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How to Deal With Missing Someone

Missing someone you love

By Mv AjayPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
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How to Deal With Missing Someone
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There is no denying the raw emotion of missing someone. It's hard to get rid of it. It lingers in your mind, just like an annoying fly buzzing about in the summertime. It is not uncommon to miss someone, but the actions you take when you feel this way can be very different.

This article will discuss why you might be missing someone, and how to deal with the various emotions that accompany it (and what to do if they don't miss you back).

Why do you miss someone?

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Humans are naturally connected to others and form bonds over time. Missing someone actually means failing to meet, greet, or catch up with them. There are many reasons why we might miss someone. But one thing is certain: Once that emotion arises, it can be difficult to get over.

 "When you miss someone it means you really care about the person and you value them. You need this person in your life because it makes you feel better and you are happier. That's why you miss somebody." said Katie Lasson, Clinical Sexologist & Relationship Advisor.

Things that make you feel like you're missing someone

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When you're dealing with fresh emotional wounds, anything might set you off. When you are sad for someone, emotions run wild and can trigger old memories. With the ability to store so many memories, emotions, and information, the mind can be very powerful.

April Maccario is a relationship expert and the founder of Ask April. She stated that food, music, smells, and random things can all help us remember someone. It is natural to recall. Maccario believes that it is important to know what you can do when you feel these emotions.

When you realize that you are missing someone

It is important to be able to feel what you feel. Don't try to hide the fact that you are missing someone. It is possible to miss someone who has died, someone who is in prison, or someone you were close friends with or with whom you were in love before they moved on. Whatever the case, it doesn't matter what, there was something that changed.

It is a constant thing in life, so memories are perfectly acceptable. It is not helpful to allow those memories to stop you from moving on. Lasson believes that it's OK to think of someone you love and miss--to remember the beautiful moment you had. The most important thing is not to overthink it. Your goal is to feel better, not sad or hurt.

When they don't miss you as much as you miss them

It's not an easy feeling to know that someone doesn’t miss you as much. But what can you do? cry? Get depressed? Sleep loss? All of these things can happen, and it's okay to feel how you feel. You can only move forward when you are able to let go of all your emotions.

"Obviously, it [not being missed in return] is a sad feeling, but life must carry on. We can't make things happen on our own. Simply put, trust the process." said Sonya Schwartz, a relationship expert and founder of Her Norm.

In such situations, it is important to continue moving forward, regardless of how painful it is. The pain will eventually go away and you'll find someone who will appreciate you for what you are. So, never lose hope. Genuine happiness and genuine love are yours.

How to cope up when you are missing someone?

Coping with missing somebody might be heartbreaking, particularly if you loved (or still love) that person deeply. The sense of missing someone, like heartbreak. Follow some below tips to ease the pain:

  • Accept what you feel and then try to express yourself.
  • Get involved in activities that will help you distract your attention and improve your mood
  • Make new connections and interact with others
  • Turn inward

    It can be frightening to face yourself in your rawest form, but it can also prove life-changing. It is possible to heal from difficult issues. Missing someone can be very painful.

    It can impact your mood, your outlook, and your ability to be happy. Ask yourself why you are missing that person. Ask yourself what it means to you that they are missing. You should be honest about your feelings and decide if it's time to move on.

    Send a letter.

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    Letters are a terrific way to express oneself freely and offer clarity to complex circumstances. You can express whatever you'd want to say if you had the opportunity to talk in person by writing a letter. Writing a letter has the advantage of not having to hide anything. You'll feel relieved afterward.

    Meditate

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    When your mind is crowded with unending memories of someone you miss, there is no greater cacophony. You can't seem to concentrate on anything because you're thinking about that individual and the memories and experiences you've shared.

    To make peace with such ideas, try meditation. If you actually pay attention to yourself, you'll figure out why you miss that individual and why you're not communicating right now. Meditation allows you to perceive things more clearly. Moreover, you can find peace.

    Tell the person you miss them.

    Sometimes, you just have to talk to the person that you are missing. Talking to the person who is causing you such extreme emotions may be the best thing for you if you are confident and capable.

    Talk to the person, be respectful, and have an honest, heartfelt conversation. It's okay, to be honest about how much you miss them. You never know what they might be thinking. You never know. This could be a chance to make amends or revitalize your relationship.

    Redirect your energy

    Although you may not be able to see it at the beginning, some relationships must end. It's possible to miss them very much, but the relationship may have been toxic. Maybe one of you moved and you are unable to meet up with them as often as you used to or at all.

    Instead of dwelling on your emotions, feel them and redirect your energy to be grateful for what they are. You can focus your attention on the positive aspects of your life by reminding yourself of the people in it.

    Final Word

    Grief can be a part and parcel of your life. Do not allow others to take control of your life or make it so overwhelming that you feel helpless. Even though you may feel the lowest of all, you are far more powerful than you realize. You are allowed to feel down and depressed. This is normal and expected. But don't let it get you down. Reach out to a mental health professional if you are having trouble dealing with the loss of someone.

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