How to Emerge Victorious in a Conflict Situation

Conflicts are inevitable. They are an imminent and natural (!) Part of life. Do not try to avoid conflicts, but begin to understand them, to study their evolution, to control them, and to know what tactics to adopt in certain situations.

Science, which studies the causes of conflicts and ways to overcome them, is called conflictology. Karl Marx founded it. For decades, enlightened minds have put everything on police forces so that we can now understand what is going on around us and know exactly how to react to events.

There are five behavioral strategies for conflict participants. Once you understand how they work, the most difficult task will be to decide which tactics to choose.

# 1 Rivalry

By opting for this strategy, you need to be aware that you can both win and lose. You have to be very careful when it comes to competition, even in extreme cases. It is desirable to be confident in your strength.

You can only bet everything in a stalemate when all you have to do is resist. We call this "acute and open conflict." For example, when a man has to defend a girl from brutal aggression (even physical aggression). Or when the person has to prove his authority and power.

It is important to take into account the biggest disadvantage of this method - it is difficult to maintain a good relationship with your opponent.

# 2 Avoidance

Yes, doing nothing is also a position. It is often the most advantageous and wise! For example, when it's not worth the effort. When you have the impression that a certain color of the dress does not benefit your girlfriend, but it is not worth arguing about it.

Or when you know you don't have enough information to win. Or when you've lost control of your emotions and got so involved in the conflict that you'd better take a break. Avoidance could be an intermediate link between an emotional conflict and the negotiating table.

# 3 Adaptation

Adaptation has a lot to do with avoidance, but in this case, the person, at least apparently, takes the side of the opponent. Most often, this tactic is useful in conflicts with superiors.

The man simply adapts to the created situation and waits for its settlement. This strategy has a very good effect on communicating with women during PMS. We all know perfectly well that he goes without saying. And in this case, it would be superfluous to apply the method of rivalry.

# 4 Commitment

It was the turn of the negotiating table, mentioned above. This pattern of conduct applies to equal opponents. In this case, there will be no winners or losers. As a result, everyone will be satisfied, although they will have to make some concessions. Psychologists propose this strategy to resolve family conflicts.

You will not compromise in situations that cannot be controlled for certain reasons.

# 5 Collaboration

Another pillar of the enduring family. If the husband and wife cooperate, new ideas will arise in the process, and the reasons for respecting and loving each other will be even greater.

Of course, this strategy does not only apply to family conflicts. The idea is for opponents to become partners. They work together to resolve conflicts and overcome problems. Exchange of experience takes place, and as a result, a strong team can be formed. But this requires patience, wisdom, the ability to listen and hear each other, and the ability to be flexible.

Many psychologists give preference to this strategy for resolving conflicts.

But there are three more important issues.

• If you want to win a dispute, then control your emotions. Exclude as much as possible their influence on your statements and actions. It tends to be completely calm. Without it, no strategy will win you over in a conflict situation.
• Many situations of conflict can be avoided from the start with the help of humor as well as humanity.
• Improve your self-confidence. A person without self-confidence can hardly control the evolution of the conflict situation. At some point, it will inevitably exaggerate. This will lead to inappropriate behavior and aggravate the situation.

If it is difficult to deal with a conflict situation, then examine it as an opportunity to identify and improve your vulnerabilities. Don't be afraid of them, but study them with interest. Change for the better and be grateful to your opponents, who for a short time act as a guide to a better version of you.