The Evolution of Young Adulthood
Love, Career, Passions, and Courage
I have been thinking lately that with every new day, fresh challenge, or uncomfortable hardship, that I am growing more into the person I will be for the rest of my life.
I carefully observe those around me who practice poor lifestyle habits and are complacent with being chronic complainers. The more I piece together that my actions will directly affect my life in a multitude of ways, the more I take responsibility for everything that occurs in my life.
I try to leave the mindset of "life happening to me" in the past. The ideology that life happens for us rather than to us is finally starting to stick. When I remind myself of that on a moment-to-moment basis, it really helps me stay accountable and withhold blame towards others.
I find that I'm living a more intentional lifestyle. I am proud of my work, and I have started to take things less personally. I am starting to understand how to separate myself from external events that have little to do with action or inaction from me.
I soak up the wisdom. I listen to people in older generations who have endured what I go through, though it is many moons ago for them. Two years post-grad undergrad, and life is unfolding before me in mysterious and miraculous ways. All in my career, my romantic union, and my mental patterns.
Love
For one, I have found what presents itself to me as true, unwavering, and passionate love. I have attracted a romantic partner who is everything I had ever dreamed of and more. I didn't know it was possible, and before him, I questioned whether I would ever be married or have kids.
It's crazy when older folks remark about how you will meet the love of your life at the most unexpected time. For me, that's exactly how it happened. Life changes so rapidly, for better or for worse. People enter your life at a whim, and suddenly, life transforms monumentally.
Thoughts center around a person you didn't even know existed before. I'm learning to live in the moment and embrace the spontaneity that a love so pure has to offer.
Career
I am grasping the idea of taking more risks in life and finding more value in stopping to smell the roses. My audacity continues to expand as boundaries stabilize. I have become all too accustomed to living a boring and uninspired existence.
Just this past week, I decided that it was time for me to step out of my comfort zone, and spread my wings. I thought that leaving the company I have been with for a year would leave me feeling uncertain, jittery, remorseful, and more.
Though, surprisingly enough, I was met with deep blessings and approval of this directional choice from my intuition. My inspiration and creativity had resurfaced the day I put my two weeks in. I was able to write after a month of not feeling the love I once had for spawning a piece straight from my heart.
I jump into a deep sea of uncertainty, eager to find what miraculous findings can be claimed beneath the surface - enchanting life experiences that are simply waiting for me to find them. I have no fear, only optimism to finally love myself enough to pursue a career in a field that is passionate for me - which is that of writing.
It's the rush of fulfillment that circulates through my veins during a time of electric flow state.
Mindset Shifts
Looking back a year ago, I was in a completely different frame of mind. As a fresh grad with a vague and undervalued degree, I was desperate to find a position that offered me more than minimum wage. I soon realized I had lacked much guidance throughout university and was unfortunately underprepared for the real world.
I had no focus, lacked self-discipline, and couldn't seem to locate a sense of direction or a feeling of belonging. I kept telling myself how unworthy and unqualified I was for one position after the next that I had applied for, day in and day out.
After working full-time for a year, I am starting to understand that I am an individual of high value. I have many skills and I am easily trainable. It's possible to reach any goal I want to, but the thing is, I need to be actively working towards it. Something shifted inside of me that told me I need to stop being complacent within a role that isn't feeding my passions.
Sure, it was comfortable. Many will say they don't mind some change, but when the time comes, I don't think we prefer it, especially when we are transitioning into something that is uncertain for us.
I am learning to embrace unpredictability because that's how we flourish. I'm even having fun with it as I realize that each and every choice I make continues to directly shape my life as I know it to be.
Passions
I enjoy writing, but I am only struck with inspiration when things are settled and comfortable in my world. I can't write with an anxious mind or a tight stomach because my body falls into defense mode. I am unable to produce practically anything.
Over the past few months, I have been writing less and less because I couldn't seem to find the time to sit down and spill my guts to my laptop and strangers on the internet. And when I wasn't writing, I was feeling off. Something wasn't right, I was incomplete.
My palpitating heart had started making surprise visits again, as I felt my emotional regulatory tactics were weakening. I thought I might have even been regressing to old ways.
This scared me, and it told me that writing is a part of me and that I can't stop. It's not about the curation or the views or the money (that's nice too). It's about the ability and freedom to express myself in a place where nobody can stop me.
It's the rush of fulfillment that circulates through my veins during a time of electric flow state. It's the proud moment when I'm able to articulate my thoughts exactly how I intend them to come across and broadcast them to the world, where maybe a stranger on the internet will find me relatable or helpful.
Courage
Young adulthood is ever-so-changing for me. Frequencies shift, perspectives broaden, people fade, and love blossoms if you're lucky. My mind is so clear lately, and it's simply unfathomable to me that I am in the same body that I was in just a year ago.
I choose happiness because I am worthy. I show up for myself and take responsibility for the repercussions of my actions. I love passionately and treat people how they treat me.
I stand my ground and refuse to be intimidated by anyone. I will no longer be a sheep, pushed around by others under any circumstance. I'm not afraid to speak my mind, even if people won't like me for it.
I embrace setting boundaries and I maintain a healthy circle of friends and loved ones. I have never been so proud to be me. I am enjoying each moment of my constant, cosmic evolution of life strategy.
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Susie Pinon
Italian chick with a New Yorker attitude. Free-spirited, eclectic by nature, vegan. I'm fueled by my passion for the art of words. I'm addicted to chocolate + love to heal through the sun's rays. Let's talk words
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