Most recently published stories in Humans.
Love more: nature, summer hits, each other
Last weekend I participated in my first ever Zoom hosted birthday party. We all dialled in from our respective locations around Europe and had a few drinks together as if we were down the local. Everyone attempted to outdo each other with party paraphernalia including wigs, hats, sunglasses, and flashy jackets- baubles from festivals and house parties of bygone days.Finn Bartram
👋🏾 There, I am sure we have room to argue that this March-May is the most popular, most active, most social part of a calendar year. At least here in most of America, These three months mark the beginning of warmer temperatures, which releases us from our hibernating state. COVID🦠19 however has decided to not just keep us in hibernation, but have forced us to make a life out of it. It is on mainly levels painful, with the remaining levels locked at extremely uncomfortable.Erik DeSean Barrett
The woman who made me who I am
I started working for her in August 2018. I was in visiting family in Scotland the fist time I spoke to her. The first time we met in person on shift we clicked instantly, and we got along well. We would call each other names, things that employees and employers should not call each other, but we both knew it was all just a bit of fun.Caitlin Bishop
Dating in 2020
Dating in 2020 is nothing less than a monopoly of dating apps ready and waiting to show you who is the next person you are going to spend some personal time with. If you know what I mean. the days of going out and meeting someone in a bar or a club are now 2nd in line as your mobile is always with you and gives you access to these apps. Dating apps, sex only apps, women talk first apps, uniform workers only apps even church apps the list goes on and on....
TeZATalks: Let the Message Lead You
You know those beautiful moments in life when you sit down next to someone, seemingly a stranger, you both spark up a conversation and within an instant it feels as if you guys are just picking up where a previous conversation had left off? That was the immediate bond my best friend Teza and I had when we met. I was at such an insane point in my life when my path crossed with Teza’s. I was heavily involved in the nightlife scene where my only focus was on what party or afters was happening next. I lived over 5,000 miles away from my family and childhood friends and had really lost touch with a lot of those relationships. I surrounded myself with empty friendships and surface-level relationships; however to me, that was all I knew and accepted as normal. But then Teza came into my life. Suddenly I had someone calling and texting me daily just to check in and see how I was doing. I had someone who wanted me right there with them not only to go out on the town with, but to chill at home, share a bowl and some wine, and stay up all night talking with. We instantly became known as an automatic duo. Attached at the hip. A package deal. And it was very soon that I realized that Teza didn’t just show me love by hanging out with me and checking in on me, she showed it by genuinely having my back.Cait Cassidy
6 INCREDIBLE GIFTS FOR YOUR LOVED ONES
Who wouldn’t want to gift an incredible something to their loved ones? People are often looking for ideas to gift their better halves, parents, friends, and other family members.Li Estella
Welcome to Purgatory for Singles
Being involved in a Breakup is always hard, damaging, dangerous. Where tears, temper tantrums and anger burst are prevalent. Depression, feeling sorry for yourself, bouts of crying is always the norm. Craving something sweet, or something sour trying to eliminate these feelings temporarily is the remedy to go back to normal. But being in a relationship to then not having no one, is like being demoted from a supervised position to back at where you started. If you're being dumped, ghosted, or decided to call it quits instead of being given a ring on your left finger, congratulations! You're back into the singles pile or singles purgatory!
My First Boyfriend
Love. It's a funny thing now that I think about it. It always makes you want to listen to your heart instead of your head, which is never a good idea really. Your heart is almost always going to tell you what you want, but your head will tell you what is sensible. I know that what I just said is something that every young girl will hear at some point in their life. Trust me though, I have learned from experience.Grace Sharp
Jordan Peterson: Lying Is Bad For You
Above is an old lecture on YouTube. In it, Jordan Peterson, the clinical psychologist and University of Toronto professor, talks about The Necessity of Virtue; why it is not only useful but also necessary for us and our society that we behave morally and act virtuously.
