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How Boys Become Men?

A Journey of a Real Gentleman

By Goran KezićPublished 5 years ago 4 min read
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All boys are sweet and innocent cocktail bombs of hormones waiting to explode at most unpredictable circumstances. We liked to get dirty, we had an indomitable will, keen senses, and the very sight of girls was able to freeze us instantaneously. But this period of immense energy, confusing conundrums, and embarrassing bits paved to way to our manhood. It was fun and chaotic like all pre-adolescent experiences.

So how do boys become men? Well, there is no particular date that adamantly declares “from this day forward—you are a fully-fledged man—the man of the house!” Or is there? But in truth, it is a psychological process that lasts for decades and sometimes, it seems, there will be no end of it.

All men have a small child inside that causes them to vehemently laugh and joke even at most unexpected situations. So how do we know his coming of age is nearing completion? If you feel like you have accomplished some of these following life’s changes, know that—you, sir—are becoming a man!

He has a developed sense of fashion.

And we don’t mean that style that he picked up from high-school and carried it in his late twenties, possibly even thirties. We are talking elegance here. You see, how a man dresses can reflect on how he sees himself as a person. If his wardrobe selection contains dignified pieces of clothing, it definitely shows he has this little thing called self-respect. And nobody can take that away!

A mature sense of fashion includes stylish and quality bags, a well-tailored suit for formal, solemn, and business occasions, a classy winter coat to weather the cold, accessories and a fine collection of ironed shirts to complement his masculinity. We all wear sneakers and T-shirts but you gotta know when to show some style, too!

He has wits.

Although us guys rarely stop being childish, we can still refine our humor to demonstrate our attractiveness and intelligence. The goal here is to develop the ability to read a room, to know what types of jokes and comments will go hand to hand with the underlying context. Otherwise, you are doing yourself and everyone else in the room a disservice.

Humor is the base upon which you build relationships. It is a sign that you can cope with both good and bad life’s situations. If you can genuinely make a person laugh, then you know how to get inside people’s hearts - but there is a time and a place for everything so knowing when to be serious is important for a man as well.

He is fresh and clean.

A man who doesn’t take care of his hygiene, unfortunately, wasn’t brought up properly. Of course, we all get smelly and sweaty but being actively aware and attentive to your body odors is what makes the distinction.

However, this does not include just the haircut, the beard trim, and a dab of cologne, but also keeping your house clean and your bedroom tidy. The efforts a man puts to maintain his palace and bearings is what builds his character and establishes a certain set of values.

He knows the importance of physical and social activity.

A real man takes good care of both his body and mental health. Whether you are into team sports or like training solo, actively keeping your vitality in check is a sign of maturity. It is simple—meeting all our basic needs—like food, sleep, fitness (lookin’ good!), and sex—enables us to focus on more complex human motives, such as socialization.

And it takes a great degree of emotional intelligence for a man to properly understand his emotions—to interpret them and also articulate back to others. The ability to address problems, not scream at them aggressively until they go away (which just stack up until breaking point) is what helps us solve them. It is what builds character. We live in a society. The world doesn’t revolve around male or female viewpoints but inter-communication. Be a man and talk about your issues.

Conclusion

Masculine style and grace come from habits and communication. “Man up” doesn’t mean you’ve got to stop crying this very instant. There are so many things that can break a man and we all need to heal from time to time. But the phrase also does mean you have to know when to show your teeth and take a stance.

As you walk through life, there are many challenges you will have to overcome and still remain a pillar of comfort and security to your friends and family. Boys need to be strong. But the true man knows that real strength comes from knowing when to be vulnerable and when not to.

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