Taking Care of a Man

Why do women in their early 20s to 40s think there is something wrong with taking care of their man or having their man lead the relationship? Why are women’s head filled with, “I’m not going to take care of a grown man!”

You do understand that THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!

I was always told that you must take care of a man so he can take care of you, and that having a man take care of you or help you does not make you weak, less independent or helpless.

I personally enjoy taking care of a man or my mate, as well as having them truly appreciate it and take care of me too. It makes me feel like I am making his life a little bit easier. I am being his peace when I take care of him, especially after a long day.

Yes, taking of your mate is a two-way street. It does not only mean you take care of them and get nothing in return. If you are doing everything for that person and you are getting nothing back in any way, you are being taken advantage of and need to seek a way out. It should never be that you are giving and getting nothing in return, that is not how it is supposed to work. It is never too much of you to expect that same treatment in return.

Moving on, many people believe that you should only be taking care of your husband, not a boyfriend, but that is your personal preference. You take care of anyone you choose to, married or not. Not everyone desires to be married, and if that is the person you chose, take care of them regardless of their status in your life.

But how do you think your grandmother and your great aunts, etc., managed to stay married for so long? They took care of their mate, and that was instilled in them at an early age. From the very beginning, they knew they had to work hard to take care of their home, their husband and their kids first before anything, and sometimes before themselves. Nowadays, people have become so selfish that this concept has been lost and forgotten, which to me completely not fair!

Is that what is wrong with this generation? Did we stop instilling the nature and nurture aspects in our young women? Did we only focus on women becoming more independent, breaking glass ceilings and not defining yourself with marriage or children?

What happens if your mate is the one paying ALL the bills? Are you just sitting at home doing nothing? Or do you have a part-time job or are just going to school? Do you not clean the home or cook dinner? Do you not rub his feet or his back? You should be doing all that and more. Just because it’s 2018 does not mean a man do not deserve to be treated like a KING when he comes home from a hard day of work.

Maybe we should stop telling young women that it is wrong to take care of a "grown man," and rather helping them understand that they should take care of men who take care of them. Just because the women in their families do not have long-lasting relationships and do not understand how to keep one does not mean you should instill your messed up ideologies on them.

All I am saying is, take care of those who take care of you—fix his food, wash clothes, clean the house, listen to him speak.

It's not that hard. Take care of the person that takes care of you.