Marriage... Not for the weak-hearted

Let's discuss Marriage. Why, you may ask? Because I know from experience that it is vital for all upcoming lovers to know exactly what they are getting themselves into. When I think of the day when I said those two confirming words right before that first kiss... There was this unknown feeling of what to expect after the bright lights, the expensive flowers were wrapped up, all the gadgets and gizmos were collected, the final picture was snapped. That feeling of being alone with my wife was the best feeling ever after everyone left, but there was that question all newlyweds will or maybe should have in their heads: What now? That "what now?" question is normal. It is one of the unexpected. Not knowing what hurdles will become obstacles in your marriage and how to jump them when they approach. What I did NOT realize about getting married was the comfort level that can slowly penetrate as the years quickly add up. The honeymoon phase can show you great heights of where you SHOULD maintain your marriage. We were in St. Lucia for our honeymoon and it was absolutely magnificent! Upon arrival, we were amiably greeted with full-strength alcoholic mixtures to give us inner solace from our long flight. Dinner for two on the beach as the sounds of the water played a soothing orchestra. A restaurant,-by chance- reserved for us with the sexy sounds of the piano as we ate and cherished that special moment. It was truly amazing. One thing about having such a great time is that when it is over, life truly begins. What I mean by great times are the ceremony from the wedding, the dancing, the pictures taken, the inebriation from each glass sipped, even the honeymoon. Newlyweds must know this. These is the most fun times in the beginning of a marriage. It can be deceiving if you are not careful. Fun doesn't equate to reality. Reality can and will trickle down in marriage. Not to say one can not be prepared, but husbands and wives must realize that love alone cannot maintain a marriage. There are nights when you will forget why you even got married for an argument that both parties will not even remember afterwards. Both parties must keep in mind that being teammates is vital and mandatory for survival and ultimate progress in marriage. Do not lose touch with the person that your significant other fell in love with. Comfort is the enemy of repetitive love actions. Continue to wine and dine each other. Don't be consumed with working a job, but instead, work on your marriage daily. Look at yourselves in the mirror and ask yourself, "what can I contribute to make our marriage better?" Remember, just because the rings are on, doesn't mean that they cannot be removed... Permanently. Marriage is not for the weak-hearted. Love isn't the factor that will keep your marriage buoy afloat. Overtime is mandatory and sometimes all you want to do is lay down under your comforter. Holidays are not a day off and time and a half monetary gains are not offered. Let's talk about the sex. Sex is mind-blowing in a rookie marriage. Add extra years to your marriage with kids who can't define privacy. If you aren't attentive, even sex can lose its spice. Be in tune with your partners sexual needs and your own. Like I said prior, This is just a service announcement to those future husbands and wives. Be aware and mindful in your marriage. Or it might be too late to recover the jewel in which you discovered when marriage was confirmed.