To All The Men I've Pushed Away
Dear Men I’ve Pushed Away, I know the chance that you’re reading this is slim, but if you’ve found yourself here, I want you to know it’s not your fault. Whatever happened between us was a result of me trying to protect myself. It’s likely that you’re a great man who I pushed away. I didn’t mean to, it’s just something that happens whenever I sense that someone likes me. It doesn’t always have to be someone who is romantically interested in me. I’ve ended friendships because of my need to protect myself. Sometimes I don’t even know I’m doing it until the person is gone and I end up hurt. So why do I do this if that’s the outcome? I guess it’s because I’m afraid. No, I don’t think you’re dangerous or that you’ll end up using or hurting me. The problem lies within me. I don’t trust myself to pick someone who is good for me. I know that sounds insulting, so I want to clarify that I don’t think you’ll hurt me. I didn’t think HE would have done the things he did to me either. Throughout the course of our relationship, I excused his behavior as a product of his past. I told myself that the reason he wouldn’t let me out of his sight was because his mother didn’t let him out of hers. I wanted to believe that he picked fights with me because he didn’t know how to love me. He didn’t have the best example, since his parents were always physically fighting and name calling each other. Someone recently told me he must not have been so bad since I picked him. There were so many things I wanted to say in response. Each thing would have revealed more about me than I felt comfortable with, so I kept it simple. I told him that my ex was different at the beginning of our relationship, which was true. It wasn’t hard for him to trick me into thinking he was everything that I wanted. In reality, he was a liar and an abuser. It’s because of him that I’m not able to love as freely. I was a different person at the start of that relationship. I was the kind of girl who still believed in soulmates and other innocent things that I find to be silly now. I would have never thought that I would end up with a man who abused me. That innocence was likely the reason he picked me. It’s easy to be with someone who seems excited to be with you, so it was easy to be with him in the beginning. I magnified the good things he did for me, which aided me in overlooking the vibrant red flags. I allowed him to change me until he destroyed the sweet girl that I used to be. It started out with little things, like him making a comment about my weight that bothered me. I let him nitpick my looks until I believed that I was ugly. It wasn’t long before I didn’t feel comfortable in my own home without makeup. I started starving myself and developed an unhealthy relationship with food as a result. I gave up most of my interests and hobbies for him and became a shell of the woman I used to be. You’d have probably liked that woman. The woman I am now is stuck somewhere between fight or flight mode and I end up pushing everyone away. I’m trying to fix the woman I’ve become, but it takes time. If you’ve made it this far, I appreciate it, and I hope that you can find it in yourself to be patient with me.
The Emptiest Night of My Life
The cheese was thawing on the counter, and I rushed home to pan sear the rosemary garlic chicken that had been marinating in the fridge. Minutes before, with no car, I had just gotten home from hauling two large packages of grapes, two inconveniently shaped trays of strawberries, and a bunch of other ornaments to fancify the evening. It was already 5:30 - one and a half more hours before my guests were to arrive for my cheese and wine tasting party.Confessions of an Undercover People Pleaser
I'm just trying to figure things out as I go along...
I'm not sure about you but I don't honestly feel like I'm the same person twice. I rarely feel like I'm ever staying still, I'm always changing, always learning things, forming new opinions. Many of them have even surprised me, where I'm pretty opened minded I also feel like I'm a bit stuck in my ways. I like a routine. I like knowing what's happening, what things are and what they're meant to do, who people are and what their relation to me is supposed to be. I can't just know you because I know you, you have to serve some sort of purpose; if I met you in the grocery store while picking out which bananas were the yellowy, that's what you're going to be for me - the banana picker outer. I don't know why. That's just the way my brain works. I can't fix it. Lately, I've been thinking a lot about myself. I mean, between not being able to physically go to work, homeschooling my special needs teenage daughter and having to sit three and a half hours through dialysis three days a week, what else am I suppose to do except write about it here for you to read?! OMG, this is probably not going to be as amazing as I really want it to be but I'll try my best. I hope you like it...Jacqueline Courtney Rios