How To Deal with Breadcrumbing

Dating in the modern world is getting super confusing and chaotic. With all these online dating sites and apps, people tend to get a misconstrued view of the world and begin to think that there are millions of options. However, nothing could be farther from the truth. While there are plenty of single people out there, meeting someone you truly connect with is a rare and precious thing.

As if ghosting wasn’t bad enough, now there’s breadcrumbing. And it’s as “crummy” as it sounds (pun intended). Once again, I’ve turned to the Urban dictionary to see what this is all about. So breadcrumbing is defined as “the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages to members of the opposite sex in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort.” Yikes. It’s no wonder that love is getting harder to find. Sex is too easy. Here are some snarky ways that I would deal with breadcrumbing (besides rollng my eyes, natch).

For Women

1. Leave the trail behind.

If you start to pick up on the fact that a guy might be breadcrumbing you, drop him like a hotcake. As in, stop responding to any of his text messages. Girl, you deserve a whole loaf of bread, not just some crumbs. He will continue this kind of behavior for as long as you allow it.

2. Don’t do it too.

Nothing is more frustrating than breadcrumbing. Whether you’re the “crumber” or the “crumbie,” it just feels crappy. If you wouldn’t want it done to you, then don’t you do it too. Get it? You should be letting the man pursue you anyway.

3. Love yourself.

When you truly and honestly love yourself, you really don’t need a guy to validate your existence. Women who are having full-on love affairs with their lives would never put up with this kind of behavior. Being alone is better than being with the wrong guy.

For Men

1. Be straightforward.

Tell the woman you are on a date with exactly what your intentions are. If you’re not looking for a girlfriend at the moment, fill her in on this. You can never be the bad guy if you’re honest.

2. Make sure she’s on the same page.

Find out what the woman’s life goals are, and see if they match with yours. Once you get a clear picture and you realize you are both on the same page, there won’t be a need to string her along. Getting as much information as you can about her will help alleviate your uncertainty.

3. Keep Believing in Love

You may not be the one breadcrumbing, it could be that she is doing it to you. If this is the case, the most important thing you can do it to keep believing in love. She may not be the woman for you, but you can bet that there is one out there that is!

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