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Enduring Long Distance Relationships

A Guide to Staying Confident in Your Relationship

By Brooke SawatzkyPublished 5 years ago 2 min read
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Photo: Brooklyn.Grace.Photography

As a woman in her 20s dealing with anxiety, working a part time job and going to university full time, a long distance relationship was NOT what I had in mind. But my heart had thoughts of its own and that’s when E came into my life.

Both E and I really did not expect one another, let alone did we envision that starting a relationship long distance would be ideal for both our lives. He works full time as a nurse and had gotten out of a relationship only a couple months before we met. This clearly didn’t effect either of us.

Growing up, hearing about long distance relationships were always so frowned upon and the horror stories of them never working out were heartbreaking. Therefore, I was opposed to them right away. BUT this being said, our relationship has been incredible and we wouldn’t have had it any other way!

I think long distance has a bad reputation due to the lack of communication and physical relations so desired in what a normal day to day relationship has. The expectations and “needs” of each person can be overlooked and often neglected, which in turn ends in disappointment and a failed relationship.

When E and I started dating, we were honest about each of our love languages and needs right off the bat. Me, being someone who craves physical touch and words of affirmation, made it quite clear to E that those two aspects are really important to me feeling reassured from a distance. For E, he appreciates physical touch as well, but more importantly gifts and acts of service. These two love languages are both so foreign to me, yet my desire to see our relationship flourish, I was willing to learn.

Being long distance shouldn’t end a relationship before it starts; is it an obstacle? Of course it is! But should it stop you from loving the person you know you want to be with? Absolutely not.

In every relationship, communication is key, and that’s the truth about every relationship regardless of the two people involved it in. But in long distance, communicating properly and intentionally is what will make the difference in your relationship flourish. Being confident in your ability to communicate with your significant other is what will provide you with stability and trust as you endure the daily struggle of loving your partner from far away.

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Brooke Sawatzky

I’m 21, a singer-songwriter, part time photographer and full time student! I have a passion for people and living a life that pursues purpose.

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