How to Spot a Toxic Relationship

by Huriye Ertay 2 years ago in advice

The things we are afraid to ask...

How to Spot a Toxic Relationship

We are in a community that we are constantly in a loop of dating, romance, and a search for romance. However, sometimes our relationships can turn into a bit too much, overwhelming, and can even pressurize us. These are called toxic relationships. Toxic relationships don't have to be romantic all the time, it can be to a friend or a family member but today's topic will focus on relationships.

10 Steps to Spot a Toxic Relationship

1. If you're the main focus!

It's great to be the center of attention in a relationship. However, it is always not the good idea. Your mistakes are exaggerated, and you suddenly think twice about your every action. A healthy relationship needs to be equal and your actions shouldn't lead the direction of the relationship.

2. If there are pathological lies!

Well, it's not my job to tell you that lying is bad but lying in a relationship leads to another lie and another. If someone is lying, I can assure you there will be a second or third lie. Some people have a pathological lying disorder which leads them to lie to get rid of problems. These people tend to have a perfect presentation about their life.

3. If it is too romantic!

It's always nice to give candles, gifts and flowers. However, it is not so nice to have candles, gifts and flowers every night. These kind of people tend to bribe you with romance as they are unsure about themselves and constantly worried that they might lose you!

4. If they are avoiding to answer questions!

The reason behind this avoidance is that they are probably good people that don't want to lie or they are too afraid that they might hurt your feelings. However, if someone is giving mixed signals, the only signal you should be getting is "RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN."

5. If they say SORRY all the time!

This comes at the top of the annoying things list! You shouldn't include anyone that says, "Sorry," a lot in your life. This shows that they are selfish people and don't want to put effort into the relationship! Again, "RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN."

6. If they say yes to everything!

I know this one is good but if they don't have a personal opinion in any particular subject, it means that they have an immature personality or they have no idea what they are doing with you. To have a healthy relationship, you need to have strong character and know what you want from a relationship. Relationships need to be straight forward, NO GAMES.

7. If it takes too much out of you!

If you find the relationship tiring, there's a great chance that it is a consuming relationship. Again, relationships are equal things! If it's always you putting all the effort into a relationship, it turns into a one-actor play. You can't possibly take all the responsibilities, do all the organisation and give all the care. After all, you are a human. (Hello, Wonder Woman!)

8. If find yourself avoiding to spend time with them!

This one is really obvious. If you feel like you don't want to spend time with that person, the odds are you don't want to spend time with that person!

9. If it gets too emotional all the time!

If you feel like you're in an emotional roller coaster, you should go away from it before hurting yourself. Emotinal stability is a really important factor in a relationship! If you're crying when you're away from that person and if you're having the happiest moments of your life when you're spending time with that person, you're in an emotinal roller coaster. RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!

10. If you're feeling alone!

You're in a relationship, but you feel like you're feeling alone and no one gets you; the reason is either you have problems that you need to solve within, or that person is probably not your fairytale. Feeling alone should be a red big fat "NO" sign for every kind of relationship.

One last point...

If you can talk your problems with toxic people and they are willing to put an effort and change, it's not too late to give a second chance to people you love.

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