Leaving your town for whatever reason, whether it is college, work, military, etc., is difficult as is, but having the distance between someone you love is just as hard, and in some cases, harder. I’ve had this happen twice. One relationship lasted five years (two of those years being after moving,) and another lasted a little over two years. Those were the WORST fuckin relationships I’ve had. Both of them I knew before moving. But the guy I’m with right now, was my high school crush. He was the extremely athletic, everybody loved him, and so fuckin handsome guy, and me, I was just somebody everyone knew of but never got close to. Hell, that’s the story of my life quite honestly. So, it’s safe to say, we didn’t really know each other when I moved. We didn’t know each other until THREE years after I moved. He slid in my DMs. BOYYYYY was I happy. I wanted to just lick his entire body up and down, making it pretty far down before he took over. But I composed myself and messaged him back. I had just moved to my apartment on my own with my husky— Ollie, with no furniture and knowing no one. He asked me if he could come help me and slept on the floor with me for three days. As much as I wanted him to fuck me, we didn’t. He was genuinely interested in me and I... well I just wanted his dick. After he left, I didn’t talk to him for a few days until he messaged me. I’m so glad that he did. Now this distance relationship has not been easy by any means, but it has been worth it. So the big question really is, are they worth it? You have to be able to have a lot of compromise, trust, and communication. To this day, we are still working on all of those factors but my advice, do NOT give up on someone who is still trying. Change does not happen in a day, and hell, it doesn’t happen in a week in most cases, but you have to be patient. In a little over a month, we will be moving in together and I wouldn’t rather live with any other man. Through our ups and downs, I’ve had to weigh everything out. So ladies, if you have an amazing man and you’re just scared of the distance, don’t give it up unless you’re both tired of trying. Men, make sure that she’s treating you right and not harboring things that are not in your control against you. Love each other because at times, it’ll feel like the world is pitted against you. When you’re finally able to spend time together, whether it’s a week or once every six months, it’ll all feel worth it. And let me tell you, the best sex is that “I missed you” sex. Go on a walk or two, cook dinner together, buy some wine or champagne, fuckin value that time because with someone who is worth it, there is no better time. With distance, do not waste your time on someone you do not feel is worth it because then, it just leaves a bad impression of distance relationships. As cliche as it is, it is really about how you truly and honestly feel about the person, not how you feel about the miles. Do not listen to the negative nimrods that say it’s not a good idea. Listen to your gut and the way you feel when you are finally with him or her. Be persistent. Communicate. Compromise. Stay faithful. And most of all, love recklessly.