If you’re an active adult, you’re bound to recognize the value of a good night’s sleep. At the very least, you’re likely familiar with the consequences of a not-so-great night’s sleep—you toss and turn at night, and everything is thrown off-balance. You’re crankier. You’re less productive at work. You’re more easily frustrated by the “little things.”
She lowers her copy of 'The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks' and sees I am daunted, lost, nervous, and facing the spiky shrew that is my own pride. She smiles at me. It is the direct look-you-in-the-eyes sort of smile, which, in a single moment says; I see you. I know you.
Single friends, I am sure you hate this as much as I do. We all have asked the question, hoping for an original, heart-enlightening response; They respond with, "Well, when you know, you know."
When Richard and I met at a book party almost three years ago, he was at the tail end of a long marriage. What first drew us together was our love of style. That night, I chatted so openly with him because I believed he was gay. He was wearing a purple Lanvin suit with a floral tie, a polka-dotted pocket square, and striped socks. I couldn’t believe that a man who dressed so well could actually be straight.
A lot of people seem to pit bisexual and pansexual people against each other. I don't understand why, as we both share a lot of similarities. We both are nonmonosexuals that can be rejected from both the straight and LGBTQ+ communities. We can both be told what our sexualities are based on our partners instead of our own attractions. And yet, despite this, these two identities seem to constantly be butting heads over what these labels seem to define. I want to dive into this debate a bit and explain why both of these labels, as well as others, are important to the community. But first, let's define both of these labels to get a good idea of their differences.
“Millennial” is a buzzword that the media just loves to hop on. It seems that every newssource strives to shed light on something as peculiar and revolutionary as the foreign concept of a “new generation.” Through my perspective as a millennial, I’d love to give everyone insight into our mating patterns:
I'm here, I'm queer, and I'd like to be respected. My name is Andie, I use they/them pronouns, and often cis folks decide that this means I'm their personal educator on all things transgender. While I think education on trans & queer identities is beyond important, it is not the job of every trans person you meet to teach you in depth about their identity and why they deserve to be respected. Sometimes we just want to have a normal conversation that isn't about our gender while we still get respected. Luckily, with the advent of some super clear, super queer books, it's not up to trans individuals to educate everyone in their lives. Books are also wonderful resources for external validation when you're having trouble conjuring it for yourself. This book list is for nonbinary folks looking for enhanced communities, comfortable bodies, and happy souls. This book list is also for cis folks looking to support better communities for trans folks and create comfortable spaces for everyone they encounter. So, on to the books.
If you were to see me just walking around town with my boyfriend, most people would assume I was straight. My relationship is clearly 'straight presenting.' Unless I am wearing something that clearly labels me as bisexual, I am assumed straight. I wish this wasn't true, but I know it's to be expected in everyday life.
Four days ago, I was sitting in a group of FtM’s. We sat around a chocolate cake that read “happy birthday to me” in icing—something that is present at each of the monthly meetings of trans guys at the gender centre in Annandale.