Journey in Love

I've always wondered why people call it 'falling in love'. I never wanted to call it falling, because it would imply that I was never prepared for it. I wanted to refer to it as walking into love. In order to imply that getting into a relationship, love should be the end result, therefore it becomes something you walk into because it is expected. But love is patience and seeks peace, love is kind and thoughtful, it is not jealous or envious. It is not rude or self-seeking, it bears all things and believes and hopes for good in all things. Love endures, love never fades or ends. That is real love, which explains the falling when we are in love, because love is out of control. Love is unpredictable, and has no safety net, because we never know what will happen.

The reason we are meant to fall is because love is supposed to make us vulnerable. Love is naked, without conditions and expectations. It hurts our egos and destroys self pride. Real love means you know yourself before you give yourself away, because you don't want to be hurt in that manner, therefore you would never treat the person you love badly. Have self-awareness when getting into relationships, your values become reflected between each other. Real love is being mostly comfortable with giving rather than taking. It's called being selfless. Today's generation has mistaken giving with materialistic tangible items, rather than giving time and being attentive. True love is making sacrifices, and compromising. You love someone when you see the best in them even when others don't see it. Becoming their backbone when the other is weak.

1. In a relationship your love should motivate and uplift the both of you together. Key word TOGETHER.
2. Love should grow without the interference of what the world deems as relationship goals. Stop getting into relationships just to be Facebook official. Be aware of the differences between infatuation and love. Difference between lust and love. Physical attraction being greater than mental and spiritual attraction is lust not love. Don't confuse the two.
3. Love is not a noun, it is a verb. Be careful what and who you love. Our actions are louder than our words.

Love is not a walk, rather it's more of a crawl. It's one of the emotions that requires work because we cannot easily turn it on and off. Days will be bright, and others will be hard. Love is tested, and we pass, and other times we fail. Which is why love is patient. Knees may be bruised, but they heal over time. Build love, and like every building it takes time, effort, attention, and a strong foundation to move forward. Lastly and most importantly choose each other everyday. Be each other's first choice.

In the hard times remember;

1. The silent treatment is just dragging on the problem. Talk it out.
2. Get comfortable with saying "I'm sorry." Accusations only dig a hole deeper than it needs to be.
3. Don't be quick to walk out. If you really love someone you fight for the love you have. You fight not to lose them.

Someone once said, until you truly know someone, and you still choose to stand by them, can you then say you love them. Do you know what makes them angry? Are you able to see the signs when they want to avoid doing something? Are you able to stand the smell of their feet? Does your best friend know more about you than the person who you say you love?

A reminder: You cannot love someone you don't know. And just because you might be married, or in a relationship that doesn't mean you stop trying to know them. People are constantly changing. Invest on each other.

Keep learning, moving, and laughing.