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Many important relationships are subconsciously presented

Any relationship that is not consummated will affect the next relationship, and any relationship that is not consummated with someone in the last one will also affect the next one with someone else.

By SonnyPublished about a year ago 3 min read
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Many important relationships are subconsciously presented
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Just as if you didn't get it right with your child yesterday, it will naturally affect the way you interact with him today.

Conversely, if we try to change our hearts instead of changing our relationships, we don't change people easily in our relationships, but approach the person across from us with an aware eye.

Look in the mirror and see how our fixed patterns of behavior, fixed beliefs and values, and fixed emotional patterns are causing our problems in relationships.

If we are willing to approach each other with this awareness and willingness, we can heal and grow tremendously in the relationship.

So, relationships either sink or fly.

If you are willing to face it, you can grow and transform tremendously. Because you will be completely able to look at your life in a different way and from a different perspective.

But if you are not willing to change yourself and look at yourself, the relationship will also be very painful for you.

Another focus of intimacy for growth is the subconscious mind. In a way, our relationship is our subconscious, or our partner is our subconscious. If you are willing to look at the important relationships around you, you will find that those important relationships are your subconscious.

By resisting others we are resisting a part of ourselves. We already have such good and bad right and wrong long before we meet our partner or meet a more important relationship. For example, we can only succeed and not fail, we can only work hard and not be lazy, and we can only have light and not darkness.

We spend a long time just trying to block out these negative feelings, even though we spend our whole life controlling ourselves, asking ourselves not to experience these feelings anymore, to suppress these inner feelings.

So, when we find these negative traits in a significant partner or intimate partner around us, we become especially impatient.

We will not want to be near them, we will not want to understand them, we will not want to accept them, and we are critical of these energies. We will constantly prove ourselves - I am hardworking, you are lazy; I am light, you are dark; I am successful, you are a failure .......

This is when we run out of patience and are full of criticism towards these feelings and energies of theirs. The truth is that all these energies will slowly transform into positive ones if we are willing to give love.

For example, if we are willing to accept the other person's laziness, she will slowly learn how to be diligent; if we are willing to accept the other person's darkness, he will learn how to slowly become light; if we accept the other person's failure, they will slowly learn how to succeed ......

All negative energy, if we are willing to give love and acceptance, can be changed.

It's just that we lack patience with each other, and we are full of criticism and judgment of some of their negative energies. But when we criticize the other person, they instead have trouble getting inner spiritual support, and they have even less strength to get through their darkness, overcome their laziness, and face their failures. This is the time when their negative energy will instead grow stronger.

As long as we are willing to accompany the weakness of people around us, their weaknesses will slowly become stronger.

But we are often unwilling to give our love and acceptance, and that is because we are impatient and critical of our weaknesses, our darkness, laziness, and failures. What we demand of ourselves naturally becomes what we demand of those around us.

But you must have the experience that the more you criticize a part of yourself, the harder it is for a part of you to change.

You criticize yourself for being lazy and you will be lazy; you criticize yourself for being dark and you will continue to be dark; you criticize yourself for failing and you will continue to have countless feelings of failure pop up ......

That's because we have no patience with ourselves, we have no patience with the people around us, so then instead we have people around us that we don't like that way.

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