How To Save Your Marriage

Saving a marriage sometimes is not easy, because sometimes the parties are so busy with their own independent lives that they do not notice their marriage is failing. Once you recognize that your marriage is in trouble, you need to take steps to try to rekindle the relationship, unless you want the marriage to fail.

1. Acknowledge that you have played a role in the failure along with your spouse. It takes two people to tango, and without the other person's participation, you cannot tango. It takes two people to repair the damage. Acknowledging that it takes two people for a marriage to work, means you know that one person is not to blame for the failure of the marriage.

2. Set a date that both of you can agree on to meet in a comfortable atmosphere to discuss how to rescue the marriage. You both may have different perspectives on the state of the marriage. You should listen to each other and decide on steps to save the marriage. Compromise may be necessary, but don't compromise on what matters to you.

3. Dating is still a good way for the both of you to reconnect. Date night seems to be a new thing for married couples. Set dates when both of you are available, go to a movie, go to dinner, go bowling, have fun with each other again. Get away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Vow to do this as often as each of you can.

4. Leave love notes for each other on the table, refrigerator, counter tops, and text little love notes to each other daily. Love notes are a great way to communicate when away from each other, and a good way to communicate love. Call each other when on break or lunch when the opportunity presents itself.

5. Show appreciation and gratitude for each other and the life you are living. What you can do is write on a piece of paper what good qualities that your spouse has and what you appreciate that your spouse does. It may not be perfect, but it may be perfect for each of you.

6. Flirt with each other. Tell each other how good the other looks, or how in love with your spouse you are, or remind your spouse that you chose him or her to spend your life with. Remember that neither one of you are perfect, and agree to accept the imperfections.

7. Send roses, candy, and write the mushiest love note you can think of. Showing love to your spouse shouldn't be a sometime thing. Make it an all the time thing. Your spouse will be very happy to know you are thinking of him or her.

8. Go back and visit the place you first met. You will remember the happiness you once felt. Take time to remember the reasons you fell in love. Remember your first kiss. Remember that smile, the touch of your hands, the embrace. Remembering may make the relationship worth going the extra mile to save.

It takes two people to save a marriage, one person cannot save it. Rekindling a relationship takes effort and time. Often life moves forward and people spend so much time working and raising children that they do not notice that their relationship is suffering. People start to grow out of love. In the end it is a couple’s decision whether or not they want to rescue their relationship. If you think it can work, go for it. If you don’t think it can work, it is better to let the chips fall where they may and walk away.