The Positive Aspects You Enjoy With an Older Partner

Do you form a couple in which the age difference is considerable or have you always been attracted to older people, but you don't know if such a relationship would work? And first of all, what are the reasons why a person wants a relationship with someone older, and what are the reasons why society generally disapproves of these relationships?

The age difference between the partners can be seen as a positive fact for the relationship for one main reason: experience. Thus, both men and women are often attracted to more mature people, who have gained vast experience and from whom they learn!

Young men are sometimes attracted to older women because of their sexual experience - this is the key factor in the existence of this attraction. But sometimes they are attracted to the fact that an older woman appreciates them more, considers them wonderful, cares for them, and admires them.

A woman of the same age is seldom willing to take care of household chores, to cook them, to wash them, and, above all, they are seldom so tickled by men's pride! From the beginning of the relationship, young women do not want to feel domestic and do not overwhelm their partner with compliments, knowing that if he is not satisfied, there are always other options!

But an older woman will make sure that her younger partner has everything he wants! In addition, the man feels more attractive, more interesting, younger!

Women are attracted to the age difference in a relationship for other reasons: it is known that men and women mature differently. Women evolve physically, but also mentally faster, at a younger age and thus want stability and emotional comfort earlier than men.

Most of the time, men want to live their youth, to experiment, to have fun and they don't want to build a family until after they have consolidated their career as much as possible. Therefore, a woman can often be disappointed by the man's immaturity, the inability or lack of desire to get involved responsibly in a stable relationship.

If a woman goes through several relationships with immature young men who are not looking for something serious, she ends up looking at the age difference as something positive. An older man will usually be prepared and willing to give him stability, emotional comfort, a family. In addition, older men already have a good financial and professional situation, prestige, and experience in relationships.

But women do not think about anything when they start to see the age difference as positive: a man will always remain, regardless of his age, a little child. If what annoys her young partners are "childish" activities and hobbies, such as computer games, sports games, going out with the boys, she will be a little disappointed: older men also have the same hobbies as usual.

I don't suddenly start preferring theater and opera at the age of 45! The only difference would be that an older man is willing to give her more time and attention!

But why is the difference in attractive age viewed by the older partner, be it a man or a woman? Many ask themselves: "what's in her head, how does she look like that young man" or "what does" old man "think, that this young girl is with him for his charisma"?!

Why do mature women and men end up being attracted to young people? Of course, it's about physical and sexual attraction! But it is more than that: an older partner will feel extremely flattered that he is considered attractive by a young person, his pride will be pleasantly caressed. She will feel better, more attractive, and younger than she is! It is a profitable exchange for both partners: the young person receives care and stability, the older one receives appreciation and admiration!

Why does society often look at the age difference between a couple's partners with doubt and even disapproval?

Moreover, couples made up of women older than their partners are viewed with suspicion, while the opposite situation has become commonly accepted - because, in ancient times, the man was older than their partner: once, men of He was married to a 16-year-old girl for 40 years and it was normal! In addition, there are more couples of men older than their partners, so public opinion has become accustomed to them and accepted them. But there is certain disapproval of the age difference.

Why? Because usually (as a statistical frequency), people are attracted to similar partners: as age, as a socio-economic environment, as academic training. The similarity of age is usually extremely important in the attraction between two people. And those who do not follow the "crowd rule" are viewed with suspicion. And there is only one plausible reason for them to want a relationship where the age difference is big: money!

The prejudice maintained by the numerous examples of this type is constantly presented in the media: an old man with a girl just over 18 years old! And when there is a sincere attraction, attachment, respect, between two people who are drastically different ages, people are used to judging by following existing social stereotypes, without being interested in analyzing the situation in depth.

Thus, if you are attracted to the idea of ​​a relationship in which the age difference is large, you should think about the following aspects:

● Are you attracted to this person, all that he/she is, or are you tired of the immaturity and lack of involvement or interest from partners of the same age?

● Are you somehow seduced by the prospect of a relationship in which you will be cared for, admired, and appreciated, or is there something more between you?

● But do you know the other person's motives: does he want to be with you only for your beauty and youth or does he love you?

● Do you fit in with your expectations and plans for the future? For example, an older partner may not be willing to have small children while you are looking for one: a mature partner to build a family with!

● You understand each other in terms of interests and activities: this problem has any couple, but one in which the age difference is greater can face more difficulties related to common interests! If you want a stable relationship, but you are still a weekly fan of noisy nightclubs and crazy parties, you should think twice!

● Even if you think you love him/her if there is attachment, respect, communication, even if he/she offers you everything you wanted from a partner, are you sure that he/she attracts you at least a little and physically? Because if you don't, at some point you may step crookedly: you can't be endless with someone who doesn't attract you physically and sexually without being irresistibly attracted to another person!

● And last but not least, are you ready for the reactions of those around you? Parents will most likely disapprove of you, but even from friends, you may hear unpleasant things! Be that as it may, be prepared to ignore with malice words and sarcastic looks. After a while, if what you feel is sincere and your relationship lasts, all the evils will stop, because people get bored of being evil with the same person and will find other targets!