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Single for the Holidays?

3 Tips On How to Enjoy Your Holidays Solo Dolo!

By Alesia DavisPublished 3 years ago 3 min read
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YES! Even on the holidays!

I've been single for over two years. I know right, it's crazy (wink)! I'm going into my third holiday season with no plus one. Is this something that bothers me personally? Not at all! But I understand that this can be a big deal and quite bothersome for some. The holidays are about love, being thankful and joyful, and many of us have a longing to share in these emotions and feelings beyond just our family and friends. We also want to have that special someone with us in these special times. But if this is not your life right now, like it isn't mine, I NEED you to know that there are still great ways to have the best time during the holidays without letting being single steal your holiday spirit!

Now I know with the "rona" going around, many may not be having or attending any holiday gatherings this year. But I also know that there are people still hosting and going to family and friends gatherings, and that's yo business (in my Tabitha Brown voice). However you're spending your holiday time this year, here's just a few tips for the single folk on having a great time and keeping your peace of mind about not having a significant other for the holidays:

Tip #1: Get Dressed!

YYYYAASSS! Still show up looking your best! Just because you're not showing off a great outfit to a special someone, still dress to impress. Still do your hair and make-up or get a fresh haircut and a nice shave. If you show up looking good and smelling good, you'll feel good and can be confident. Especially, just in case you randomly meet someone whose eye you can catch. You never know and you got to stay ready! Also, you'll be on point for family photos and selfies that you can share on social media, showing off how fine you look, which makes us all feel good right?

Tip #2: Engage in Something

Doesn't matter what it is, as long as it takes your mind off of not having a partner to engage with. Converse with family and friends to catch up or have humorous and happy conversations. Suggest games for everyone to play. Assist in the kitchen with the cooking and serving. Be the bartender (definitely would be my go to role!). Just BE the fun and light of the party! Pay attention and involve yourself in the moment and what's going on around you, and think thankfully. This can really help you to not think about being solo and enjoy the time with everyone else that you love instead. This is what the holidays are truly about.

Tip #3: Stay Home

Now no one is telling you to stay home because you don't have a bae to bring to the festivities. That would be just plain rude! But let's just say you would like to stay home because of the virus or because you don't feel like showing up alone this year. Or you just simply don't feel like showing up! Remember to love on yourself. Still cook yourself a good meal, even if it isn't holiday food. Relax, get some rest, or have some self-care time. Watch your favorite movies, doesn't have to be holiday movies. Listen to your favorite music. Don't forget to dance and sing while doing it. Have yourself some drinks but don't do it to cope with being alone! If you're staying home single, do things that make you happy, relaxed, and that bring you peace. Still reach out to your family and friends. Send them love and wish them happy holidays.

Being single in general can feel so lonely at times but for many people it feels worse around this time of year. We have to remember that we have so many things to be grateful for and that there are many blessings to focus on, other than not having an other half to share holiday love. Always keep hope alive that you'll be able to show up to holiday gatherings with someone amazing on your arm one day. Until then, let's remember that WE are amazing, even without a partner at anytime of the year. And we are enough to enjoy the holidays, with the non-romantic people that we love, solo.

We are love. We are light. We are blessed.

Lisa

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Alesia Davis

New to this. Trying to become true to this ;-).

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