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Grief is a silent teacher.

By Naveed Published 2 months ago 3 min read
Trials in life come and go and often repeat themselves

In life's intricate weave, sorrow emerges as a profound force that molds individuals in unforeseen ways. It's often said that what doesn't break us, shapes and eventually departs, leaving behind a profound impact. Many of us have encountered such moments or witnessed loved ones grappling with adversity. Whether it's the loss of a dear one, grappling with a terminal ailment, the anguish of separation through divorce, unemployment, or other such trials, these can inflict agonizing stress, bitterness, despair, and persistent unease.

Nature operates on a principle - it never imposes a burden beyond an individual's capacity to endure. Similarly, grief and suffering, integral yet transient aspects of life, depart but not without leaving unexpected positive imprints. Under ordinary circumstances, we remain unaware of the inherent strength and resilience instilled within us by a Higher power.

Just as our physical selves demand sustenance, our inner selves and intellect seek growth, sometimes necessitating sorrow. In times of smooth sailing, we tend to neglect introspection. Conversely, amid distress or sorrow, we're prompted to delve deeper into our essence and perceive life with heightened insight. While joy connects us to boundless horizons, sorrow serves as a reminder of our limitations.

Psychologists have lately recognized a phenomenon termed "Post Traumatic Growth," as identified by Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun. Through extensive interviews with individuals navigating near-death experiences, bereavement, severe illnesses like cancer, divorce, or job loss, they uncovered a common pattern. Initially, everyone grappled with a profound existential crisis, where life lost its meaning. Replaying thoughts and emotions related to the traumatic event was an intrinsic part of their journey. Subsequently, they embarked on a spiritual odyssey, introspecting and questioning existence. This voyage unveiled hitherto unknown moral and spiritual values. It became a pivotal phase in their lives where many discovered purpose and significance, witnessed newfound humility, developed empathy and foresight, and reevaluated relationships, eventually leading to a more serene, content, and appreciative outlook.

Life's trials ebb and flow, oftentimes recurring. Even revered spiritual leaders and prophets encountered tribulations. At times, nature deems it necessary for individuals to navigate such challenges to fortify their character. However, this doesn't imply that we should invite or seek out suffering deliberately. Should it enter our lives by divine will, it's crucial to recognize its dual nature - harboring both adversity and hidden goodness. Through these hardships, the soul fortifies, perspectives evolve, and fresh insights emerge, ultimately birthing a novel way of existence.

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Let me submit, writing and solitude are essential. Writing is not possible in Mahfil Yaran. Why a person writes, how he writes, why he thinks, nothing can be said with certainty.

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  • Brandon Phillips14 days ago


  • Rachel Deeming28 days ago

    Interesting, Naveed. The things that shape us. Not always trauma though but pain has its place.

  • B.R. Shenoyabout a month ago

    Beautifully penned piece!

  • Hayley Mattoabout a month ago

    "Post Traumatic Growth" is an idea I think I'm going to carry and ponder upon a lot this year. Loved the 'rambles', and the insights.

  • L.C. Schäfer2 months ago

    So insightful, thank you for sharing this

  • John Cox2 months ago

    Very interesting piece. I read widely, but have not encountered the concept of post traumatic growth before. As former military, the study and treatment for post traumatic stress is of great interest to me. Thanks for sharing.

  • Staringale2 months ago

    This thoughtful and introspective. With this you explained the role of sorrow and adversity in shaping an individuals life. The way you delved into the profound impact of grief and suffering, acknowledging the agonizing stress and persistent unease they can inflict on individuals in truly remarkable showing your empathetic side. I think it's great work especially when you emphasized the transformative potential of such experiences.

  • Ashley Pacitti2 months ago

    Beautifully put, I agree wholeheartedly! My traumas built me into the resilient woman I am today. I am thankful to the sorrow, to the obstacles, and the darkness that can come with them. Without them I would not be able to see the light in my life. It is only those who have know darkness that can truly appreciate the light.

  • Revathi Thangavel2 months ago

    Wonderful wordings " While joy connects us to boundless horizons, sorrow serves as a reminder of our limitations". Fantastic story filled with words to heal a painful heart.I like this story so much

  • Daphsam2 months ago

    A heartfelt message of navigating the labyrinth of grief and life's challenges. After going through death with both my parents recently. I had a very up close and personal journey. Now I am on the other side of grief, but it comes up when I least expect it. Your words landed for me.

  • Adam 2 months ago

    Beautifully written!!! !❤️

  • Novel Allen2 months ago

    This is wonderful philosophy N, but it does seem a bit too perfect for human creativity. The message is really wonderful though.

  • Aaliyah Madison2 months ago

    The way you navigate the complexities of grief, adversity, and the potential for growth in such moments is deeply profound .Such a beautiful story.

  • Hello Naveed, AI is permitted on Vocal but it is a Vocal policy that content created with AI is mentioned at the start of the story/article. Your article/story has many telltales of AI-generated content. If you don’t correct this the content may be removed by Vocal and/or you may be banned from the Vocal.

  • Denise E Lindquist2 months ago

    Thank you!❤️

  • noor2 months ago

    indeed "Grief is a silent teacher" well written

  • JBaz2 months ago

    Your opening paragraph drew me in….I do not think this was rambling but pure inner reflection that you laid bare before us. Post traumatic growth is an interesting concept.

  • C. Rommial Butler2 months ago

    Well-wrought! A fellow named Kazimierz Dabrowski, a psychiatrist who literally survived the concentration camps in Nazi Germany, had a theory of "Positive Disintegration" which is consonant with your points here. I mostly agree but feel that in the interest of absolute truth I should point out one discrepancy: "Nature operates on a principle - it never imposes a burden beyond an individual's capacity to endure." Having seen many individuals succumb to suicide, I cannot agree with this statement. I say this with a heart full of love for those departed and for yourself. None of us live forever, and some of us do go too soon for no other reason than that we could no longer endure it. As tragic as that may be, it is still a reality with which we must grapple. It is one facet of the diamond truth. I might say it this way: not everyone can be saved but no one dies in vain. Many blessings and much love, friend! Write on!

  • chris2 months ago

    Nice work

  • Rene Volpi 2 months ago

    Let me tell you, Naveed. If English were my first language, that's the way I would write. Excellent diction and a naked soul on paper. Kudos to you for a job well done! 🩵

  • I agree - many of the most profound moments of my life were shaped by suffering and the Post Traumatic Growth that followed. Great work!

  • Babs Iverson2 months ago

    Naveed, fabulous advice!!! Love this!!!

  • Grz Colm2 months ago

    Some intriguing ideas Naveed about the nature of grief in our lives. Thanks for sharing. 😊

  • Catherine Nyomenda2 months ago

    I found this helpful. Good work Naveed

  • Kodah2 months ago

    Loved this Naveed! Thank you for sharing💕

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