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Expectation Kills Us

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Expectation is what kills us

Expectation Kills Us
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Humans grow up with expectations and this expectation build our view of the world . As children we develop expectation of how to play , eat and interact with others . But we also develop expectations of how the people around us should act , we expect our parents to be caring , attentive and loving parents .

As we grow up and start attending school we develop expectation of how to act in the school and how to interact with classmates, based on these we also expect others around us to act in the same way.

This also carries with us to adulthood and as we meet our spouses we expect them to react based on our image of how they should act.

However the killing moment start when these expectations are not met by others . Most of the time , people would not act based on our expectation and this can be very shocking to us , which over time can kill our relationships.

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Expectations have a bad habit of ruining life experience and creating a fantasy world in which people have preconceived notions. Anyway; many people have unreasonable expectations that rarely reflect reality. These two scenarios are based on external outcomes that you have no control over, but if you have realistic expectations, they are easy to identify and certain actions can be taken. However, there is a wait component that is efficient for creating what you want.

When we let go of our attachment to the specific details of the outcome and keep only the PRELIMINARY part, then we can avoid disappointment. We may introduce other possibilities because we are open and not unique about the outcome. Perhaps we can loosen our grip on wanting to live up to our expectations and truly experience the peace and freedom of letting go.

Every time we let go, we let go of our expectations and begin to see things as they are. Every time you let go, you stop expecting yourself and start accepting things as they are.

Don't blame people for letting you down, blame yourself for expecting too much from them. Expectations can sometimes lead you to disappointment, but the anger of disappointment can sometimes lead you to what you expected.

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If you learn to stop expecting perfection from yourself and others, you can find the happiness that has been far from you. If you learn to stop expecting yourself and others to be perfect, you can find happiness. You are as beautiful as so many wonderful things you do for others without any expectations.

So expectations are good, but tying happiness to results can kill our happiness. And if these expectations are not met, disappointment and sadness set in, damaging our happiness and balance in life. We often expect others to meet our personal and emotional needs, especially in our closest relationships. When we expect something from someone—be it attention, words, punctuality, food, money—we are essentially giving our emotional independence to the will of the other person.

I think things are beautiful when you don't plan things, you don't have expectations, you don't try to achieve specific goals. The main thing about creativity is often letting go of your expectations and ideas. There is a popular saying: "High expectations are the key to everything." This means that high expectations motivate us to maximize our potential and succeed.

Having expectations gives us a clear idea of ​​what kind of life partner or friend we would like to have in our lives. Not citing expectations is a powerful reminder that will help us overcome all our fears and expectations in order to live a better life. However, the quote from The Reality of Expectations is a way to bring back that inspiring punch.

My point is that most people are not going to let people down. After falling face down a few times, I don't expect others to make me happier.

Finding no expectations, no grievance quotes is very helpful to people. On the positive side, you might be surprised that their "true self" is better than you expected. Expectations and facts are two different things that people usually cannot distinguish. When people know why something happened, even bad news, they can change their expectations and react accordingly.

These are all things that can easily trigger strong negative emotions in us. For some people, the anger or frustration that arises from these minor situations can have a very negative impact that lasts for hours and sometimes days. Also, many things that make us angry/frustrated are often out of our control.

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It's not what you expect that kills you, but what you expect. This is when the system starts to falter and expectations kill the positive flow. You will make the best exit when the current outperforms the imaginary and exceeds the expectations.

Sometimes waiting for special inspiration can block you from real inspiration. They make decisions, do something, say something, based on what they have experienced (learned/not learned) in their lives and what is happening in their lives at the present time - the sum of their life experiences.


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