Dating 2020

How do people on the self healing path, date? Consciously is the answer, be present and conscious of your karmic patterns. Immature behaviours need to be left in the last decade, we are moving forward and times are changing.

Be authentic and aware of the shadows you are healing. Be open, honest and relate to people from an open heart space. This communicative dynamic brings a closeness to others, and a nurturing environment for everyone.

You see, the thing about relationships is that if you are seeking one, then first handle the one you already have with yourself, how are you treating you at the moment? honestly...

Make sure that you are not chasing relationships like a thing that needs to be ticked on a check list, but you are looking for a companion on your already awesome journey. This is most naturally apparent when you are following your own, incredible life journey, trusting your intuitions and recognising the connections in awareness and beautiful loving presence. Not just to be experienced with a romantic partner, but romance is an experience with the divine through many different ways. Sensual experiences do not have to be sexual or romantic, but they too help when calling in a divine partnership. Understanding the dynamic of your relationships (all relationships, friends, family and colleagues, not just romantic) and again fully conscious of your karmic patterns can really help when making new connections while dating.

Also check and see that it’s the right time for you to be dating. Do you have room for someone else in your life right now? Is it a time of focus on your career? or a time for self care? Sometimes we get depressed or feel lonely because we are looking at other peoples end results and comparing ourselves to that. Some people get into relationships they didn’t even want, because…everyone’s got one, right? A sign of success, nah, if it’s superficial, it’s a fail.

You must remain responsible to yourself, to your life, to your journey, and if you are seeking a partner, you need to see this quality in them to, for if you are not committed to your own life, how can you say you are looking for a committed relationship with another? same vice versa, if someone isn’t committed to their own life, I doubt they will fully be able to support you in your life, and how are they able to add value to your life, when their own life is missing their presence? sound painfully Familiar?

I have been studying sacred relationships and currently working on a course to launch in 2020 for my followers who wanted to start their journey to sacred unions. Recently more and more people are wondering if they will ever find “TRUE LOVE” you may not know that is what you are seeking, but underneath it all, it is and not necessarily with a partner, but first with the divine. We are all at different stages on our journey, and we must learn to honour our truth, if we are to have True Love, in the many different ways we can experience this higher vibration.

We have learned so much about what DOESN’T work in our relationships, from our painful experiences, that it feels like we are at a point, a new decade in fact, where we can start to build more of the kinds of relationships we DO want. However, what does that even look like? How do we date with this new found conscious approach?

I wrote a list in my journal of qualities I am looking for in others because I have managed to find my way to cultivating them in myself. So Here is a starting point I guess;

Emotionally Aware & Responsible.

Communicative.

Clear boundaries & Respect for boundaries (also accountable if they over step the mark).

Seeking personal growth & honours their truth.

Kind, Compassionate & Creative.

Present/Presence -they add value to any situation by being more present but also really appreciate your presence & time.

FREEDOM -There is no ownership or weird social constructs/rules, you are free to grow and expand, as are they.

Positive & Healthy expressions of emotions and creativity -Honouring all emotions, even ones that are hard to have, like anger, but having a very healthy way to express it rather than repress it and take it out on their relationships and surroundings.

Pro-Active & solution based narratives.

Handles changes, and creates momentum for the changes necessary to building the life they/you want.

This list isn’t specific to a sacred partner in terms of just romantic, but in all my connections with everybody including how I am with myself. I want to attract some amazing experiences and I am living this truth in my own behaviours, it has already made for some very amazing new divine friendships and connections. I am not reserving long held gazes for a date, I hold them with people I am having conversations with, while smiling a big smile, because we all need connection & making better connections leads to better invites to meeting more wonderful people, which will lead you to better dating. Trust me, real connections and heart felt warmth with all people is what this world needs more of. Just gifting people with your presence, making sure you are moving away from your comfort zones & old stories you told yourself, willing to make changes and meet new people, you will be dating someone very interesting in no time. Most people want to find a date, but don’t want to get momentum going, GET MOMENTUM GOING.

However you choose to go out and look for a companion, make sure you are doing it from a space of adventure and sharing as opposed to boredom and bypassing yourself. This has caused enough karmic tension as it is. Time to heal the wounds of love, and start fresh for a new decade. Heres to MORE LOVING CONNECTIONS in 2020 for all who read this. Heal your current ones as well as welcome in new and meaningful ones. Drop anything toxic and give yourself a real shot at a new start. Have a beautiful time while you do.

To join the Sacred Partnership Course for 2020 please register your interest at [email protected] This will be an extensive course, working on heart space using breath work, healing and giving you many tools to lead more fulfilling, connected & loving lives. So looking forward to working with so many in 2020, the year of Divine unions.