Damage Control

I am sure more than I am not that you have come across at least one of these people in your lifetime or that you will. That person who comes in as your friend or a more intimate relationship. Aren't they just so charming? For a little while, I suppose, however, slowly their mask begins to slip and they begin to reveal their true colors which are not pretty!

You in turn begin beating yourself up for not seeing them in the first place.Never guilt yourself in to believing this was your fault, it wasn’t and isn’t and will never be!

This type of person preyed upon you, believing that you were infact the weak. If you think about it, in a natural setting a bird will never sit on a branch above preying upon a lion however, as much of an animal spirit humans may have, these manipulators are the bird thinking that they can somehow outsmart the lion but with the lion being the king of the jungle the lion isn’t aware of it until they cross a meek birds path.

Why aren’t they setting out to go straight for the lion? They only feel strong when they are manipulating and bullying others! Period! Take, take, take, never giving. Do you think a bird could take from a lion?

The greatest part of unmasking any toxic person is that you know their intentions. Once the mask has fallen off there will never be any doubt.

They don’t care about you.They don’t even care about themselves! They don’t love you. They don’t even love themselves. Their ego is only inflated until the mask slip and once you see the person behind it, you’ll really begin to understand every instinct this person had toward you and toward everyone they’ve met or will.

These people only come into your life for one thing, to suck the life out of you to inflate themselves. They are egocentric and self obsessed believing that they are the only one that matters in any given situation. They are selfish and live in absolute misery. This type of person lacks the ability to be happy without taking from everyone around them.

Imagine an old, metal, rusty bucket. This bucket is useless because of the amount of water that leaks out. Unable to remain full. This is where you come into play, just a character in their book of evil. You’re role is now their water bearer. Your misery makes them the happiest!

This emptiness leads them into victimizing others to refill and refuel. Don't ever think you're the only one that they are doing this too, you're not! They will charm the pants off everyone they meet because they need others! Does the lion need the bird? No! The bird will never touch a lions appetite however the meek little bird believes the lion will serve it well by filling it up over & over.

It's a never ending cycle until, YOU stop it.
They come in like a dream and leave being your worst nightmare, hurtful and heartless. This type of person doesn't have the ability to care about anyone but themselves. Selfish not selfless, always playing the victim while victimizing others over and over!

Anyone who goes around intentionally hurting others is not someone that you need or want in your life. They lack empathy. They do not or will not ever care about hurting you, period.


Does this sound familiar? If so, you have to remember that even though you cared about their well being, they never cared about yours! They will criticize you. They will lie to you. They will hurt you on purpose! People that go around hurting others have an extreme mental disturbance. We are put here to help, not hurt. You are not someone else's toy that they can play with and then break whenever the mood strikes! NO! You must realize that these people do not belong in your life no matter what their latest "poor me" story is because they’ll ALWAYS have one. They create stories in their mind so when they need a tale to tell it’s there waiting to be told. They all have one.

They come into your life making you feel sorry for them while they will never feel one ounce of sorrow for you. This is never okay. I repeat, this is NEVER okay. You'll feel like you're living in their world, trying to please them while they will never care about pleasing you. It's ALL about them. Completely self absorbed, believing they are owed something from you and every single person that they’ll meet.

They believe that they are superior to everyone and their superiorty complex is sickening because if you look at their life, not superficially but really take a look under the story that they tell, is a person that’s co- dependent. They are always looking for the next person to manipulate because this is the only thing that brings them joy. Taking from you! Trying to destroy you but remember the weak bird can’t ever destroy the fierce lion, unless you let them, never let them! Stand in your power, find your strength!

They don't understand logic. They do not feel empathy. They'd stab you in the back only to watch you bleed, over and over. They can't take responsibility for of their actions. They’ll always try to lie their way out of everything! Your pain is their pleasure.

Think about it, do you have one of these people in your life right now? Blindly, you can fall into their trap but now it’s time to open your eyes to the antics of these manipulators! Their false facade. Not so charming now, are they? They still believe they are! They still believe that you believe their tall tales.

They have a false sense of entitlement. Don't they just pierce the depths of your soul? Not in a good way. Once you recognize this type of person, now is the time to take action to begin to remove them from your life once and for all, at all costs. Your own life is too precious, your own well being is too important to accept this type of emotional abuse anymore. Once you step back from it and see the reality of the situation, you can begin to move in a new direction and begin healing the destruction they caused to your precious heart and soul.

You know they are FAKE! You know they are only using you to fill up for that mere moment and they’ll want to come back to do it time and time again. Stop the madness. This is your life, not theirs. It's time to relinquish the reins they thought they had control over and for you to show them who's really in the drivers seat! YOU!

One day at a time you can regain peace, knowing that you WILL become whole again, you will heal, you will understand your strength, you’ll understand just how precious you and your life are but they will always remain incomplete, scattered pieces, of a soul, a coward against the lion they’ve uncovered. The saying goes that “the early bird gets the worm” but what the bird doesn’t realize is that the lion gets both!

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