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Say less negative things

by Alexander Miller 2 months ago in advice
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Some people unconsciously fall into the habit of speaking negatively.

Say less negative things
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Some people unconsciously fall into the habit of speaking negatively. This kind of person always speaks with a dissatisfied and resentful tone. As soon as I started working, I said that the fried dough sticks in the morning were not delicious and that the bus would never come. Then I thought that the boiling water in the morning was not boiled enough, and the tea had no taste. When I make a phone call, I will blame the other party for not answering after several rings. When we talk about it, I will say that my husband is dirty and lazy, and my son is not good enough. Ugly wait.

It seems that there are few things in the world that can make her feel good about being with such a person. If you pay attention to the statistics, if she speaks 100 sentences a day, about 99 sentences are negative.

People who like to speak negatively sometimes are too generalized, using their own model to set the reality in life, and the result is often the opposite of what they want. Others view issues too narrowly and biasedly. They only think about themselves and don't care about others. Anyone who doesn't feel good about themselves will be rejected. The other is to use a magnifying glass or even a microscope to look at people and magnify the trivial shortcomings of others. As Mr. Lu Xun once likened, an old master used a magnifying glass to look at the beautiful woman's tender white arm, only to see the wrinkles between the skin and the sludge between the wrinkles. So just imagine, if you use a microscope to observe it again, wouldn't it be terrifying bacteria all over the body?

People who always like to speak negatively will find it difficult to get along well with others. Even if she doesn't directly say that the other party is not good, but everything is unsatisfactory with her, it is difficult for people to find a common language of comfort and satisfaction with her. Over time, people will still feel that this person is too "diabolical" and difficult to get along with and often avoid them. If you always speak negative words, you will eventually become a lonely person who it difficult to integrate with others.

The key to not saying negative things is to have a positive and optimistic one. There is no lack of beauty in life but a lack of discovery. As the story goes, an old lady has two daughters, the eldest daughter sells umbrellas, and the youngest sells popsicles. On a sunny day, when the umbrellas could not be sold, the old lady complained about why it didn't rain; on rainy days, when the popsicles couldn't sell, the old lady complained about why the sun didn't come out as soon as possible. Later, someone enlightened her and said, "Your younger daughter's popsicles sell well on sunny days, and your eldest daughter's umbrellas sell fast on rainy days. You have happy things every day, so what else can you complain about? When the old lady thought about it, sure enough, her face changed from cloudy to sunny, and she felt better all at once. In the same way, when dealing with people, you should also be enthusiastic and generous and pay attention to discovering the shining points in each other. Sometimes you also need to use the sparkle on your body to illuminate others so that everyone's mood is bright and cheerful. In this way, more people will be willing to get along with you. Some people unconsciously have the habit of speaking negatively. This kind of person always speaks with a dissatisfied and resentful tone. As soon as I started working, I said that the fried dough sticks in the morning were not delicious and that the bus would never come. Then I thought that the boiling water in the morning was not boiled enough, and the tea had no taste. When I make a phone call, I will blame the other party for not answering after several rings. When we talk about it, I will say that my husband is dirty and lazy, and my son is not good enough. Ugly wait.

It seems that there are few things in the world that can make her feel good about being with such a person. If you pay attention to the statistics, if she speaks 100 sentences a day, about 99 sentences are negative.

People who like to speak negatively sometimes are too generalized, using their own model to set the reality in life, and the result is often the opposite of what they want. Others view issues too narrowly and biasedly. They only think about themselves and don't care about others. Anyone who doesn't feel good about themselves will be rejected. The other is to use a magnifying glass or even a microscope to look at people and magnify the trivial shortcomings of others. As Mr. Lu Xun once likened, an old master used a magnifying glass to look at the beautiful woman's tender white arm, only to see the wrinkles between the skin and the sludge between the wrinkles. So just imagine, if you use a microscope to observe it again, wouldn't it be terrifying bacteria all over the body?

People who always like to speak negatively will find it difficult to get along well with others. Even if she doesn't directly say that the other party is not good, but everything is unsatisfactory with her, it is difficult for people to find a common language of comfort and satisfaction with her. Over time, people will still feel that this person is too "diabolical" and difficult to get along with and often avoid them. If you always speak negative words, you will eventually become a lonely person who it difficult to integrate with others.

The key to not saying negative things is to have a positive and optimistic one. There is no lack of beauty in life but a lack of discovery. As the story goes, an old lady has two daughters, the eldest daughter sells umbrellas, and the youngest sells popsicles. On a sunny day, when the umbrellas could not be sold, the old lady complained about why it didn't rain; on rainy days, when the popsicles couldn't sell, the old lady complained about why the sun didn't come out as soon as possible. Later, someone enlightened her and said, "Your younger daughter's popsicles sell well on sunny days, and your eldest daughter's umbrellas sell fast on rainy days. You have happy things every day, so what else can you complain about? When the old lady thought about it, sure enough, her face changed from cloudy to sunny, and she felt better all at once. In the same way, when dealing with people, you should also be enthusiastic and generous and pay attention to discovering the shining points in each other. Sometimes you also need to use the sparkle on your body to illuminate others so that everyone's mood is bright and cheerful. In this way, more people will be willing to get along with you.

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