How to talk to Women

Many men struggle with connecting to a woman with the communication side of things. A lot of men have no trouble scoring themselves a girl purely because they are easy on the eye. But what about the men out there who lack confidence and need something else to woo a woman. You may notice you struggle to make her laugh, you don't know which sexual conversation to engage in or what to say and overall you might not know how to keep her interested. Here i will be telling you the truth about the female mind and what we REALLY want.

Most men think that all women get turned on from is money, power or social status. This is a common thought but very wrong indeed. We like a confident man but do not get this confused with someone who portrays themselves as being 'cocky'. The way you can come across as confident is all in the way you hold yourself upon meeting a woman. It's how you engage in conversation with her. Walk with your head held high and shoulders back, look smart. Be the first one to greet her following with asking how she is. Insure you engage in physical contact with her with either a short firm hug and/ or kiss on her cheek. Women like a man who makes every move first so this is important when you first meet. There is nothing more awkward than a greeting with no contact or even a hand shake. Guaranteed the woman will be nervous meeting you so taking her by surprise by making the first move will ease her nerves. Remember if you come across as nervous, she will pick up on those vibes and feel that way too.

Following on from the whole confident stance, you should try to appear as if your not insecure. Some women find it slightly off putting if a man doubts himself in front of them. We all have insecurities however these can be discussed further into the relationship and definitely not when trying to impress a girl you've just met. Women expect men to be secure within themselves as it comes across sexy and sophisticated. We all like a man who knows what hes doing after all.

Women get bored. We like to let the man take the reins in terms of conversation. To be able to have a smooth uplifting conversation you need to keep it fun and interesting. Ask her what she likes and don't talk about yourself too much or try and boast about your 'success' unless mentioned otherwise. It's not about winning her over with your career it's about winning her over intellectually and keeping her awake at the table. Throw some funny memories in the topic of conversation to make her laugh. Relate to something she has said and elaborate on it. Reveal an embarrassing secret. This will insure her to relax, open up to you and feel comfortable talking to you. We like down to earth men who can have a joke and not someone who is completely work driven with no sense of humour. If you can make a woman laugh your heading in the the right direction.

Social cues are a tricky topic to discuss and handle. For example, the woman your seeing may seem very interested in you and sexual chemistry slowly builds. You want to see if she gives off whats called 'social ques'. This could be a range of comments that are 'hints' towards sexual desires or come up in a flirtatious conversation. Women like to feel as if they can seduce you, it makes them feel sexy and powerful. Let them. If she tells you something a bit raunchy its important you don't brush it off and instead, show you know how to handle this situation. Reply back with a cheeky comment or a seductive smile to let her know your on the same wave length. There is nothing worse then hinting to a male about something sexual or making an 'inappropriate' naughty remark and him not knowing what to say or lacking interest. She will get rid of you before you can say 'check please!'. Keep things spicy if she gives off that vibe to you. You'll know when a lady is interested in you. She will give you the look, a cheeky smile, a bite of her lip or might even tell you straight up. If it gets to a physical point and she gives you the eye or nudge to kiss her, DO IT. Women like when the man makes the first move it proves you like her. Ladies often need reassurance that they are desirable and by you pulling this move, it boosts her confidence and mood straight away. Winner winner.

Small talk sounds easy but it can get boring if you don't do it properly. Focus a good chunk of the conversation on her. Make observations about her sense of style, traits of her personality, or your initial impression of her. Most women enjoy talking about childhood memories, drama, intriguing stories and relatable subjects. If you can relate to how a woman has felt in her past, she will feel as if you can connect on a new level of you knowing each other. Don't be afraid to express your sexual interest in her. If she looks hot, tell her. If her most attractive feature is her eyes, tell her. Do this as gentlemanly as you can and say it with confidence and a smile and surly enough she will melt into her chair.

Topics to avoid in small talk are mostly about ex partners. She wont want to hear about your ex partner or how you broke up or what you think of her so try to avoid that subject completely. If she brings up her ex, it may not be pleasant to listen to. However, reassure her and come across as caring as you can even though it might not be the ideal conversation for you. After this, try change the topic of conversation to something uplifting or buy her a drink. Women like the classic knight in shining armour idea but its important to be yourself at all times. If she doesn't like the real you after all, she probably is not the right girl for you. With this being said don't be scared to express your true opinion in conversations. Women like REAL and down to earth men they can connect with as humans. She doesn't want to feel as if she has to impress her boss. Talking to her about your opinions proves you have your own beliefs and are not afraid to be straight up. She will appreciate it even if you disagree on something showing you are your own person. DON'T mistaken this with choosing to talk purposely about subject you may have conflict about. For example, politics, religion and topics revolving around those areas are a recipe for disaster. If you disagree on something serious like this it can go from her being interested to disliking you in the matter of a few words.

The truth is, women like men who are a challenge. If you want to keep a woman’s interest she has to feel like she is slowly winning you over. If she thinks you’re too easy… she’ll lose interest. Don't give your everything on the first date and show your extremely keen. Women don't tend to desire clingy men. Don't reply to her texts too fast or pester her every 15 minutes. Play it cool. It works. Keep eye contact and show you can listen. Do not refer back to your phone. Keep off it as long as you can as women will find this a red flag showing your not interested. She will kick you to the kerb almost immediately. Wear smart attire, throw some aftershave on and put yourself to the test.