In A World That Is Uncaring, We Need To Learn To Care.

I have written many stories that talk about my heartbreaking and painful trauma journey. I have also mentioned how isolated, alone and scared I felt during that journey of which I mostly travelled alone until I met my husband.

Painful experiences are not something a person just forgets. The memories can stay with us for the rest of our lives.

In light of recent events, there are going to be many people who have seen so much more trauma than I could ever say I have been through in my life. The world is a scary place right now, and more so for those faced with vulnerabilty.

Vulnerability comes in many forms. We all have vulnerabilities whether we admit it or not. Some of us may have them, yet people might not be able to see them.

The person who walks down the street whistling a happy tune may look happy on the outside, though do you really know what they are feeling on the inside? Do you really see what they have been through today or in their past?

This brings me to why we all need to learn to care.

Think about this for a minute.

Has there ever been a time in your life when something really bad has happened to you, and all you can do is hold your head high hoping that nobody ever sees the state that you are really in because the world made you feel soft for showing it?

The world often shames us for being upset, angry or showing how we really feel.

We are often told to get over it and move on with our lives or we are belittled for not being tough enough.

This sends out the wrong message.

It tells people that being upset is a sign of weakness.

I have seen the above applied to both men and women alike.

This kind of reaction to a person who is suffering causes more suffering. It makes them feel unequal and indifferent.

Let us take the case of a friend I was speaking to earlier.

My friend does not have an easy life. She is 21 years old. She suffers from mental health problems and she is a carer.

People often tell her that she is incapable of being a carer because she has mental health problems.

However, she gets up early every day, often hiding and battling her own feelings while caring for her mum who is also physically disabled. She spends her life cooking, cleaning, shopping and collecting medication for her mum. She also has to help her mum get dressed, bathed and get out of the house.

As if this isn't enough...

My friend has to put up with being called names such as loser, retard, abuser etc., Her mum puts up with names like dumb, handicapped, mental, insane, mad, stupid and more.

There are other ways in which people are uncaring

People who are not disabled are also sometimes faced with an uncaring world.

For example :

• a struggling parent may have been bullied today because she is struggling to maintain her home.
• A person walking down the street may have been jumped for no reason at all.
• A person may be faced with hate crime in her own street just because she does things differently.

Each and every single one of these people could be going through things that you don't know about, and this is no excuse to be uncaring.

CONCLUSION

Many people no matter where they are from, are faced with many different situations. You will come across people from all walks of life in our world.

We see things that go on in different parts of the world every day, and we often tell ourselves that we will never go through it. People face different difficulties, and each one of us has a story to tell.

We are all human, and we do not all experience the same painful events that others have gone through. We cannot possibly understand everything, but...

We do not need to experience another's pain to show empathy or sympathy.

We can show caring by:

• Listening to what the other person has to say without being agressive even if we don't know what they are going through.
• Showing compassion by making the upset person a warm drink.
• Offering other forms of genuine support like friendship goes a long way
• Not using abusive language. There is no need for it, and we do not have the right to inflict pain on others simply because we can't understand them.
• Accepting them regardless of colour, disability, how they dress or differences.
• Just being there, even if we feel helpless.

The world feels uncaring enough right now. Let us remember there are people out there who are going through things that we are praying we never have to go through.

Let's stand together and learn to care.

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