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Do You Want a Long-Term Relationship? Then Don’t Do These 5 Things Anymore

by Bryan Stormyweather 11 days ago in advice

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Do You Want a Long-Term Relationship? Then Don’t Do These 5 Things Anymore
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We all want another person in our lives to love and cherish. But it is important to love yourself first and to do that, you have to take care of yourself.

Having a rock solid relationship is not mathematics, but the both of you need to know a few things.

In this short material I will provide you a list of 5 things you should not do, in order to have a long-lasting relationship.

1. Give up negativity

If you start a relationship with the constant thought that it won't last, then chances are … it won't last. It's called a "self-fulfilling prophecy." Every time something happens, the first thought in your head shouldn't be that you knew it wouldn't work.

The more you think, the worse it gets … and you get to the point where you start testing your partner's patience level. The moment he stops resisting and chooses to leave, you will regret these pessimistic situations.

2. Don't play games

Next time you are sad/hurt/angry, talk openly and say what you have in mind instead of shutting yourself in and refusing any way of communication, waiting for him to miraculously guess what is bothering you. Anger and lack of proper communication is the most dangerous way you can sabotage a good relationship. Give up manipulative tactics and be honest in your approach.

3. Love is not enough

Yes, it may seem strange to say that, but love is not enough. Love ensures attraction and commitment, but to have a beautiful and sincere long-term relationship, it is important to see in the partner not only a boyfriend but also the best friend. Do not rely only on love, but also on sincerity, friendship and trust.

4. Give up jealousy

The foundation of any relationship is based on trust. And if you don't trust your partner enough to be jealous of him, then why waste time with this relationship?

You may have been cheated on in a previous relationship, but that doesn't mean your current partner has to carry the weight of the luggage you have from the past. A relationship that does not value the principles of trust is not one of love but is driven by positivity and the concept of ownership.

Give her space, instead.

When you are with your partner 24/7, as in quarantine, it sometimes becomes overwhelming and frustrating.

You may argue more often about small and insignificant things or feel that there is no more chemistry between you. Therefore, it is better to give your partner some free time to do what he likes, if not daily, at least two or three times a week.

5. You don't have to be in love to be happy

The most important way not to sabotage a relationship is not to be in one just for her sake. Yes, we all want another person in our life to love and cherish. But it is important to love yourself first and to do that, you have to take care of yourself. Choose to live beautiful and healthy, to develop personally and professionally, to travel … to be the best version of yourself. And, when the time is right, you will find the right person for you.

6. Never use the phrase "I told you"

Jubilation in cases where you are right should not be part of your relationship. If you make a mistake, don't be afraid to admit it. But when you are right, let it pass you by. Quotes like "I told you" will only strain the relationship.

7. Never argue about unimportant things

Sometimes it's easy to quarrel for the sake of protecting your opinions. It is good to focus on what is important and ignore what is not.

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