Relationships: My Point of View

A true relationship is full of happiness. Spontaneous and exciting. Pure love. But people get love and lust confused. Love is when you are strongly and emotionally attached to this person. You love everything about them. All you can think about is being with them. You get worried if they get sick and if something happens, you heart almost jumps out of your chest. You are concerned about this person and their well-being; the feeling is mutual.

But lust is when your judgment is clouded. Sex, money, and good looks will give you the idea that you love this person. The feelings that are there are not genuine. It feels good for a while and you will stay with the person convinced that you are in love and hold on for a while, but eventually, the bottom falls out and your feelings are hurt because you thought you had something good and then you realize that you didn’t. However long it lasted, it was just temporary happiness, but it was fun while it lasted.

Nothing hurts more than when you love someone that does not love you back. We have all been down that road. You put 100% into the situation and get nothing in return. But, for some strange reason, you held on to false hope, thinking that one day, things would change. Hoping that the person would straighten up and love you back. Most of the time, that never happens.

Its hard to bounce back from that. You beat yourself up wondering what you did wrong, thinking you weren’t good enough and you try to determine the problem. You have to realize that you were not the problem and that you did nothing wrong. Some people just don’t appreciate what they have and what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.

When you talk about commitment, that’s a strong word. To some, it’s a cuss word. There are some marriages and relationships where people are committed. But, for those people who aren’t committed, it’s like a game. They gotta have everyone that they see. The thing is, if you have something good at home, you better keep it. The temporary man or woman you are chasing is going to let you down every time. If that man or woman was about something, they wouldn’t be trying to separate you from the person you are with.

If you are not happy at home, then venture out but make sure you leave home before you venture out. Don’t have the person at home thinking things are fine while you are out doing whatever just because you want to be happy. And when you venture out, pick 1 person that you really want. Not several.

A real relationship is built on trust and love. Temptation can be resisted, there are no compromising situations and there is 100% trust. There will be arguments, but they can be resolved. There must be teamwork and you can agree to disagree. Nobody is right all the time.

To conclude my story: I am going to end with a poem entitled, Tell the Truth (Honesty About Relationships)

Tell the Truth (Honesty About Relationships)

Honesty is the best policy, always keep it real

If you want a commitment, tell that person how you feel

Don’t play with feelings, say what you want upfront

Things will be much better, if you’re done, say you’re done

Don’t leave and try to come back, this is no revolving door

You left, no coming back, return here no more

If a relationship can end just like that

It wasn’t true from the beginning, its ok, no need to get mad