How Do You Do It Right When an Unplanned Pregnancy Occurs?

What do you do when an unplanned pregnancy occurs? Don't think that such a thing could not happen to you, that you are protecting yourself, that you are not unlucky! Contraceptive methods often fail, so it's best to think ahead and act: as they say, you better be prepared for the worst!

Of course, an unplanned pregnancy can take you by surprise and rejoice, but often, women are not ready for such a change!

So what do you do when an unplanned pregnancy occurs? There are so many variables to keep in mind: how emotionally prepared you are, what stage of your education/profession you are in, what stage of your relationship you are in, and last but not least, how you look at the issue of abortion!

Although abortion is religiously seen as a capital sin, it is now socially accepted that it is up to the woman to choose who is free to make her own decisions.

Thus, in the conditions in which the unplanned pregnancy appears fixed in an unfavorable period - relational, financial, emotional - theoretically, you are free to interrupt it. But you have to make this informed decision: such medical intervention is not like going to the dentist - you can face various emotional disorders after that and even physical complications!

Even if you are pro-abortion, this operation can cause you various negative feelings of embarrassment, shame, pain, anger, it can cause you intense dreams that are repeated obsessively and sleep disorders.

So, if the unplanned pregnancy occurred at a time when you either do not have a stable relationship or do not trust your partner and you want to make your own decision, inform yourself carefully and talk extensively with a responsible doctor! Some doctors say "no problem, we will solve it in half an hour", hurrying you to make the decision.

But this attitude is deeply unethical and unprofessional: the doctor must give you any information and first of all talk to you about your situation so that you have time to make a decision. If the doctor you go to is not willing to give you information and time, be sure to look for another doctor and don't be in a hurry!

And most importantly, if you don't have a stable partner or you can't trust him - either because you've known each other for a while or because he hasn't been involved in the relationship - look for a close person to talk to. to advise you and to offer you emotional support!

Overcome any feelings of embarrassment or shame and turn to a friend, a friend, a relative, because the support of someone close and trustworthy is essential. You should never go through this whole process of unplanned pregnancy and decision-making - interruption is not just an operation, it is a change in your emotions and self-perceptions and a decision that can have various consequences!

Especially if you feel vague feelings of sadness, frustration, or anger, it is important to have someone by your side, as you face the risk of getting into a risky depression.

Last but not least, when you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, decide whether or not you have acceptable justifications for aborting! Think about whether your relationship, professional, financial situation prevents you from having a child or not! It is important to find a justification, not for others, but yourself!

Because if your professional or financial condition would allow you to keep the task unplanned, but you take the decision to interrupt out of convenience or fear, in the future you may face intense feelings of regret and guilt! Now it seems like the right decision.

But in the future, when the time comes when you really want a baby and especially when you get pregnant, it is very possible to face guilt, regret, fear that you will not be a good mother, and especially, fear that you will be punished for the past! This article is neither for nor against abortion! The idea is that your decision and yours alone must be taken taking into account absolutely all aspects, especially those related to emotional risks!

But the most important aspect is the partner, the one who contributed to the unplanned pregnancy, especially if you have a relationship that lasts more than a few months. You have to consider it, you can't just ignore that there is another person who also has the right to know and last but not least to participate!

It is, first of all, your first decision as a woman, but you must never forget that it is also his decision! That is unless the partner is disinterested in the relationship or is an occasional partner! In addition, the emotional support of your partner is the most important and necessary, because you are both involved!

When an unplanned pregnancy occurs, the partner has the right to know and participate in the decision-making. If you can't agree on the right solution, you need to discuss, see what motivations and justifications each one has, and try to make a rational compromise.

If you are selfish, you think that what is happening is only related to your body and only yours - a false fact - then you can destroy the whole relationship! And you will have to go through the whole situation alone! Thus, if he does not agree to the interruption of the unplanned pregnancy, wanting to keep the child, you should not deny him any discussion! Discuss and find out the reasons for each: maybe you haven't seriously considered raising a child together - try to open your mind and get rid of the fear of change.

Only the fear of what will change cannot justify you aborting - as a couple, you can get over this fear! But he may also have wrong reasons for continuing the pregnancy: he may want to keep the child only because of religious conceptions, for fear of sinning! In this situation, you have to be rational and present the advantages and disadvantages, to offer your justifications for your decision! If in the end, you can't reach an agreement, unfortunately, the relationship is almost over!

But an unplanned pregnancy can cause the opposite reactions: the woman wants her child, while the partner convinces her to terminate the pregnancy! In this situation, everyone's justifications must also be taken into account: is there a rational and well-founded motivation for it - for example, the lack of space, of material resources?

Or it's just a matter of fear of change - this can never be a justification for abortion! If he does not present any realistic and well-founded motivation for his desire and you want to keep the child, then you have to put him in front of the fulfilled fact. Don't let yourself be persuaded to do an intervention you don't want, because not only will you face emotional disorders afterward, but your whole relationship will slowly collapse!

If the woman wants her child and there is no serious realistic obstacle, then nothing should force her to resort to medical intervention! Could you stay with a man who presses you against your will to interrupt an unplanned pregnancy ?! So, you put him in front of the accomplished fact, but by discussing and presenting your motives, sharing his emotions with him and you will find out how much the relationship means to him: if he runs away scared, you will suffer, but you got rid of a once and for all immature man and unable to make sacrifices in the name of love!

What to remember: An unplanned task requires a rational and responsible decision, and the decision to discontinue it requires an acceptable justification last but not least, never ignore the involvement of your partner and his right to participate in the decision!