Breaking The Awkwardness

“This might make for an awkward situation. I have a talent for awkward situations.”

― Peter Davis

Awkward. The 7-letter word which according to the Dictionary states, "causing or feeling uneasy embarrassment or inconvenience" or "causing difficulty; hard to do or deal with".

For now it doesn't matter how the dictionary would define it or the number of letters that are in it, as all these are just random but common truths that might not give you any sort of benefit but rather just adds up to your basic knowledge.

There are certain situations that everyone faces in their life at least once and to be honest with you, awkwardness seems to top it all. And if you are 100% sure that no awkward situation has ever happened to you or you've never felt anything awkward, I would say "congratulations, you should really consider yourself to be lucky ", because not everyone is lucky enough and trust me when I say this, I am on the awkward side, because I've felt awkwardness and it could have been because of anxiety, not socializing, it could have been anything but for now, I want you to accompany me while reading this and let us try to deal with awkwardness or maybe awkward situations.

Causes of Awkwardness.

As you've read before, awkwardness can happen due to literally anything in some it seems to have been pre-built in them but for some others it just occurs during their lives and the major reasons or ways how awkwardness can come up in your conversations could be:

1.Staring: Staring is a prolonged gaze or fixed look and is one of the most common reason that makes others feel "awkward", I am not sure of how or what's the science behind that is but the more people stare, more will be the awkward situation and it is better if we consider it our brain's action or response.

2.Leaving a high-five unfinished: No joke, but this might be considered one of the worst reasons that can cause awkwardness among anyone. It could really mess up someone's day and can cause them to be in a bad mood.

3.Not being socially active: Now this might be the least considerate one as there are many people out there that don't really want to socialize with others, people try to spend more time with themselves ( An Introvert : a shy, reticent person).Spending time with oneself is good, but it turns bad when it becomes a habit. Being socially active might not necessarily mean that you have to be active across different social media platforms, but if you use that platform for a good purpose, maybe catching up to your old friends, meeting new people, starting your creativity page... The list could go on.

4.Dressing style/dressing sense: Well, you've read it right, This could seem unwanted in this list but trust me when I say this, people often tend to lose confidence or faith in themselves, once they are not sure about their clothing. Maybe you could say this falls under the category of insecurity or being too self conscious of what others would think.

5.Unwanted silence: Silence at most times could be the major reason for awkwardness, it could be caused anytime when people don't feel like talking or it could be because you have trouble starting up a conversation or once your brain has hit a wall and has no more subjects to talk about.

6.This list could literally go on forever just to write down the causes of awkwardness as there are countless, infinite ways of how awkwardness or awkward situations could occur, now here are some more of the ones that I thought could be the reason for awkwardness:

• Mispronouncing or misremembering names.
• Trying to fill up a conversation with words like: "hmm", "uhm".
• Being nervous in front of others.

Okay. I think it is better to stop here about the causes and yes, I know I missed out some of the important ones but as I said above, the list could go on but rather than explaining how awkwardness is created, it is better to know how to break out of it.

Breaking the awkwardness.

An awkward situation can happen without your permission or choice, it could even happen while you are in a conversation and left with no more topics to talk about to a new friend or maybe a stranger and before you know it you are in an awkward situation or to be more precise you are in an awkward silence.

An awkward silence can be a strange situation to be in, you start panicking as you think it might be your fault that there exists this silence, but try to remember this, during this awkward silence both you and the person you are talking to are facing the same situation which means if you feel panic, it is likely that that the other person might be as well or if you feel this silence is caused as you have nothing else coming to your mind, the same situation is happening with the other person as well.

Breaking out of an awkward silence might seem kind of difficult because your brain might not be able to think or bring out words or sentences, but later during your shower or before going to sleep your brain gives you the best sentences that you could have said at that time(it's crazy and amazing at the same time, isn't? ).

Here are some tips that might help you out of an awkward silence or perhaps preventing it from happening, now what you need to keep in mind is that these tips are generalized and might be helpful to you in some way or other but at the same time you also need to keep in mind that you have to find your own way of speaking and interacting with others in order to prevent that silence.

1.Ask questions which do not give a yes or no for an answer or to be precise ask open-ended questions: Open-ended questions prevents the person talking to you, give a yes or no for an answer and on asking an open ended question could create a positive sense about you in their mind; so their might brain see you as someone with an interesting personality.

2.Be a good listener: It is crucial in a conversation that you try being a good listener. Being a good listener can be difficult as it requires patience and people often look for someone who is a good listener as it helps share their feelings and try not to interrupt them. Also make sure that you don't stay being a listener for too long.

3.Know when to end a conversation: Conversations can not last forever especially when you feel like your brain just hit a wall and no new topics seems to be popping up onto your head, so instead of preserving the awkward silence, it is better to end the conversation.

4.Try to bring up all sorts of things that you think might interest them: If you feel like talking about the new movie you just watched and you just loved it, ask them about it, whether they have seen it or did they like it? If they have then you've got something to talk about but if they haven't don't worry ask them about how they spent their week?

5.It's okay to talk about topics that you've already talked about: If you've just remembered something related to the topic that you've just talked about, bring it up before the silence arrives, allowing you to have more of that conversation.

6.Less Texting and a bit more talking: Almost 75% of users prefer texting over real time talking, it might seem weird but it is true. We seem to have lots of topics to talk about while texting but when it comes to actual conversations we tend to have some sort of forgetfulness. So a bit more of actual talking rather than preferring texting.

7.It does not stop here: Now this list could go on and on, there are several tips mentioned here that might help make your conversations better and if you don't feel like these are helping you, that's okay. All you need to do is have an amazing confidence, a great and humble attitude and most importantly be a good listener.

Creator's Note:

Hey. Thank You for reading and if you found any of these helpful to you, leave a like and if you feel like sharing it with others, share this so this helps others as well.

Have any Suggestions or want to reach out and say hi, You can DM me on twitter.com , I will try to get back to you as soon as I can.

Once again, Thank You and I hope you have an amazing conversation.

-AV AnyVays