Money, Love, & Sex

You look at the world today, and then you’d ask yourself, DOES TRUE LOVE exist? Yes, it does. But there are more and many things attached to it.

For today, I want to talk about the closest friends that dwell in the lives of humans. And they are MONEY, LOVE and SEX. These friends in the ages were known not to be this close. Then, you have Love coming first in all things, especially RELATIONSHIPS. A girl/lady/woman then wouldn’t be so bothered if her BOYFRIEND, FIANCE or HUSBAND isn’t rich or powerful. But today, a lot of things have change, and now you have MONEY coming first in relationships.

Love we know is this special and unconditional feeling you have for someone. You can love yours Parents, Neighbours, your friends and your siblings. But, this type of SPECIAL and UNCONDITIONAL feeling I mean, is that which you have for your MISSING RIB.

Love in the days of our older generations, was known to be Passionate, Truthful, Fruitful and Futuristic. Then, a woman would strive and pray hard just so her MAN can be great. The parable ̀Behind every successful man, there’s a woman ́ applies to them. But nowadays, you’d realize the youths, especially the girls, would only want to be seen around town with rich guys, not minding their source of income. You’d see those we refer to as our TOMORROW or our FUTURE, messing around the streets, clubs, bars and hotels. The girls with their shabby, mini, shorts, transparent, pants and other INDECENT wears, and the guys would show off with their Locked or Dreaded hair, watches, cars, clothes, trousers, shoes and expensive electronic devices.

I ask myself this question all the time that, Why are some girls so GULLIBLE? (Some, cause they are not the same). You have a very special that’s rare and not common, a guy who loves you from the bottom of his heart, but he’s presently having an issue with financial stability. You’d then leave him for this so called BIG BOY or BIG GUY as they say, because you think he’s gotten everything you want in a man, especially MONEY. If I may ask, is MONEY everything? I mean should we base everything in life on MONEY? No, we shouldn’t. I once said it on my blog about The 3 genre's of humanity that (The easiest way that comes with SWEETNESS is also the quickest way that leads to BITTERNESS).

When a guy offers you material things in a relationship, definitely you should know that someday, he’s gonna demand for something else. And if a guy offers you little or nothing in a relationship, don’t see him as the stingy type. He’s only trying to create some DISCIPLINE in the relationship. Though, it depends on his financial stability.

Imagine the so-called BIG GUY you’re dating, that you think he loves you but he’s only after something else, taking you to the eatery or cafeteria, buying foods, pies, burgers, snacks and drinks for you like you’re a hungry wolf. Or a guy who takes you on a shopping sphere and spends thousands on you like you told him you lacked clothes. Such a guy wouldn’t do all these for the sake of LOVE alone. Its either he’s been getting something from it or wants something from it in return.

I’m not saying true LOVE doesn’t come from these too. But why spend so much on material things when you could both plan something big on it.

If you RECEIVE, you’d surely have to GIVE. Men are not fools. When they pour on you like showers of blessings from above, don’t think they are deeply in love with you. Your case (The girl), is just like you having a chick, that you nurtured and spent on it till it’s fully grown, whether the hen likes it or not, it would surely be slaughtered and consumed. The same thing applies to the girl who keeps getting and collecting flashy things from her BIG GUY, whether she likes or not, one day she’d have no other choice than to repay it all with SEX, at times her VIRGINITY.

The true fact is this, a man who’s struggling or went through hell before he could ends meet, wouldn’t spend on you like a SPENDTHRIFT. He’d in fact make you understand the fact that MONEY is not all. Though, that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t be performing his responsibilities as your fiance he would, but not like a wasteful spender. Besides, you’re still on the way and not yet in: I mean you’re still his girlfriend or lover and not his FIANCEE or HOUSEWIFE.

The rate at which girls lost their VIRGINITY all in the name of LOVE and MONEY have seemingly become an INCURABLE disease. It hurts me the more because they give them to guys who mean or have nothing real in mind for them. But because they spend on them, their mentality is that they Love them.

Why on earth should give your VIRGINITY, your BODY, your SOUL all in the name of love!!! SEX is not LOVE and LOVE is not SEX. It’s just the act of satisfying one’s physical and sexual desire or feelings. If a guy wants to walk away and leave you because you denied him of SEX, my girl please let him go. Don’t be so stupid or foolish to the extent of giving yourself to him in the name of love or because he’s having money. A five minutes enjoyment for the guy and pains for you may become something you’d live to regret for the rest of your life. Give SEX willingly, not because you had to, but because you want to.

Back then during the old times in some African countries, they have the special festivals they do where all maidens in such village or town would be brought out to dance to the amusement of the onlookers. You dare not lie about your Virginity as such thing was believed to anger the gods of the land. Once discovered, such a girl might end up losing her life with the guy she committed such act with, in order to atone for their mistakes, appease the gods and also cleanse the land. Then, VIRGINITY was held with utmost UPRIGHTNESS, and not today that it’s easy to get like iced fish in the market. You’d just shower the girl some fake LOVE and CASH.

