I've hesitated continuously deciding on whether or not to not only write this, but also post this for the world to see, because I somehow convinced myself that my message in this piece was worth reading. I really hate myself for doing this but, it's very "me." I can't think of a better "Hey there" to you after not speaking for a while.
Houston, Texas has just endured a flood and weather event of historic proportions in Hurricane Harvey. Survivors are fatigued and battered, stunned by their losses. If you know someone affected by this, you may long to reach out to comfort and reassure. Don't do that unless you can be truly empathetic.
In the photo above, what do you see? Some would see it as a couple overcoming a task together. Perhaps she couldn't quite make the climb on the rock so she's looking to her partner for support. She has his support as he pulls her up but, if she slips, she could land up bringing them both down. This, like anything in life that involves 2 people requires trust, especially in a relationship. But what if your relationship isn't like anyone else's? Say, for instance, your significant other is incarcerated?
Almost a decade ago, in my first year as a Psychology undergraduate student, a colleague of mine said to me, "You are good at picking up the big fights, but you never go for the little ones."It took me a long while to realise what he really wanted to say. Some years later, I had a little glimpse: I was always ready to save others but I would put myself at the very bottom of my "people to save today" list. I could easily move mountains for someone else, but I rarely could engage in something that would lead me to my own happiness. Actually, I would never even think about that detail.
When it comes to relationships, we stay with people for all kinds of reasons. Those with children say “stay together for the kids.” Some people stay together because they believe if they separate or divorce, their God will frown upon them. Some people stay out of fear, of their life, of other’s perception, of what could happen to them if they’re on their own. People stay and go for all kinds of reasons, but the reasons are usually so they can find a happier, better life.
So you're lying in bed grinning ear to ear because that one super hot guy that you've been interested in for a while finally asks you out. But shortly after you find out that he's going to be moving away. We've all heard that long distance relationships never work out. But there's that 1% that finds true love and overcomes that distance, right? At least that's what you tell youself as you cry yourself to sleep, afraid to lose the man that you've fallen in love with.
The musician I am currently dating isn’t the first musician I ever dated, but I intend for him to be the last. Not because I wouldn’t date a musician again, but because I finally found a good guy.
It's a tough 'ole world out there for us girls - this is a known fact so I shan't labour it too much, worry not. I just want to share with you an experience I had the other day which had a superb effect on me.
While women are known to be difficult and sometimes frustrating when it comes to relationships we often know what we want. Men, on the other hand, are never really sure. Commitment can so easily scare them off yet if you date other guys they get jealous. They love to say they don't believe in monogamy yet they want to spend every night with you. Or how about when they disappear for a few days, like full blown fall off the planet. No warning, no reason, he just vanishes like a ghost only to text you a few days later and act like nothing happened. How the hell are women supposed to keep up?