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If we do not succeed in life

Every day that you don't dance is a disappointment to life. And you try, success or failure is left to fate.

By Sue TorresPublished about a year ago 5 min read
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There is a novel "asking for it", in which the main character Walter, from a young age, forever playing that curled up and rolled down the hill loser, he seems to have a bone in his body like to win a simple and easy failure. Then, in the future, after he was fired by his boss, and not too sad, he began to treat himself with a spirit of enjoying failure - while wandering the streets, desperately looking for work, lying to the family, and accidentally revealing. Many people in the review of the character of Walter, "delusional enjoyment of failure" to attach the man, but, at the moment of reading, I only felt a kind of desolation - a kind of ordinary people after the failure of desolation and the greatest compromise on life.

The reason I say this story is because some time ago, a friend of mine lost her job again, that night, she updated her status in her circle of friends: If I am doomed to fail in life, I have to bravely go on. Go for it!

Unemployment is something she told me later. She did not dare to tell her family. Every day, she left home on time with her laptop at the usual working hours, sat at the door of the city coffee shop, dabbled with the Internet to find a job, and appeared in front of her parents on time to go home. She just hopes to spend this short period without working quietly, and then no one will notice.

I said: Come on, every day that you don't dance is a disappointment in live. If if you work hard, success or failure will be left to fate.

To be honest, she was an exceptionally hard worker but never seemed to be favored by luck. When she was a student, she was always the first to finish her homework, which was two or three pages thick and took a lot of time to find information, but the excellent homework was never hers. Before the exam, she never temporarily sharpened her gun, usually half a month in advance to start going in and out of the library to study, for a few days, even lunchtime can not be spent, a few cookies, but their class academic excellence and scholarship are never with her. In the year of graduation, she prepared for the system, a whole year of preparation, in the written test results came out, far below the interview score. She never asked me: why did others work hard to get results and she didn't, she just continued to work hard again after a failed effort.

Her unemployment, including the one after that, was not a resignation of her own accord, nor was her boss firing her from her job, but she had the misfortune to have a succession of company closures. In her first job, she worked in a small Internet company in our city, with a base salary of 1000 yuan per month and a five percent commission for every business she got. This was the first time she lost her job, and it didn't seem to matter, except that it might be that such setbacks do occur on the way to work. Her second job is in a courier company sub-point miscellaneous, with an income of 5000 yuan, this income is not low, for her, just like enough to be satisfied, in her words: when you do not have enough money to make ends meet, I do not know what the education and dreams are used to do. The workload of the courier point is very large, the sub-station is only she and the boss, she is responsible for the statistics list, the boss is responsible for outside deliveries, working at least 12 hours a day, when the double 11, more can not spare hands and feet, but she did not complain, and even often grateful to the boss occasionally send her a kindle, or take her to eat sauerkraut fish. This year, the boss, because he thought it was too hard to do the courier, switched to driving a cab, and she was thus once again unemployed.

Many people will question whether she is using the wrong energy, or the wrong direction of effort, resulting in their own repeatedly, repeatedly faced with repeated failures in learning and life, but who can say which road must be the road to success, and which one is bound to failure? In fact, for most of us, success is a kind of chance or even unattainable, we will just live an ordinary life, get up in failure and continue to live an ordinary life.

People often write to me privately: about how to get themselves to the success they envision. I knew that they wanted to ask me about the direction of my efforts or to reassure them that they would succeed. One day, a girl named H wrote me an email asking me: If you work so hard to write, will you regret it if your life is so ordinary and silent? I suddenly realized that many times, once someone hits the nail on the head, many questions, many answers, and many future outcomes, hide in themselves.

My father told me a fact when I was first writing - my character decided that I would always live a four-way life, like the sun in a less cloudy sky, no one would care if it didn't shine. My father's cold water, so that in the subsequent writing, I always hold a "success or failure" mentality, once people do not aspire to success, many external matters will seem extra casual. For example, some editors once joked with me, "Would you be sad if you didn't get a draft? I said: I seriously finished writing a manuscript, the matter is over. And after that, failure has long been considered normal and success as a gift.

There is a saying that a person's character does not depend on how she enjoys success, but on how she accepts failure. Once, I sent in a group of girlfriends "we do not succeed in life" the phrase, friends said: if we do not succeed in life, we can still sit happily in a small restaurant binge eating. Including me, including many people around me, are likely to suffer the embarrassment of a lifetime of unsuccessful, brave and strong, happy and open-minded, is our greatest reconciliation to fate.

If we do not succeed in life - with live in peace.

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