Is It Normal to Have Crush for Someone Else While married?

Marrying the love of your life doesn't mean you stop caring about other people. It also doesn't mean you shouldn't give in to temptation. We're all human, and turning a blind eye to the rest of the world once we find our person is unrealistic (despite what every rom-com would want you to believe).

The attraction is natural. That's literally what keeps our species from becoming extinct. So there's no reason to constantly make yourself feel guilty over something so trivial, especially when your very human partner may have done the same. With that said, be sure to be gentle with your partner, and try not to read too much, if they come to you with their own confession. Here, how people handle crushes on other people—without ruining their marriage.

Yes, it is normal for a married person to love someone other than their partner.

Over time, marriages can grow stale and ultimately fail to meet the needs of both partners – ultimately leading to romantic desire, excitement, connection, and love outside the relationship.

Just because you have feelings for someone other than your partner doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your marriage.

Your partner is unlikely to meet all of your needs, and you will definitely be attracted to people outside of your marriage.

Even if your relationship is solid and stable, at some point, you may find yourself attracted to other people but have no desire to cheat. But sometimes, fleeting feelings turn into something more.

Even happily married people find themselves attracted to or even in love with other people.

Loving someone other than your partner doesn't mean you are a bad person.

You're a human being with feelings, but those feelings don't need to be significant or suggest anything is wrong with your partner or the person you're feeling.

Falling in love is one of the most amazing experiences.

If you're in a long-term relationship where the romance and passion of the early days have long faded, a part of you may long for an exciting relationship, deep intimacy, and a burning desire for romantic love.

If you are self-aware, in a committed relationship, and still feel love for your partner, you don't need to follow the feelings you have for the other person – you can handle them with wisdom and maturity. Just don't punish yourself or sink into guilt.

You are committed to your partner, and you never intended to fall in love with anyone else, so why would that happen?

A crush that started off innocently enough might start to cross the line into emotional infidelity territory if left unchecked. One sign: When you get news, good or bad, what is your first instinct to tell your crush or your partner?

A mentor once told me, 'You know you're a good fit when your partner is the first person you want to tell the good news, and the first to tell the bad news,'” Is it your partner's confidant or your crush? If your crush starts compromising the physical or emotional intimacy you have with your primary relationship, or you spark fantasies about it happening, you're in dangerous territory.

It's important to be honest with yourself. In your heart, is it really "just a crush" or is there more to it?

There is a fairly obvious line between an emotional affair and a crush. Also, it's not possible to have a crush on someone where there has been previous involvement. That's called history. A crush is not an excuse or an invitation to cross the line behind the significant other's back. So what should you do if you suspect your feelings are more serious? For starters, do not reveal this to your crush,

It can make things awkward in that the other person feels pressure to feel the same way or to respond. Also, don't crush under the influence of alcohol. Have a strategy planned for exiting a social situation if things are heading in a direction where the line could be crossed.

If you're having trouble sorting out your own feelings about this other person, consider asking a therapist for help.