Build a Lasting Relationship by Making Only the Necessary Compromises

To make it work, both partners must make a series of compromises in a couple's relationship. Without everyone leaving something behind, the couple would most certainly turn into a boxing ring!

First of all, we can talk about the need for compromises in a relationship related to the personality of the partners! You can't stay the same person you were before the relationship, because in a couple the personalities have to fit together and harmonize. For this, you will both have to change something here and there.

For example, you may have been very independent before. Well, your independence can hurt your partner, if you leave without telling him where you will act without first consulting with him. So, you have to tame this side of your personality. Or maybe you were too impulsive before, you acted without thoughts, you did exactly what you wanted at the time.

Another behavior with negative effects on the relationship. If you react too impulsively and make decisions without consulting your partner - for example, you will buy a super expensive sofa that has fallen off your trunk - you will hurt him.

Or you were extremely closed-minded and unsociable and preferred to keep your thoughts to yourself. If you do not change and learn to share your thoughts and feelings, your partner will misinterpret the situation and believe that you are indifferent to the relationship.

Another set of compromises in a relationship: those related to household chores. Before, everyone had their routine and habits, but now you have to harmonize them. It would be best to determine in detail from the beginning what domestic tasks each one will have, to avoid quarrels in the future. In this area, making a compromise does not mean that only one of the partners should bear the burden of all the tasks, it means that they should be shared fairly.

You may hate taking out the trash and vacuuming, and he hates washing dishes, laundry, and ironing. Make a compromise and divide things so that at least everyone gets rid of the most unbearable. Everyone receives and everyone loses!

Somewhat related to housework are the trade-offs in a relationship related to your daily schedule. Before, you probably had a well-established and easy-to-keep personal schedule: waking up, coffee, showering, going to work, a drink with friends at the end of the program, getting home, feeding the cat/dog, feeding the undersigned, a movie, and sleeping!

Nothing easier! But in a couple, things get a little complicated. Precisely because you are a couple and not roommates, you will have to organize your program in such a way as to spend as much time together as possible. No matter how difficult it is, you will need to establish a common wake-up time, your breakfast ritual, after-work activities, a dinner ritual, and an evening program.

You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people. You may have to give up the glass with friends most evenings, but rest assured that your partner has given up enough!

Speaking of this topic, there are also trade-offs in a relationship related to leisure activities. Everyone had their occupations and hobbies, from which you now have to choose the ones that do not hurt the relationship and especially the common ones.

If before you liked to spend every Saturday night in a certain club, and your partner does not support the clubs, you can say goodbye to this activity! Or if you had the pleasure of watching bad movies all day on Sunday, but your partner liked to go outside, you will have to compromise and divide the day for both activities.

An important compromise is not to force your partner to give up his main hobby completely, even if you can't understand his peace. And the reciprocal is valid. If he's a big fan of gaming, but you think it's stupid, and you love to dance while he doesn't dance at his wedding, make a compromise and choose a certain night of the week to do it. everyone he likes with friends.

Compromises in a relationship also appear when it comes to spending the holidays, the only time during the year when everyone has the freedom to do what they like, to go to their favorite place.

A small problem can arise if you love the sea, and he is an ardent fan of the mountain! But even in this situation, you can resort to a compromise that will bring peace to the couple: either you can divide the holiday in two (four days in the mountains, four days at sea), or you can alternate the years: one year at sea, one year in the mountains. But no cheating!

There is no perfect couple from the beginning, no two people with perfectly compatible personalities. They will influence each other over time and reach a stage where they are truly compatible, but this after a long period of adaptation and compromise.

It will be hard at first, maybe you will think if it is worth making so many compromises, but it is something that every couple goes through and if you love each other, then the answer is: yes, it is worth it! Everything will be resolved in the end, as long as you are somewhat compatible and do not have opposite personalities and preferences.

Opposites can be attracted, but in a long-term relationship they pull out their white hair! For example, an ecologist marine biologist should make too many compromises in a relationship with a fashion designer who loves furs!