The Reasons Why Infidelity Is a Trap and Not a Solution

One of the most common causes for a breakup is the infidelity of one of the two partners. This is an even more current issue as in today's society there are even more rational justifications for cheating on your partner - and once a behavior has a justification in advance, it can be more easily accepted and put into practice. practice!

Thus, women would cheat because the innocent want love and find their sex appeal, and men, the poor, would cheat to prove to themselves that they are real virile males!

No matter how many excuses there are, infidelity remains what it has always been: immoral behavior! If a relationship doesn't work out, the solution is to stop that relationship, not spice it up with other adventures! Have you ever had a moment of doubt when you wondered whether to cheat or not?

Have you ever wondered if it is better not to miss the opportunity to have a passionate adventure or is it better to "play it safe"? Doubts are only human, as are mistakes, by the way… But they must not be justified, but accepted as such!

Did you cheat or did you think you were cheating? Accept your infidelity, concrete or just symbolic, and think about what brought you here and what you can do so that you will never be put in the situation of the one who cheats again!

When you are not sure where your current relationship will take you when your sex life has calmed down and your partner no longer overwhelms you with compliments and kisses, then a secret look can be transformed without you even realizing what is happening much more…

Why is it possible for you to "step aside" without even planning such a thing? Because you have been locked up in your relationship for too long, you have isolated yourself from other people and given up other activities besides the couple…

And this small closed and isolated world of the couple can quickly get you to suffocate… and all you want is just a breath of fresh air… But not infidelity should be your solution, but an open couple relationship and a life that can be shared equally between the couple, friends, relatives, and profession!

If you no longer dedicate yourself completely to the couple and accept that both partners need time for themselves regularly, then that desperate need to experience something different also disappears!

Infidelity can put you in a difficult choice situation: to risk your stable relationship for a moment of unleashed passion or to give up spontaneity in favor of security? It is about your priorities and more importantly, your values: if you believe in sincerity, communication, and fidelity, this is not your answer to the boring routine installed in the couple's life…

If you still think about cheating on your partner, stop for a minute and do a little test: put yourself in the other person's shoes! How would you feel if you were the one cheating?

Imagine, step by step, how your partner is about to deceive you: how he sees an incredibly attractive person, how he comes up with the idea of ​​an adventure, how he approaches or is approached by that person, how I find a nice place in which to consume the adventure, how to kiss, how to undress him, to caress him, to have him… And how he then thinks of hiding your whole adventure from you!

Don't skip any detail, close your eyes and imagine every step your partner takes, cheating on you! How do you feel after this attempt? If you get angry, you feel sad, you are glad that everything was just in your imagination, stop: what you don't like, someone else doesn't do!

But if you feel nothing or almost nothing but hurt pride, then your relationship is as useless as a headache when your head doesn't hurt! But infidelity should not be the solution, but separation!

If you want to cheat because you feel that your partner is not paying enough attention to you and because you want to feel admired and admired again, try to save your relationship first! Talk to your open partner, share your feelings with him and ask him to try together to renew your relationship!

Maybe you think that he/she should know what you are feeling and what you are going through, it just seems so obvious to you, but your partner may have no idea what is going on in your mind and soul! You may feel neglected, but he/she thinks everything is ok!

Stop, once and for all, looking at the relationship only from your perspective: you are two different people and you think and feel differently! So, communicate, before you "solve" the situation yourself!

If infidelity attracts you out of sheer curiosity for something else and because a mysterious person has twisted your mind, stop for a moment and think if it's worth it! Consider all the elements, don't just think that it is a single adventure and that your partner will never be able to find out anyway!

Even if he/she doesn't find out - even if you don't have a great chance here, because certain behavioral symptoms could easily give you away if your partner knows you well enough - your infidelity will change the relationship! Even if you manage to keep the secret, you will bring in your relationship new emotions, new feelings: guilt, shame, stress, incitement…

You will change and the relationship will change with you too! A single-sex game outside of the couple brings with it a whole package of new emotions, which you will have to face alone and which your partner, who will see that something is not the same, will not understand!

Infidelity can also be a reaction against infidelity! Are you thinking of cheating on your partner to pay them with the same currency? Are you a fan of "eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth"? He cheated on you and do you think that the only way to bandage your pride and alleviate your pain is to answer him the same way, to put him/her in the same situation?

Think better: if you decide to forgive his escape, no matter how much it has made you suffer, can you forgive him by making a mistake? Can a serious mistake of one partner be solved with another serious mistake of the other partner? And will you feel better, stronger because you paid for it?

No, you will probably feel alone and ashamed that you approached this "solution". If you decide to forgive, then you must forgive completely, no matter how hard it may be! Forgiveness never reconciles with revenge!