Far From The Truth

Honesty is the best policy. Nobody is honest about every detail of their life and these days, you don’t know people as well as you think you do. Especially, a compulsive liar.

The concept of lying goes further beyond not just being honest. It’s a mental process. This person has bargained their way through life on nothing but lies. They know what to say, how to say it and who to say it to. They take advantage of people who are emotionally vulnerable or someone that people view as too nice. In my book, you can never be too nice, but you can be too trusting.

There is nothing worse than a compulsive liar. They are good at what they do. It’s nothing something that they were taught. It’s their nature. They get what they want by doing it. But what gets me is when they get caught. They don’t have a leg to stand on.

Emotional vulnerability has happened to us all. We are down and out about something, whether it’s a bad break-up from a relationship, a divorce, or losing our jobs. We see someone we are attracted to, that we don’t know from a hole in the wall and we learn things about them that we only wish we had known in the beginning. Some people stay, some go.

Sometimes, we try to hold on to what we should let go but we can’t or wont because of fear for being alone or because we are used to the situation and we just simply deal with it. It doesn’t have to be that way, but it is. This is true for marriages and relationships. People stay “stuck” because they don’t think they deserve better or they feel that the person they are with is going to change someday. Without commitment, there is no relationship.

Food for thought: If that man has an excuse for not marrying you when you bring it up: leave. If that woman doesn’t want to be married, most likely, its just not to you. She wont say it, but, I’m keeping it real, its not. A woman that wants to be married will present herself in that way. If you fear commitment, be honest and exit stage left. Don’t lead people on. Leading people on used to just be a hurt feeling and they just go on with their lives but now people are getting hurt or killed. Be careful how you treat somebody.

Affairs sometimes happen because the person isn’t happy anymore. It shouldn’t come down to that. 2 people took vows to be with one another. The same happiness you share on that day should be the same happiness that you have for the years that pass. But, things change from day to day in a marriage. Marriage is easy to get into but hard to get out of. Many say that a divorce costs too much or that they stay for the sake of the children. Time for me to leave that one alone.

A compulsive liar cant be in the Olympics. They cant swim fast enough. My comparison means that they tell so many lies, eventually, its like they are drowning. The first lie is so believable and it can last for a while. But then, that first one wears off. The 2nd lie is shorter because the person gets caught in their lie, either over the phone or in person. So, lie 1 is believed, lie 2 is told and discovered, lie 3 and etc., are to cover the 1st one but it doesn’t work. You can lie so long you actually wear yourself out. This is the main case when it comes to cheating.

To end my story I say this: Lying is cheating the truth. But just like fashion: It gets old after a while. Treat yourself right (love yourself) and let no one darken your light. (your happiness).