feelings are stranded by time, and finally only left the collision of firewood, rice, oil, and salt, and dull life.

Used to treat each other as their way, is like meeting a soul mate, think he is the most understand you of that a later felt he was too vulgar ignorance, said many of the words are not heard, once her as true love in this lifetime, which which are all well, think she later found her mediocre, around which the opposite sex is better than her.

People are most afraid of comparison, when you look at the people around the body's shortcomings, as long as there is opposite sex around at this time, can not help being abducted.

It's not that he has changed, it's that you look at him differently. It's not that she is bad, but that you have not appreciated her for a long time.

Similarly, it is not how good the people outside are, you are just looking for a long-lost love in them, looking for psychological sustenance.

Do not mistake a moment's delusion for true love, which in the end is but a dream that will soon wake up. Never look for love outside of marriage. You'll often end up badly hurt.

Return to the responsibilities of marriage and don't get caught up in the heat of the moment

Marriage, in addition to love, more lies in a kind of responsibility, when your photo appears on the same certificate when you enter the marriage hall moment, means you need to shoulder the responsibility of marriage, to be responsible for the person in front of you.

What makes people different from other creatures is the importance of responsibility, the need to be responsible for their actions, and not arbitrary.

A person's heart is always difficult to control, we are easy to be attracted to a person because of a certain advantage, and the heart is always easy to come to.

No one can guarantee that they love only one person in this life, and no one can promise that "after marriage, I will never be attracted to others".

Many people may have moved to other people after marriage, but those who have a sense of responsibility will suppress their mind, when the moment of fever, reminds them to return to the responsibility, and can not allow the mind to transfer, making a betrayal of marriage.

Responsibility is greater than emotion. If you forget responsibility and follow your will, what is the difference between you and livestock?

Don't get caught up in the passion of the moment, return to the responsibilities of marriage, this is what an adult should do.

Misplaced feelings, only timely stop loss, is the best way

People always want to understand that some things can be done, some things can not be done, and the struggle can be fought with all our strength, but should not do things don't do.

We often encourage you not to be too timid in love, meeting a person you like is not easy, don't miss it, and be brave to pursue.

But misplaced feelings, wrong is wrong, and not to strive for can return to the right position.

After having a family, the rest of the people are good and you have nothing to do, to recognize the situation, keep sober and rational, and the other party in time to cut off contact, maintain a proper distance, and discretion.

Even if you fall in love again, and you make up your mind, then what? You can give up your marriage and be with each other? I don't think most people can do that, and since they can't, it's better to cut your losses and at least have peace of mind than to wander between the two and let yourself suffer.

No matter how good the people you meet, no matter how late you meet, you should be clear about your position now, keep decent, it is to preserve a good period, otherwise, the last recall will only be hatred.

The relationship between two people with a family is already a mistake, so don't let it continue and finally cause irreversible consequences.

Emotion is difficult to control, but the reason to keep themselves clear enough, knowing that can not do, even if you have no affection for the people around you, at least also want to clear their responsibilities.

If you meet someone you love after marriage, the best thing to do is to break up, stay away, and cut your losses, there is no other way.

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