Around us, some people seem to maintain a superficially friendly relationship with you, some of them are also your relatives. Although there is a superficial warm relationship many people look forward to your bad luck, look forward to your accident, and look forward to your life getting worse and worse. If you really down the blood, these people's hearts will produce an irrepressible pleasure and will gloat at you in private.
That said, we do not see each other, and why do they have such bad intentions?
In other words, why can't you see the good people, but it is the people around you, the people you know?
I think the reason for this is because people and people would have had the psychology of comparison, would have had the psychology of showing off, would have had the psychology of not wanting to be left behind.
The distance between strangers and us is far, so they are good or bad, and will not bring many ripples to our hearts. But the people around you are different because they are close to you, and you often meet them, if you see that you are doing well and they are not doing well, their hearts are not smooth, are not fair, and are dissatisfied.
These people will always think: "Why should you, who seems normal, have a better life than me?" "Why is it that your son, can get into a good school?" "Why do you always get rich in business?"
Because of the proximity, so your life is good, it will be jealous; your life is bad, it will be a sense of inner balance.
And especially if you and these people around you have had conflicts, disputes, and unhappiness, they heartily do not want you good psychological tendencies, it will be more obvious.
01 and you have had conflicts or disputes, narrow-minded relatives, can not see you
Some relatives and you have had some conflicts, will miss you. This kind of thinking, not does want to help you, doesn't want you to have a good life.
It is in this sense, we will feel that sometimes, some so-called relatives, even the next person is not as good, even strangers.
That said, strangers are not known, but they do not have inexplicable bad intentions toward us. These relatives are different, as long as we are better off, more than they are, they will feel an internal imbalance; and in the case of conflicts between us and them, or vegetarian discord, their kind of see you not good mentality is particularly obvious.
If you need to get the assistance of a relative for something to go more smoothly, you will find that they often treat you politely on the surface, but really can help you with things, none of them.
Sometimes, something did not tell them okay, once told them, but they will be from the obstacle, is to make your things can not go smoothly.
Some relatives are always on top of their relatives, and they have developed a consistent sense of self-importance because of this. For such relatives, if you exceed them, it is unacceptable.
02 not as good as you, full of vanity in the heart of the friend, can not see you
On your side, some have a good time with friends, some have a not-so-good time with friends.
Good friends are often open-minded a little. On the contrary, for those who are not very good friends, there will be more vanity, and there is a more climbing mentality.
If you have someone around you to live less than you, but full of vanity friends inside, see you living better than him, will produce an internal imbalance, will look forward to your bad luck, look forward to your misfortune.
When you are similar, your relationship is relatively normal, but when you are getting better, he will lose his inner sense of balance, and you begin to alienate, and even do something to denigrate him.
In their view, you as compared with them there is no obvious advantage, and even some disgraceful disadvantage or unseemly place, why the good life is you, why you have to so to exceed them so that they feel groundless.
Although you do not mean it at all, as long as you have a better life than them, they may think so.
So, for those who are vain, good jealous, good gloating friends, or to keep a distance.
03 and you have had nasty neighbors or people in the same neighborhood, who can not see you
Little M's family was originally in the eyes of the neighbors, living an ordinary life. Between the neighbors, there was a good period of mutual warmth, but, since the small M because of some small things and neighbors conflict, the neighbors of the small M family view, it with prejudice.
When Little M's family was very ordinary, the neighbors thought nothing of it, anyway, they had a sense of superiority when facing Little M's family. But Xian M's family because of Xian M's efforts, because the children strive, because of the improvement of all aspects of the situation, the days are getting better and better. At the same time, the neighbor's life is getting worse and worse.
In this case, the original bad-heated neighbors began to denigrate the M family, began to say bad things about others, and began to say some of their ideas out of the story.
A seemingly innocent neighbor, how did it become such a person?
A little contradiction and disagreement neighbors, how can seem so evil see no one good?
There is no other reason, it is because the jealous little M family is better than their own, and are not used to seeing little M live better than their own.
The neighbors so, the same neighborhood in the mutual acquaintance of people is also so.
We all a hat black, each other seems to be full of harmony between the air, but one day, you become a crane, others on you began to have a variety of unreliable comments, a variety of fear of the world is not chaos gossip.
Yes, it's good to say that everyone is in a piece of mediocrity, why do you suddenly soar to the sky? You are not deliberately stimulating everyone?
04 and you work together, but do not like your colleagues, can not see you
We are in the workplace, we will also find some colleagues are not good to see you.
Why do they do so? Sometimes it is because of competition, they do not want to fall behind; sometimes it is because of pure jealousy, sometimes because you and they have some small conflicts.
There is competition, there is a tug of war in terms of interests; there is jealousy, and there is dissatisfaction with your excellent performance. That said, although you didn't use their stuff, didn't move their cheese, but you performed well, the company's scale of valued value will be tilted to you, that is what those narrow-minded, jealous colleagues can't stand.
So, they will take out their anger on you because of jealousy and because they are belittled. This is especially true when you also act like a harmless person.
The reason why colleagues are colleagues is that they are under the same roof, may produce conflicts of interest, and may face the same temptation or rejection.
Therefore, colleagues on the one hand to make good relations, on the other hand, also have to guard against others because of prejudice or jealousy and resentment towards you.
05 Siblings who are not living as well as you and therefore always think you should take the most responsibility
In addition to the ordinary relatives we mentioned above, even those who are in the same family with siblings, but also because you have a better life than he has a situation that can not see you.
If one of the siblings earns more money and lives better than the others, then the parents may think that this person should take more responsibility for support and pay for it.
Even those siblings who borrowed money from one person because they were better off were not going to pay it back.
Their internal logic is, you are so rich, how can you ask for this money?
That said, the fact that someone is doing well is not a reason why he must take on more responsibility and must bear more losses.
In the view of those brothers and sisters who are not too well off, you are living so well, it would have been an invisible injury to everyone, it would have been a blow and denial to everyone.
Because you have a better life than them, they feel that there is a clear sense of distance and hierarchy between themselves and you, and therefore resent you, and even generate hatred.
Since this is the case, you are properly unlucky, taking a little more responsibility, is the way to let them get psychological balance.
So if you meet such a sibling, sometimes you feel that such an immediate family member, such a sidekick, is worse than a stranger, and even worse than your business partner.
So sometimes we sadly find that the people who want you to be well, besides your parents, besides the love of your life and children who treat you the best, maybe only strangers are left.
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