Keeping a Long Distance Relationship Interesting

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years, one of which we have been long distance. Many people ask me, how do we do it? I know it won't work for everyone, but from the time we began dating, we had a set time called, "Bae Time." Bae Time is basically a time when both of us just talk about life and reassure each other that this is forever. In this "Bae Time," which was at least an hour, we learnt to love each other correctly, to communicate, and occasionally, we also talk about how we can pleasure each other.

Here are some things we have done in our bae time that any other couple can do too:

1. Plan for our future together—basically, the wedding, the children, and the end-goals.

For me, I saw this really helps because we got to see if our futures align. Because one of the biggest causes of breakups after a long time of dating is not having the same end-goals. And this usually hurts, especially if you have put so much effort and time into a person.

2. Do online quizzes about love languages.

Although it may seem childish, I found that knowing how your partner likes to be loved creates less friction because you could be buying your partner every gift available, but you aren't giving words of affirmation which they crave. This will leave them feeling unwanted; also, going to couples therapy always helps if you are facing problems with communicating.

3. Search sex positions or shop online together for lingerie or sexy things.

We all like to get physical, although it's hard to do it from different continents. My boyfriend and I have found that shopping for sex toys or looking at sex positions together help the sex feel better cause we both know our bodies through masturbation with sex toys. The looking at sex positions will help you get in the mood for the next time you meet.

P.S. No need pack a lot of clothes, because trust me, there is going to be no need for them while you are trying out your new positions.

4. Be each other's notebook.

Might seem a bit stalkerish, but I know my boyfriend's whole timetable, and he knows mine, so there is no "who is that girl who tagged you at a strip club when you were supposed to be at work" situation, cause trust me, it be like that sometimes.

This is my first time doing something like this and I am excited to see the results.