All hail goes to those girls who would never want to hear any word about SEX or MONEY, but would only tell you they’re not in a hurry and would strive with their man till he achieves SUCCESS. Such are the girls that deserve pampering because they are one in a million.

LOVE is LOVE, SEX is SEX, and MONEY is MONEY

They’re what they are, don’t mix them up or let them contradict each other. You should know what you want or why you’re in a relationship, and if you don’t, then check out Love (DEFINITION'S & REASON'S) - coming soon. Even if the guy happens to be the type who’s ready to spend for Love's sake, you can make him understand that there are other things you can do than spending on MATERIAL THINGS. Teach him how to SAVE and INVEST, teach him how to PLAN and ESTABLISH. Stop being the greedy type, stop wanting to wear or use everything that’s in VOGUE, stop being COMMON. As the girl, you should be the BUILDER and not the DESTROYER.

Once he asks for it (SEX) and you tell him NO, believe me if he’s meant for you, he’d have no other choice than to wait for the RIGHT time, till the time you’re ready. And if he’s not, he’d walk away, life continues. But be sure you haven’t spent much of his MONEY, or receive hundreds of his gifts, cause he’d definitely make you pay for that.

As for this post, it applies mainly to you girls out there because, whatsoever happens, you get affected the most. So don’t let any affect the other. The greatest of them is LOVE, let it stand alone, don’t attach any other thing to it and you’d realize it would stay strong till it’s time for the rest to follow. Remember, no relationship between two people can survive if it’s based on material things or benefits.

Instead of buying and spending, why not find a quiet and cool spot, go to the park, relax and talk on how to make the future bright for you both. Relationship should be all about Love, Peace, Joy, Happiness, Commitment and Plans.

A childish girl of mine once told me that ̏When there’s money, there’s love ̋, I smiled and I said ̏When there’s money, there’s sex, pains, hardship, mistrust and sometimes DEATH. ̋ Rate at which young girls are been MOLESTED in the world today is so alarming. Death is happening to lot of these girls from the hands of their so called BIG GUY’s. A guy can date you for years, showering and spending on you like he really loves you, but wouldn’t have any other plan in mind than to devour you like the hungry wolf. Remember, ̀A patient dog eats the fattest bone ́ you can be patient if you want to do both GOOD and BAD. Patience is all what it takes for your BIG GUY to consume you after he had FED you.

Build your FUTURE with someone who’s gat great plans, someone you know he’s gat a FUTURE. A guy with CARS, MANSION and CASH doesn’t mean his FUTURE is secured. What about his PAST and his PRESENT? Look at those two and then you can determine his FUTURE. Stop digging your early grave by chasing after these guys. You see, the way you present yourself is the way everyone would ACCEPT and APPROACH you. If you dress like an INDECENT girl, NUISANCE of a guy would approach you. Don’t judge from the guy’s look or words (Never judge a book by its cover). Guy’s mouth are so SWEET COATED or SUGAR COATED, you’d realize that, those who say and talk much mean less and those who say little mean lots. So, beware of those or that you’d give your heart too.

I know you GIRLS want to be seen around town as QUEENS. You want your mates to envy you and get jealous of your BAD and DIRTY lifestyle. When you see your fellow girls that refuse to tread on your footpaths you’d call them FOOLS, DUMMIES, KIDS, little did you know that you are the RIGHT description for those words. Know the difference between enjoying your YOUTH and destroying your FUTURE.

So to y’all my readers, let’s be more careful in our quest for MONEY in relationships. Be sure you’re not on the path to VANITY thinking its LOVE. Let LOVE come first in every RELATIONSHIP. It brings with it Happiness, Peace, Hope, Joy, Laughter, Peace of mind and Trust. When you have all these, you wouldn’t be so bothered about the rest. The same way MONEY has its Advantage in relationships is also the same way it comes with its Disadvantages. Build the world with LOVE. Raise your matrimonial home with PEACE. Not everything in life should be based on material aspects.

CONCLUSION: Let your relationship be a role model to others. As a girl, let LOVE be your main priority when embarking or venturing into any relationship. Don’t lose yourself to a guy all in the name of MONEY. If you refused to give him and he darted off, let him go. He would feel ashamed of himself and you’ve also proven yourself to be a girl/lady of VIRTUE and wherever he goes, even among his friends, when speaking of you, he would accord you with RESPECT. But when you lose yourself to him in the name of LOVE or MONEY, he would refer to you as a FOOL, a CHEAP girl and even turn you to a laughing stock among his friends. At the end, he would leave you for another girl and you’d end up been a STREET DOG.

Please my BEAUTIFUL girls out there beware of the hungry wolves that are waiting to DEVOUR you. Be patient with that who LOVES you but isn’t financially stable. Because, someday you’d be glad you never left him. MONEY is not LOVE, SEX is not LOVE. LOVE is LOVE.

I remain your BLESSED speaker and writer, Ogundele Og.d

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