Have a home that you can be proud of

Some too many women are going through unhappy marriages, and even though people around them are advising them not to be disappointed in their marriages and relationships, they have perhaps been hurt too much and are starting to become extremely pessimistic about their marriages.

This was the case with Pierre Winchester, whose husband was often cold and violent towards her, and never spoke to her even when they lived together.

For a long time, Pierre Winchester felt that the family was cold, unlike the families of the people around her, who had a human face anyhow.

There are also women, who see the network always having those negative news, either the husband of the woman's domestic violence or betrayal of marriage, they therefore no longer believe that the world has a happy marriage.

But there is no happy marriage in this world. Today we will list some people who are in happy marriages to see how they solve their marital problems and what kind of ability they have to maintain a good marriage in front of them.

Many times, no matter who you marry, "the bigger the heart", the more happiness.

01

No suspicion, more trust in each other

Jane is a woman who loves to think blindly, her husband recently started a business, and opened a company, but she inadvertently found that her husband registered the company legal person as her husband and mother-in-law two people.

When she saw it, she became angry: What does he mean? Why is my name not there? The key is that he didn't even talk to me about it, so he just registered it.

So, the more Jane thought about it, the angrier she became, and she even had an emotional drama in her head - the image of her husband's company growing up and abandoning her.

So, she decided to confront her husband, but at this critical moment, Jane stopped, noticing that she had argued with him many times in the past.

Not because her husband was at fault, but because she always thought more, misunderstood her husband, and finally the other side and her explanation after the end.

Therefore, Jane has always known that she has a love of thinking blindly. Many times, Jane is indiscriminately arguing with her husband and blaming him.

So, this time Jane did not go to blame her husband as in the past, but to see first, after a few days.

That evening, the husband took the initiative to talk to Jane about registering his own company and asked Jane for her opinion to name the company.

Moreover, it suddenly occurred to Jane that the reason her husband did not write her name was that he had said before that the company was extremely unstable in the early stages of development and anything could happen.

If the business failed, the debt would fall on both of them, and her husband also put a lot of property in Jane's name, just to worry about his future failure and leave Jane a way out.

Women even in marriage, there will be little security, so they will take their emotions out on their partners but do so, no doubt the marriage gave birth to a lot of trouble.

How about thinking about how your husband usually treats you, while you have to make more efforts to close the distance with your husband, two people will be more and more harmonious.

02

Good things look at the results, bad things look at the reasons

When my friend first married her husband, everyone was not optimistic. Friends of the parents believe that the man's family conditions are not very good, and can not give friends happiness.

But after the marriage, although the friend said that there is no great wealth, she lives very comfortably.

Once I went to her house and learned the reason why she was so happy. At that time, the friend was packing dishes, her husband did not take a moment to come back and buy the friend's favorite carrion.

But because the husband did not pick well, some of the carrion is a little rotten. But she pretended not to see the same and praised the husband, the husband did not speak but can see that he is very happy.

After that, my friend's husband also showed his hand and made several dishes. After serving, the friend praised her husband for his delicious cooking.

After the meal, the husband took out a Chinese and said originally intended to send a colleague, but colleagues can not return from business trips recently, so let the friend give his father-in-law.

The friend did not mind and accepted it with pleasure.

Through the way they get along, I see these points.

One, the friend and her husband have been married for eight years, she has never taken her husband's contribution for granted but always responded by giving affirmation and praise.

Secondly, my friend would always physically touch her husband in front of outsiders to express intimacy.

Third, about some small things, the friend never minded. For example, in the issue of gift-giving, she would not care where the gift came from, but in the end, her father did get a good cigarette.

And the Cheerios, the husband wouldn't pick, but his starting point was good and remembered that the friend loved Cheerios the most. The friend knows that the other person's heart is good, which is why she doesn't sweat the small stuff.

It is because she can look at the results of the good things and the reasons for the bad things, and the marriage lived in harmony and happiness.

03

Even if there are small problems in the relationship, you can still be happy

Many people can not accept the small problems in the marriage, I have a girlfriend so, the external conditions she and her husband is still a good match, but she just can not stand the small things.

For example, the two people have different habits, certain ideas a little conflict, and so on.

She is a woman who seeks perfection. At the very beginning, the other party was in good condition, tall and handsome, and very attractive. But after the marriage, she found that the other party has a large number of shortcomings, so she is difficult to accept.

For example, she works especially clean and can be described as spotless, but her husband is very nervous, and do things unconventionally, so in doing the housework above, always does not clean.

Because of this small difference, she could not stand it many times and even quarreled with her husband to the point of divorce.

Apart from the differences in living habits, they still get along quite well in other aspects, and there are no major problems.

Later, she began to try to turn a blind eye, to her husband's work is not clean, such a small problem, and learn not to care too much, as long as the other party is probably clean enough, and other details on that.

As a result, they are much less contradictory, although they still have many small problems between them, in many ways, they are not calculating.

So, marriage involves the bottom line issues to be clear, but for small problems, there is no need to be serious. Especially the kind of small problems that are optional, there is no need to force each other to change or to fight repeatedly.

How about respecting each other, but attention to the common point of the two above, marriage can be more long-term instead.